news update on the girl i think likes me

[joel]

well as class ended i waited outside of class,i wanted to get a seat close to her but she came in at 1:23 and class starts at 1:30 and seats were already full, i wanted to sit next to her. so i could chit chat with leanne-the girl that glanced at me. i decided not to ask her out for ice cream or bubble tea as it is raining, maybe wednesday. not sure if she really likes me but she does smile and ask questions about me-like when i asked her how she did in english she said good and she asked me how i did and i said great. also i said if she walks or takes the bus to school and she said bus and i said whereabouts do u live and she said in n van and she asked where i live i said kits area. we do live quite far from each other.

 

i do kinda feel she likes me. i said i was good in english but was horrible in math-we also talked about what subjects we took in HS.

i just hope the ice cream or bubble tea thing doesn't end up-her thinking that i want a long term relationship with her as i am a newbie in dating and girls.

oh ya during the break was the time i asked her how she did in english class and she said good-then she went into washroom so we eneded the chit chat, as she came out i was sitting on the bench, but she did not come toward my direction to where i was sitting she went the opposite direction-was looking at posting on the board, then a guy started chit chatting with her-ah could that be her bf and she was smilling at him and talking to him too -he is taller than me but kinda fat and not really good looking-sorry to say that. i was kinda jealous.

[mighty bop]

Hey man I just have some questions for you:

 

1. How old are you?

2. What is bubble tea?

 

So fat boy was talking to your girl? You better make a move before it's too late.

 

Chris

[joel]

23 yr male-never dated or had a gf yea why-shy and quite guy all mylife

bubble tea -like a beverage-something like pop

 

Originally posted by mighty bop

Hey man I just have some questions for you:

 

1. How old are you?

2. What is bubble tea?

 

So fat boy was talking to your girl? You better make a move before it's too late.

 

Chris

[mighty bop]

Damn dude 23 years old never dated? What happened? You a definitely getting a late start. You need to start dating as many girls as possible. Just go right up to them, introduce yourself and then ask them out on a date. DO this at least twice daily. Start with the girl you like then move on if she says no.

 

Chris

[honey2005]

I was going to ask about the bubble tea too:p.

 

I agree with mighty bop, you should ask her before you lose your chance. If she is dating the other guy, the worst she can do is say no, and from your description of her she seems like a pretty sweet girl so I'm sure she wouldn't be rude or anything.

[joel]

as i said previously and if i didn't i just say is this: this girl leanne has been in 6 of 14 of my classes -4 in sept of 03, 1 in summer of 04, and 1 now in sept of 04-i believe and has seen her glacning or looking at me-when i look back at her she turn her face around- but i believe i also seen her held her look a little longer too.

 

well according to mens health,and other maxim,....and website that say how to now if a girl is interested -as one of em is the glacning look and that is what she did

 

all i am saying is if she likes me why don't she ask me out and start chit chattin with me-or as hittin on me. we both are quite and shy ppl in class. why do guys have to do all the work, we men have it hard in life-paying for dates and askin for em and also facing competion from other guys who are interested in the same girl.

 

not sure but maybe a chance or conwinsidenc-sorry spelling-but i remember one time after finishing a final exam in writing i was walking north -approx 4-5 blocks to catch another bus and then behind me was that girl that waas glancing at me- the thing was she took the 32 bus too but got off after 4 stops to the mall or maybe she just wanting to go clothes shopping. i contuined on the bus as i was going downtown. maybe she was following me and trying to be close to me so we could speak, this was in sept of 03. maybe right. but at the same time she did not speak to me-on the bus or at the bus stop.

[mighty bop]

No offense but you need to get a clue man. If you see a girl you like glancing back at you more than once you need to make a move ASAP. If you don't, fatboy or some other guy will scoop her up, buy her dinner and a movie, and then maybe get some action later that night, while you are at home kicking yourself for being so scared. Believe me I was there too man. I was shy in high school and college and never went up and talked to girls, I guess I had more of an "I really don't care that much" attitude, but it seems like you do care a lot.

