SuperGeek Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Has anyone gone to speed dating meetups or the now famous 8 minute dating workshops? I haven't done this yet, but now I'm now getting invites from people on meetup to go. Any experiences people would like to share? Thanks! SuperGeek
somedude81 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Has anyone gone to speed dating meetups or the now famous 8 minute dating workshops? I haven't done this yet, but now I'm now getting invites from people on meetup to go. Any experiences people would like to share? Thanks! SuperGeek I've done it once. The way it works, both people have to say the other person is match for them to receive contact information. If a woman thinks you're a match and you don't think so, you'd never know it. So my suggestion, write down every woman as a match. That way you'd at least know what women are interested in you. When I did my speed dating, I only wrote down the girls I was interested as matches, and in the end I had zero matches.
pbjbear Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 If a woman thinks you're a match and you don't think so, you'd never know it. So my suggestion, write down every woman as a match. That way you'd at least know what women are interested in you. Why? Are you that desperate for dates you will go on dates with people you dont like? Why?
somedude81 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Why? Are you that desperate for dates you will go on dates with people you dont like? Why? Reread the last sentence of my post.
Author SuperGeek Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 Hahha. That is some really good info. Thanks for sharing that. I think what I might do is just pick 6 out of 8 instead of them all. That way I don't set off any red flags :D I've done it once. The way it works, both people have to say the other person is match for them to receive contact information. If a woman thinks you're a match and you don't think so, you'd never know it. So my suggestion, write down every woman as a match. That way you'd at least know what women are interested in you. When I did my speed dating, I only wrote down the girls I was interested as matches, and in the end I had zero matches. 1
pbjbear Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Reread the last sentence of my post. Id rather have zero matches than 2 matches of people I dont actually like. 1
somedude81 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Id rather have zero matches than 2 matches of people I dont actually like. Frankly, how do you even know you don't like them if you've only talked for two minutes? It was also a huge blow to my ego to think that nobody liked me.
Author SuperGeek Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 Yeah two minutes is barely enough to do anything. Though I still think that girls can tell pretty fast if they even want to bother with a guy or not. Some women have told me (and I'm not generalizing) that they know whether or not they like a guy after talking with them for 1-2 minutes. I suppose that is what speed dating is based on? Sadly I wish I had more than two minutes. It's hard to size someone up in only two minutes.... :/
El Brujo Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Save your money. Go to meetups instead, where you can talk to the women for as long as you want. 1
pbjbear Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Frankly, how do you even know you don't like them if you've only talked for two minutes? It was also a huge blow to my ego to think that nobody liked me. Ok I get the first part but somedude, why is everything about your ego it seems? I swear to the big man upstairs, you are stronger than you think you are
El Brujo Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Ok I get the first part but somedude, why is everything about your ego it seems? I swear to the big man upstairs, you are stronger than you think you are I think the dude is actually a decent guy who's just pretending to be selfish (and not doing a good job of it).
Author SuperGeek Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 Yeah this actually IS a meetup in which speed dating will occur. I guess after the speed dating is over, people can stay and talk or whatever. I am not sure if I'm going to go now. The women get in free to the speed dating event while the men have to pay $40 a seat. WTF? I am not a cheap person, but these types of events usually don't result in some kind of date for me, so it's like lighting $40 on fire. Save your money. Go to meetups instead, where you can talk to the women for as long as you want.
MsSmurf Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Has anyone gone to speed dating meetups or the now famous 8 minute dating workshops? I haven't done this yet, but now I'm now getting invites from people on meetup to go. Any experiences people would like to share? Thanks! SuperGeek I went once and was surprised. It was not the awful sea of gross guys I expected. They were all working professionals or nearly college graduates, dressed appropriately, and polite. I went when I was 29 and the event was for men and women ages 21-40. That big of an age range didn't work for me because I was looking for a serious relationship so someone older would have been preferred. It was kind of a waste of time to be talking to a 21 yo who was nice, but still had no idea what he wanted. There were 2 guys that I was really really interested in and only one of them also picked me as a match. So I emailed him to say hello and just get a dialogue going. He replied saying he was going out of the country and wasn't looking for a relationship. Not sure why he bothered going then. Now at 31 and searching for a long term relationship with the potential for marriage I'd try speed dating again. This time I'd only go to an event for men and women 30-50 and hope there were more 40somethings to choose from.
pyramid Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I went once. It was 35-55 and I'm at the low end of the age range. Most of the guys were way too old, but most were nice (always a few odd ducks in any crowd). There was one mutual match (out of about 15) and he actually asked for my number before we even left (we could hang out afterward). We've been dating for a few weeks. He is a far better catch than anyone I've met in a year of online dating.
Mr_Flay Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Would you choose a new shirt by speed shopping? How about a new car? A puppy? No? Well then why hell would you use such a dumb method to cjoose a human being? Because a mutual match doesn't mean instant marriage. It's a first contact, then you can go on a date and see if you're compatible. If you're not, you part ways. You don't sign any contracts nor choose anything significant in speed dating.
clia Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I've done it a few times -- I thought it was a lot of fun! The time goes by really fast. It's worth a try if you've never done it.
SoonMyFriend Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I've done it once and won't do it again. I am 28, and did a 25 - 35 night. It seemed all of the men were either 25 OR 35, no middle ground. It was 5 minutes per person, and there were 25 "dates" The Good -Did chat with one guy who I did mark as a "yes". He was the most attractive, and the brief amount we chatted we had things in common. The Bad -A lot of boring, and dull conversations that I often found hard to keep moving. Sometimes 5 minutes can drag on. My advice: have questions ready to ask people, outside of the normal "so what do you do for a living?" or "have you ever done this before?!?!" That way if things get dull, you can have a backup. The Ugly -Two guys vented at me in a really odd way. One guy yelled at me saying women were too judgmental at these events and that at this point in his life he'd even be happy with a pity date. This was even before we officially shook hands. Another guy complained to me about online dating and how all women online are skanks just looking for ONS. So keep your rage at home... Honestly... my advice is to keep expectations low and just have fun. I didn't go in thinking I'd meet my soulmate, I went in thinking it would be a gong show and that at worst I would have some fun stories. I only selected "yes" to one person, and he didn't return the favour and I didn't feel like my world ended. So just have fun and keep it light!
IT Geek Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 A friend tried to get me to go to one of these, but I wouldn't want to subject a woman to having to spend 5 minutes with me. LOL Plus, it would be a waste of money since I'd get zero "Yes" checks.
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