TheFriend Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 What age did you feel like you knew what you really wanted out of a man/ relationship? I know everyone is different but I am just trying to get a general idea if there is such a thing as too young to date. I am 27 last gf was 22. I'm not a sicko and wont date under 21, but i am just wondering if 21/ 22 is setting myself up for heartbreak. Thanks:)
OwlSoul Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Strange question. Depends on how she is interested in you and how much are you interested in her. The one who controls more is less likely to be heartbroken.
misswillow Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I think I was about 26. I definitely had GIGS at about 24 when I broke up with my 4 yr boyfriend to see what else was out there. What I learned was that he was really a great guy and I made a mistake, but by then it was too late. So I think it can be a risk dating someone who does not have a lot of dating experience and won't necessarily know what a good relationship is. But, there may be younger girls who are more mature than I was at that age.
siankat Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 about 28 i knew i was ready to meet the one. before then i knew i wouldve messed it up
CarrieT Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 but i am just wondering if 21/ 22 is setting myself up for heartbreak. Yep - I think you are... What age did you feel like you knew what you really wanted out of a man/ relationship? I was in my 30s. Until then, it was all about GIGS.
TaraMaiden Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I'm not sure I have a concrete answer to that one.... I guess every guy is different, and different people hold different attractions. I don't necessarily go for a type.... I do know what I don't want. So I avoid any signs of that.... Providing there is no evidence of the 'negative' list, I'm pretty much open to persuasion.... 1
todreaminblue Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 When i was younger i was more dreamy if thats possible......i tended to overlook flaws that should have said no way, no go, alert alert....now i know, like tara said what i cant handle and dont want.......and that is an unfaithful guy....with that infidelity comes a whole slew of characteristics i dont want.......with faithfulness comes a whole heap of ideals and values i do want in guy......i would walk away this time as soon as a guy was unfaithful.....ok ...maybe one chance if the guy was sincere..then again it woudl bring a lot of ghosts back for me....i really do need fidelity this time....i knew from early twenties what a relationship was.....i just didnt get there.....deb
iouaname Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I do know what I don't want. This, basically! After my recent break-up, I know now what I won't stand for in a relationship. The thing about 'wants' is that someone might come into your life and bring something that you never even knew you wanted before!
Author TheFriend Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 I was def not ready for marriage at 21/22. I wouldn't marry a girl that young it would have to be a few years for sure of commitment before i even thought about engagement. I know girls supposedly mature faster but just wanted some input. Ughhh I'm so terrified to get into another relationship now! I hope this feeling goes away!!!
Harlequin_Dog Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I think this question is almost impossible to answer...it honestly depends on the person. Everyone goes through life differently. I can say I had a solid list of my needs by age 18- but that was more because I had to 'grow up fast' and ended up essentially living as an adult way before I should have.
Recommended Posts