 

all i am saying is if she likes me why don't she ask me out and start chit chattin with me-or as hittin on me. we both are quite and shy ppl in class. why do guys have to do all the work, we men have it hard in life-paying for dates and askin for em and also facing competion from other guys who are interested in the same girl

 

You gotta be kidding me. This will never happen uless the girl is desperate ot you have a lot of money or some other similar reason. And that's just the way it is. Guys have to do most of the hard stuff like going up to talk first, paying for dinner, etc. All the girls really have to do is sit there and look hot and maybe glance back at you a few times. So you should consider yourself lucky you even got that and go talk to her before it's too late. About your "coincidence". If it was you didn't do anything about it so it doesn't really matter. You need to stop being so shy if you want to get anywhere with girls. That's just how it is. Girls like a confident man.

 

Chris

[kellydontwanttasleep]

girls who are worth anything will lose intrest in weak pathetic losers quickly if they don't grow a set of balls.

[joel]

i am just assuming but i believe she lives at home same as me so the gettin action is of base. i have no car either and no friends or ppl to loan me one so it is off base.

 

 

Originally posted by mighty bop

No offense but you need to get a clue man. If you see a girl you like glancing back at you more than once you need to make a move ASAP. If you don't, fatboy or some other guy will scoop her up, buy her dinner and a movie, and then maybe get some action later that night, while you are at home kicking yourself for being so scared. Believe me I was there too man. I was shy in high school and college and never went up and talked to girls, I guess I had more of an "I really don't care that much" attitude, but it seems like you do care a lot.

 

 

 

You gotta be kidding me. This will never happen uless the girl is desperate ot you have a lot of money or some other similar reason. And that's just the way it is. Guys have to do most of the hard stuff like going up to talk first, paying for dinner, etc. All the girls really have to do is sit there and look hot and maybe glance back at you a few times. So you should consider yourself lucky you even got that and go talk to her before it's too late. About your "coincidence". If it was you didn't do anything about it so it doesn't really matter. You need to stop being so shy if you want to get anywhere with girls. That's just how it is. Girls like a confident man.

 

Chris

[mighty bop]

Hey joel,

Don't assume she lives at home just because you do. I doubt she does, but it's possible. Anyway, that's nothing really to have in common with a girl in college. You should probably get your shiznit together before you start messing with girls. Unless your intent is to just have one-night stands. You can get lucky and go back to the girls place to get some action. If that's all you two want. But if you are looking for a relationship with a girl at your age, you are probably gonna need your own place because girls also want a man that is independent that can provide for themselves without depending on their mommy and daddy.

 

It's pretty pathetic but I have a friend who has a girlfriend and they both lived at his parents house for awhile. They slept in the same bed too. It was so funny. Eventually they moved out and got their own place.

 

Even me right now. I live with my brother in a house. I wish I had my own place, so I still need to get my sh*t together.

 

In short, to get girls:

 

1. Start talking to them. They can't read your mind.

2. Get a car. (not necessary, but helps)

3. Get your own place. (again, not necessary, but really helps)

 

Anyways, I could go on and on but I wanna see what you have to say now.

 

Chris

[joel]

start talking to girls- doing that but slowly

my own place- need a job anbd a well paying one-i live in vancouver

own car- knew classmates who was 31 and still took the bus- bus system is pretty good in vancouver

 

 

Originally posted by mighty bop

Hey joel,

Don't assume she lives at home just because you do. I doubt she does, but it's possible. Anyway, that's nothing really to have in common with a girl in college. You should probably get your shiznit together before you start messing with girls. Unless your intent is to just have one-night stands. You can get lucky and go back to the girls place to get some action. If that's all you two want. But if you are looking for a relationship with a girl at your age, you are probably gonna need your own place because girls also want a man that is independent that can provide for themselves without depending on their mommy and daddy.

 

It's pretty pathetic but I have a friend who has a girlfriend and they both lived at his parents house for awhile. They slept in the same bed too. It was so funny. Eventually they moved out and got their own place.

 

Even me right now. I live with my brother in a house. I wish I had my own place, so I still need to get my sh*t together.

 

In short, to get girls:

 

1. Start talking to them. They can't read your mind.

2. Get a car. (not necessary, but helps)

3. Get your own place. (again, not necessary, but really helps)

 

Anyways, I could go on and on but I wanna see what you have to say now.

 

Chris

[mighty bop]

You can talk to girls and even develop a relationship with them even if you don't have your own place/car. Those aren't really the most important things.

