Jenny89 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Hi, I'm a 24 female college grad. I have a good job, tall slender built. I've worked as a bartender so I know I'm easy on the eyes. I have had 4 "serious" relationships per the past 6 yrs, all of which last between 4-8 months. My question I what makes me so unlovable that I constantly turn off / send these guys running away from me!??? I know I have a pattern of trying to buy men's affection or use my money to treat guys to a good time ( dinner, drinks at a bar, movies) and go out of my way to show my guy that I do care about them. All is absolutely lovely then bam like clockwork, I notice a change on their attitude , the way they talk, look and act towards me . Their kiss , touch an sex changes and before I know it, I've lost them... But what hurts me the most is that in everyone of my past relationships each guy will act and say that they love me, then as the relationship dies down, they say "well I thought I loved you, but I really don't", and that just CRUSHES me!!! How can 4 different men from walks of life all say/experience the same thing with me!?? What an I do or change to stop this pattern!! I know I probably should "use my money" to show some one I like tem but hey I figure it's 2013, I'm independent and I'm ok with picking up the bill every now and then. PLEASE HELP ME, I know I have everything going for me but how can a intelligent decent looking woman continue to be so unlucky in love???!
mtnbiker3000 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Probably nothing wrong at all... Just coincidence, maybe?? Doesn't sound like anything is too terrible to me. Good thing is your young. So keep trying. Are you meeting these guys at the bar? Sometimes they are simply players. Maybe just pace yourself and don't get too serious until after a while. A long while (12 or 18 months), then you've got as much chance as the rest of us :laugh:Just go with the flow. I dunno...
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