Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 (edited) Well, this story is not really about dating, but I really want to understand this thing. So, if anyone has any clue, I'll be happy to read his or her opinion. 6 months ago I decided to join a gym nearby, so I went there and they called some guy who works there to show me around. He is handsome and acts like a gentleman...He showed me around and he apologized because he was limping and said he had an injury while playing football... When I registered, he took my general information, and then he saw my address and was surprised because he lives in the same building. His office is on the first floor and the gym is so large, so we don't even see each other. A month later, the gym made a mistake charging me a fee for some mistake I didn't do. So, I decided to talk to this guy, since he was the one who helped me to enroll. I explained to him what what happened was a mistake, he was so nice to help me and he called someone who work in the financial department and they fixed the problem Like I said, we don't see each other, when I see him sometimes, I smile and say hello, he does the same! I left the gym for a month since I had a knee syndrome....Because of my injury, I had to do some exercises on a special machine which is located on the second floor near a room where it's only for personal trainers and the gym's staff, but the second floor is large and you can do any exercise there. So, the other day I saw him, he went to that room, he saw me and said hello from far and I did the same, but the second day, he came to the same room and typically I would smile and say hello, he said hi and went inside that room....The inside of the room is visible to anyone because its wall made of glass. Minutes after that, I saw other guys who work at the gym and were inside that room looking at me and smiling...I said to myself,"What the hell, like why they are smiling, it couldn't be like he said something to them!!!!!!!!!" So, I decided, OK maybe I shouldn't say hello to him, if I see him next time, I'll just ignore him...And yesterday I was talking with my friend at the gym and laughing, and he pass by and he saw me, but I pretended he wasn't there. Today, after I finished working out, on my way to return the dumbbells, I run into him. He saw me, he looked surprised! He seemed like he wanted to say hi, but he just gave a curt smile and turned, I said hi, but he never replied! I felt bad again, like I wasn't even near that stupid room! Why should I run into him like that! Now, it's maybe a long boring story to you, but it's really annoying me...like why he is acting as if something wrong here. I mean I say hi to anyone who works at the gym. It's just a polite gesture. Why I'm getting the feeling that I did something wrong ...I feel as if he thinks I like him, and he is acting weird because of that which is making me upset...Well, he is handsome like I said, but I'm really not looking for anything right now, just focusing on my studying and not interested! He looks like he is 30 or something ....I thought guys should be mature enough at that age! I'm not that annoying like I say hi in a loud voice and carrying my smiley face all over the place, I don't do that. Most of the time I'm silent and minding my own business, so I just don't get it! I think I'll stop saying hi to people who work at the gym, maybe people think hi=flirting :bunny::bunny: Edited April 4, 2013 by Noproblem
Author Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 Listen honey, when there's two or more guys in one room we become pigs. I don't understand why but that's just the way it is. It has nothing to do with anything you girls do or don't do, its just our nature. It's like we affirm our manliness and heterosexuality buy gawking at any attractive women and saying crude things to each other. You're not exactly butt ugly so I assume they were laughing because they were making sexual comments and they knew you couldn't hear them. Dont read too much into it. Trust me, guys are not deep enough to have much underlying meaning to the idiot things we do. Im not always proud to be part of the male human species Wow, interesting and eyes opening comment, thank you ......
