xbabycakes Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Hello Six weeks ago my bf of three years split up with me when I started an argument and he said hes had enough of me causing him stress and wants me to leave for good. But i thought he would of come around and we would be joking about the silliness of it by now. But no, when we first split i done all the begging pleading stuff but he was stubborn and said he needed to be alone for a while, just a break (But more recently it is clear we are not on a 'break' we are in fact over). We still are friends and speak on text but I just desperately want him back & wish I could turn back time and not cause so many arguments even though the big ending one I feel he was in the wrong (He went to a girl who he nos i don't likes party but then denied it point blank but I found him in her facebook photos, busted!!) I went mental , not so much that he was there but how he lied and even swore on my life about it, and that hurt but I would have gotten over it by now so I wish I hadn't said anything and I wouldn't be feeling my heart being ripped out of my chest 24/7. I literally don't no what to do, I feel like nothing is worth doing unless I have him to come home to at the end of the day, he would be the one to comfort me when I was sad so now im sad about him who do I snuggle for comfort?! I re-run memory's all day and its killing me thinking that sooner or later hes going to find someone else. I literally feel like I cant live without him and I dream we get back together every night then wake up severely depressed help pls guys?
blindhope Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 One of the biggest mistakes people make after breakups (especially the dumpee) is the minimalize the bad and exaggerate the good. I've been/am there, and you fought and argued because it may not have been a healthy relationship. It may be able to be salvaged with work but both people need to be committed. You can't go and bring him back by being the only one to put the work in and make the sacrifices. It'll cause you more stress and pain and delay the inevitable. So I'd suggest you need to stop the texting and talking and start to work on yourself. Your obviously in pain and struggling, that's why most of us are here. You start calling the shots. Take control of your own situation and do right by you. If he's willing to work on it he won't give up and will eventually come back. But if he's not there is nothing you can alone to fix it for the long haul. But in the end only you will know what's best and who he really is. Plenty of people have given great advice and can be a big help on these boards but in the end it's you who knows your situation best. Just make sure your decisions are made with a clear mind and not a broken heart or fear of being alone. And that usually takes time. 1
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