Aveenolover Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I'm really confused about this guy i've been..."talking"? to. We met online and we've been talking for like 3 months now. He was acting really into me in jan. when we first started talking then...he got a DUI-_-. When that happened he started distancing himself and i'd hardly hear from him. he'd still talk to me every couple days but not anywhere near as sweet as he had been. he stopped flirting with me and stuff. We were going to meet in feb. but with the DUI and stuff that had to be canceled (he lives like 5 hours away). I started to write him off, thinking he just wasnt interested blah blah..but it kind of sucked because i started developing a crush on him. After awhile like, since he would continue talking to me every now and again, it was hard for me to really get over him so i decided i'd just unfriend him off FB and delete him out of my phone. Like a day later he noticed and started asking me why i deleted him and stuff and i didnt want to delve deep into what i was feeling because i felt like obviously he didnt feel the same so i just told him he hurt my feelings and stuff. well...then he really wanted me to add him back and he started talking to me a CRAPTON. like all day. Would text me in the morning, "goodmorning sweetie" and would say goodnight to me, and would tell me how beautiful i am and decided he really really wanted to come see me and planned on coming down on the 6th of april and staying for a few days. he kept telling me how he really really liked me and that he really liked my personality and i dunno it was really sweet. so while he was talking to me so much i askd him if he had gotten bored of me or something before and he said, "No i just had a lot of stuff going on. ....and youre 5 hours away" i was like, so? and he said,"well if i get there and i realyl really like you its going to be really hard" and then hes like, "i mean, i cant see you just anytime i want, and that sucks. I'm not saying it wont work its just going to be hard" so he sounds like he really doesnt want a long distance relationship. i get that. but then he made comments like, "youre prolly gonna see me that weekend then never talk to me again" like...he wants to continue seeing me? Its confusing! I dont get it. But Yeahh. well he continued being sweet... then...2 weeks later. bam. disappeared again. hardly talked to me. So i was like, do you even like me?? and hes like Yes i do. and im like you dont act like it. to which he replied, "well i do. but you know most of the crap that is going on right now. and you live 5.5 hours away from me which doesnt help in this situation" then he was quiet for awhile. like a week. hardly talked to me so i asked him if i made him mad or something and he said, "No. My license is suspended until June. But i dont think ill be able to drive there until then. But I do like you. Things are just tough right now cause of the DUI *****." Which, btw. i didnt even ask if he liked me, just if he was mad at me. We talked a decent amount that night and then in the morning i was like EH ill text him and i decided...i guess i could drive to him? I realyl want to see him and even though i'm scared to drive, im really wanted to just see him so i'll do it. so i told him. and he was like, "i thought u didnt want to drive here" and i explained i just really wanted to see him and he didnt respond. a week later he says, "" i dont like anything that is going on. i told you 2 months ago to come here and you pretty much said come see me or nothing. now you say you MAY drive here. things just arent that great right now and i dont want you to sit around with your finger up your butt" and i was like fine i wont see you then. and he said, "I dont want you to quit talking to me" SO WTF lol. i dont knowwwwwwwwww. and hes BARELY been talking to me since. and when i DO talk to him, he hardly responds. I dont get him. i dont. but his hot and cold has me so perplexed and it has me thinking about him so stupidly much. GAH. its driving me insane.
TaraMaiden Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Drama. you either love it, or you hate it. You seem to love it. me? I hate it. Drop off his radar. it seems, like, you two can't agree on anything nice. Plus the time/distance is prohibitive. you mean to tell me with all the guys you must encounter in a month, you can't find anyone closer, with a clean license, who could see you at the drop of a hat? You want to pin your hopes on an uncertain with a DUI who you may not see until June?? REALLY - ??? Please - gurl, like, ditch this guy.... You have better things to do with your time, right?
SuperGeek Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Not to mention, just 'talking' to someone over the phone who is LD is a waste. Even three months is a waste in my view. You could be going to meetups or dating guys local to you and you'd have weeded out 20 other guys by now since you wouldn't have spent 3 months on just one of them. Just sayin'. SuperGeek
Author Aveenolover Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 haha i knowwwwwwwwwww. Like it's stupid and i don't know why i'm so hung up on this guy. i can get any guy i want...pretty much but the thing is i hardly ever want any guys. Also, tara, youre my loveshack hero. I just thought you should know that. lol. I dont even like people that drink. but he has this like...freaking, super deep, hilljack accent that i for some reason adore? i dont even like hilljacks! Its just my mind being crazy i think. lol. and its me just wanting to figure him out. I dont get him and it drives me absolutely insane.
TaraMaiden Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I'm your loveshack hero....? No way....! Seriously - ?! Hah....!! In that case.... What Would I do....?
Author Aveenolover Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 You're so much stronger than me, though lol. I can't do what you'd do!
TaraMaiden Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Yes, you can. Think about where this is going.... That's hard, right? You know why it's hard? because it's actually not going anywhere. The only time he really upped the ante was when he realised he didn't have your attention. It's a ridiculous 'relationship' to nurture, really.... and - seriously? because of his voice? Oh boy.... Honey, you really need a foot implant in your butt, doncha....?! Don't try to get into his head. it's never going to work. it doesn't even work with couples who have been together a long time, so this one's a no-brainer straight away! The head you really need to sort out, is your own. What the hell - apart from the accent - keeps you hanging onto this one? Desperation? Really - ask yourself wtf it is.....
Author Aveenolover Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 I've been trying to ask myself! Lol i really DONT KNOW its stupid. And i know it's not going anywhere! Its ridiculous! But yes, i do need a foot implanted deeply into my booty. lol. But only yours;) ! I'm trying to get over him. I just signed onto PoF to try to meet people around me and get my mind off him. Hopefully it will work...Its just overwhelming getting spammed with so many messages. We'll see, though. I just ...wish i knew this dude's intentions. I dont even know why desire to know them so badly but i do! But yes. I'm not going to talk to him anymore. I already deleted his number out of my phone.
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