Djz05 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I have to agree, men are pigs when we are all alone together. It's when we are out of our "bros" that you get a glimpse of what a guy can be. I know if my friends are around I'd be checking out those cute girls on the next table. Rude remarks might or might not be said, and if any are all kept amongst us. You wouldnt catch us talking about that last scene where ryan gosling finally gets home in the notebook, even though we are sure that we have watched it at some point. Thats just how most guys are. 1
Author Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 I have to agree, men are pigs when we are all alone together. It's when we are out of our "bros" that you get a glimpse of what a guy can be. I know if my friends are around I'd be checking out those cute girls on the next table. Rude remarks might or might not be said, and if any are all kept amongst us. You wouldnt catch us talking about that last scene where ryan gosling finally gets home in the notebook, even though we are sure that we have watched it at some point. Thats just how most guys are. Yeah, I guess I overreacted! But I think it's better not to say hi to him anyway ....Just a curt smile if we run into each other, hope we won't
Djz05 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Pfft speak for yourself. My mancard is intact bro. Haha as long as its all stamped and notarized
Author Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 And many guys have seen Twilight and actually liked it But they just pretend they didn't 1
CC12 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Which part of this are you upset by? Are you upset that he's being awkward now? Or that his coworkers were looking at you funny? Or you think your actions were interpreted as flirting when you were simply being cordial? Something else? They're all legitimate reasons, I'm just asking for clarification before I give my opinion. 1
Author Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 Which part of this are you upset by? Are you upset that he's being awkward now? Or that his coworkers were looking at you funny? Or you think your actions were interpreted as flirting when you were simply being cordial? Something else? They're all legitimate reasons, I'm just asking for clarification before I give my opinion. All three reasons, but mainly about the fact my simple "hi" was interpreted as "I like you, yaaay"
CC12 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 All three reasons, but mainly about the fact my simple "hi" was interpreted as "I like you, yaaay" Unfortunately, there are always going to be people who interpret basic kindness as something more. These people are typically lacking something in their life, whether it be basic social skills or they're just so desperate for something that they latch onto anything. Doesn't mean you should stop being kind in general, though. If people misinterpret "hi" as anything else, that's on them, not you. Honestly, what probably happened was that he told his coworkers that he was interested in you, or he alerted them that there was a cute girl in Room 4, and they all went to go get a look at you. I guess some would interpret this as "haha that's just what guys do" but I think it was kind of ****ty behavior. It made you uncomfortable. And if it happens again that a group of male (or female) gym employees are congregating in a room and looking at you and smiling, you should put in a complaint to management. That should not be happening. It's inappropriate and unprofessional. 1
Author Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 Unfortunately, there are always going to be people who interpret basic kindness as something more. These people are typically lacking something in their life, whether it be basic social skills or they're just so desperate for something that they latch onto anything. Doesn't mean you should stop being kind in general, though. If people misinterpret "hi" as anything else, that's on them, not you. Honestly, what probably happened was that he told his coworkers that he was interested in you, or he alerted them that there was a cute girl in Room 4, and they all went to go get a look at you. I guess some would interpret this as "haha that's just what guys do" but I think it was kind of ****ty behavior. It made you uncomfortable. And if it happens again that a group of male (or female) gym employees are congregating in a room and looking at you and smiling, you should put in a complaint to management. That should not be happening. It's inappropriate and unprofessional. Yes you are right, I shouldn't stop being polite just because some people can't understand a friendly gesture, but however....I should be careful in the future. Well, about complaint. This guy actually works in the management Anyway, I hope this won't happen again, I'll try to avoid him in the future, I don't know how...It seems like I'm seeing him more often nowadays, but let's hope for the best Thank you so much for your reply
Author Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 I like a lot of romantic movies but Twilight? That movie was so boring as crap! I am just an average girl, who think my life is miserable, one hot guy wants me, another hot guy wants me, now that I have two hot guys fighting over me who I'd be lucky to get (a girls dream, more so for an average girl)... Now I'm going to be more upset and more miserable about my life and how bad I hate it. I was hoping for the girls sake in that movie, her life would end since she was so miserable. I can't imagine a sane guy wanting to fight over and be married to that depressing average looking chick for next 50 years? I didn't like her personality at all!
Author Noproblem Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 I like a lot of romantic movies but Twilight? That movie was so boring as crap! I am just an average girl, who think my life is miserable, one hot guy wants me, another hot guy wants me, now that I have two hot guys fighting over me who I'd be lucky to get (a girls dream, more so for an average girl)... Now I'm going to be more upset and more miserable about my life and how bad I hate it. I was hoping for the girls sake in that movie, her life would end since she was so miserable. I can't imagine a sane guy wanting to fight over and be married to that depressing average looking chick for next 50 years? I liked the movie it's not that boring, but it wouldn't be that good if it weren't for Edward and the werewolf ....
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