Has a person of interest's friends circle prevented you from getting with them?

[Pompeii]

Have you not gotten together with someone you're interested in because their friend circle either doesn't like you or has made conscious efforts to prevent you from doing so? I'd like to hear some stories.

[Lani]

It makes things a little difficult.

My ex's best mate and I didn't like eachother, at all. But, for the sake of the relationships on both ends, we kept it civil. I just used to let them have their time to hangout, and make that time when I did things with other people I wanted to see alone.

It's something you can get around, but it's always going to be there.

 

Unless they're in the circus, and their life is their weirdo bearded lady friends, then I don't think it should be a deal breaker.

[mortensorchid]

Oh do I have stories about that!

 

Years ago, I got a new bf. I was introducing him to my circles of friends and got some crazy reactions. I brought him to a party for a now former friend of mine, where we stayed for a bit then left. We kept up through writing emails and whatnot, then one day she wrote back a vicious, scathing hot response how she hated me, hated my bf, hated that I did / said this and that, etc. Her final words were "If this is you now, I liked you better before he showed up!" Needless to say, that was the last time we ever spoke. It's now 10-12 years later, she married her longtime bf (because she got pregnant), and is now divorced.

 

The same bf from the above story, as well as the next serious one, however, did not react well to my friends over time. Admitedly, we were a bunch of fast living, rock and roll, slightly trashy party people (not so much anymore, as we are all older and our priorities have shifted - some have moved away, some married, some divorced, etc.). The first bf said that he got tired of my friends and started bowing out of invites to parties and things. Then he threw a tantrum when he was left behind, even though he said he didn't want to go. Unfortunately for him, he was rather immature for his age and had not learned a lot of things which I think most of us have since about relationship (romantic, friendship, etc.) : which is TOLERANCE. THe next serious bf, quite unfortunately, was a real case. He did not like any of my friends, he made that clear from the beginning. However, that was how he is/was, he just doesn't like people in general and lives a very anti-social life to this day. He rebounded, married another woman not even a year later, and has since divorced. He's REALLY alone now.

 

Then once, I had a semi-serious person in my ring and he was psychotic who made a threat on a voice mail to me. I used reverse psychology on him, I invited him to a party at my house - called all my dudes to come over so I was the only woman there. THe next day he called and broke it off because he felt uncomfortable.

 

Positives and negatives to friend circles. Gotta love em.