 

I know some places you really don't need a car, (like New York City). I guess I really didn't know your situation. All you really have to do then is be more confident and start talking to girls

 

Chris

[joel]

ok today i just asked her for drinks-right after class in the hallways-and she said ah no "but maybe next time-i have a lot of homework" .

i will try again but if she continues one more NO i am over her. next one will be a study date and a bite to eat.

 

u now what it was kinda of embarassing. hope she doesn't gossip all over in class

[mighty bop]

Dude that's awesome. Good job! Study date and a bite to eat, that's a good one. If she does say no, she's not interested, although you should have been able to tell if she was interested or not when you asked her today. Could you tell?

 

Getting shot down IS embarassing. But that's just because you are not used to it. Trust me she won't gossip around class. Otherwise she will look like a stuck-up snob because she didn't go out for a drink with you. One more try with her if you want then on to someone else is what I say.....

 

Chris

[joel]

well how could i have tell if she was interested or not-she did say NO. she was all smiling and last monday i chit chatted with her she seemed very receptive and intereted i asked about her and she asked about me-tennis ball match conversation. maybe a little more on my side but a she did put in the effort.

not sure about yesterday maybe i came in too strong and scared her- too fast or too direct. you guys tell me to ask her out and don't wait my old freind is like just be her freind first and then take it from there not sure which to follow.

 

my old freind i e mail him-and he said i was dumb for asking her for drinks-since that meant going to alcohol or beer-and getttin her drunk and sleeping with her or somehitng.

 

Originally posted by mighty bop

Dude that's awesome. Good job! Study date and a bite to eat, that's a good one. If she does say no, she's not interested, although you should have been able to tell if she was interested or not when you asked her today. Could you tell?

 

Getting shot down IS embarassing. But that's just because you are not used to it. Trust me she won't gossip around class. Otherwise she will look like a stuck-up snob because she didn't go out for a drink with you. One more try with her if you want then on to someone else is what I say.....

 

Chris

[mighty bop]

Yeah man you probably shouldn't have asked her out for drinks. You should have thought of something better than that. You should have gone up to her, introduced yourself and then asked her some BS about whatever you all are studying in class, then ask her if she would want to study sometime together.

 

But anyways, you're past that. You are talking to her, which is good. So what is this about tennis? She wants to play with you? If so that is good. Say yes and go do it.

 

Chris

[joel]

no i just said the conversation we had on monday after class-was like a tennis match- i talked and she asked about me-she seemed interested -a not one sided conversation.

Originally posted by mighty bop

Yeah man you probably shouldn't have asked her out for drinks. You should have thought of something better than that. You should have gone up to her, introduced yourself and then asked her some BS about whatever you all are studying in class, then ask her if she would want to study sometime together.

 

But anyways, you're past that. You are talking to her, which is good. So what is this about tennis? She wants to play with you? If so that is good. Say yes and go do it.

 

Chris

[mighty bop]

Oh, so now what are you gonna do?

 

Chris

[joel]

i'm not sure? i talking to this other girl elaine-in anouther course and she seems really nice-says my name JOe, not shy, but i'm not very attracted to her.

hmm maybe its the attractive girls that are like that toying around this and that seeing what they can get-since they have soo many guys hittin on em as the not so good looking girls -get what they can get and if a guys hits on they are more responsive.

 

funny thing is we hardly have any homework in the course we have toghter and in the stats and prob class i have a classmate which i asked if there was a lot of homework and he told me NO. not sure about the macro course or her other courses

 

 

Originally posted by mighty bop

Oh, so now what are you gonna do?

 

Chris

[joel]

funny thing is this is the first girl i ever asked out at age 23 lol and 2 days into it i am still saddended by it.-actaully cried about it too during my sleep-couple of times. yea this wasn;t even a relationship

just imagine if we actually did date and a relationshio did develop i probably -wouldn;t be able to live.

if i had buds to hang with i think the bars are the best places to meet women-so many of em, and no embarassment factor since u won't be seeing em over and over again-unlike school

[mighty bop]

Your attitude should be "whatever". Like you don't even care about girls. (Of course you do though....) I was kinda like you. Now it really doesn't matter. You just need more experience with girls and you'll get to the point where they don't really matter that much and most of the time they are a waste of time and money. (IF you don't have time and money to waste) It's sad but true. Anyways, keep talking to other girls. I would suggest going to the gym and working out as well. It will help your chances.

 

Chris