shadow15 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I have no intentions of replying; because 1. she didnt say anything thats important, and 2. i dont want to reply. I just think its a little odd and strange and ill explain why, but i just wanna talk about it and get it out of my head. My ex girlfriend txted me this. "congrats on your new jeep! i just saw it on instagram, (her friend) was tellin me how nice it was." Nothing major i know, but the main reasons why i think its weird, is why would she txt me that? What was the point, i didnt reply the last time you txted me asking for any beach pictures of you, so why would i reply this time. And her friend doesnt even follow me on instagram nor have i been in their neck of woods so how would she know. Another thing is i posted that picture on Easter and today is Wednesday. If her friend showed her that, why wouldnt she show her on Sunday and why wouldnt she txt me then instead of 4 days later. My ex still follows me on instagram, and her friend does follow me on twitter, which i did post a picture of the car on there so maybe thats where her friend seen it. Who knows i just wanted to post about it and get it off my mind. I have actually been feeling a whole lot better about myself as a whole lately; I dont think about the ex barely anymore. Im feeling happy again. I dont even come to this website that much anymore to read about other peoples stories because i related to them and i wanted to move on and forget about it. Coming here was very helpful for me at the beginning and everyone i talked to was such a great help, but i remember reading someone saying "we can tell you all you want to hear and talk to you about your situation, but only you can make yourself happy again." So thats what i did, i decided to find me again and be ok with being alone again, so far its working.
TheFriend Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 She was probably snooping on her own. If you are finally feeling strong keep it up buddy! Hold strong and don't give in. Especially to a text like that. If it was something significant like "I miss you" or blah blah blah then you could look into it. But yup leave this one be. 1
Compromize Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 How long have you been broken up? How long NC? It sounds like you are in a good place now, I'm sure just getting the text messed with your head a little. I know I am not looking forward to another breadcrumb or hurtful text from my ex. We should probably block them but I almost feel getting a text and not choosing to respond to it would give me more "power" over her receding control of me. I know how you feel about the decision to not come back here. I am not too far into NC and getting over my ex but the rose colored glasses are finally off and I am seeing her and our relationship for what it actually was. Severely and fundamentally broken in many many ways. And LS helped me immensely when I didn't have anyone else to turn to. I think we owe it to others going through what we have, especially the first couple weeks of touch and go, whatever advice and encouragement we can. 1
Author shadow15 Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 How long have you been broken up? How long NC? It sounds like you are in a good place now, I'm sure just getting the text messed with your head a little. I know I am not looking forward to another breadcrumb or hurtful text from my ex. We should probably block them but I almost feel getting a text and not choosing to respond to it would give me more "power" over her receding control of me. I know how you feel about the decision to not come back here. I am not too far into NC and getting over my ex but the rose colored glasses are finally off and I am seeing her and our relationship for what it actually was. Severely and fundamentally broken in many many ways. And LS helped me immensely when I didn't have anyone else to turn to. I think we owe it to others going through what we have, especially the first couple weeks of touch and go, whatever advice and encouragement we can. She broke up with me the day after our 2 year anniversary which was back in september and its april now, so just passed 6 months of being broke up. Full nc without speaking to her started on new years, sometimes i still see pics and statuses of hers from her friends, which bothered at me first, but now i can look past it and it just makes me wonder how blind i was to those rose colored glasses you speak of haha. I havent seen her since i dont know right before Christmas maybe. I agree with you being broke up can really show you the flaws of your relationship, mine did. And loveshack was my lifesaver during that rough time, cause even though it was like 3 months after the break, i was still hurting and i knew my friends was tired of hearing the same old junk, so loveshack was my way of venting, and i appreciate it highly. I've looked at my past threads, reading through them and it just made me wonder wow, that was a really tough time. Sometimes it can still get to you, but i have learned to just swallow it. I feel like i have grown and became more dependent for myself ever since this. Im still me, but i know i have matured so much since then. Also what helped me get through it was listening to David Choi's music, i just felt like i could relate to every song, and some songs just made me happy and want to be happy again. I highly recommend his music and not a lot of people know about him,definitely check him out. Heres a link to one of his albums, he also has other good songs not on this as well. Watching this short film studio called Wong Fu Productions also helped me grieve, they have a lot of relationship videos, and just some funny ones that are in my opinion very enjoyable and again relatable, some ones to check out are: Strangers Again, When it Counts, The Last, Away We Happened, Just a Nice Guy, When it Counts, and a bunch more. Take the time to watch some, they are very enjoyable. Link to some of their videos Link directly to When it Counts
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