paperboy48 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 After weeks of thinking about which avenue I want to go, I have decided to break it off with my girlfriend. We are in our mid-thirties. We have been together for 5-6 months. There are just things that have arisen in the last 2-3 months that have made me realize she is not the one for me. I hate the fact that I am going to break her heart. She has told me that she has never met a guy like me before (in a good way). I know she has hopes and dreams for us such as marriage, etc. I have never broken someone's heart before. I am dredding this! I feel SO incredibly bad about this. She is overseas right now on a trip with her work. She gets back late Friday night (around 10PM). So, here's my dilema: If everything was normal, she would sleep at my house on Friday night. Do I let her tell me all about her week long trip on Friday night (pretending everything is normal) and wait until Saturday morning <or> do I tell her as soon as we get back to my house (I will be picking her up from her trip)? Before I am asked....there is no one else. This is just a decision I have made, realizing she is not the one for me.
CaliBabe Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I would think doing it right away would make more sense. No need to pretend if you aren't into it you know? I hope things work out for you.
guysmily25 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Let her go once you get back. It will only break her heart more to enjoy one final evening with you. Sorry to hear it brother, there is someone else out there for both of you.
geegirl Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Tell her as soon as she gets back. If you let her go on about her trip, be together Friday night and what happens if she wants to be intimate, and then spill on her Saturday morning, it will cause her more hurt and confusion.
Calcmag Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Definitely tell her as soon as you can. Don't spend the night with her and then tell her the next morning. When you're telling her, be kind but be firm and resolute. Don't offer any false hope.
Amelie1980 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Out of curiosity what makes you think you can't spend your life with her? 3
Standard-Fare Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 If there's any way possible to avoid the Friday pickup, that may be the best way to handle things. I do agree with you that it's a little awkward/abrupt to greet her from her trip overseas with "Hey, guess what, I'm breaking up with you." So if there's an excuse you can find that seems valid for why you can't be there to greet her on Friday, I'd take it. She'll probably already sense something is up once that happens. The next day, you could have the proper talk. Regardless if you can pull that one off, though -- everyone here is right about spending the night. Don't sleep with her and act like everything's cool on Friday night only to confuse her the next morning. It won't help anyone.
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