dasein Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Do they have henna tattoos of trackmarks on the arms? That and some demonstrative scratching should do it. Kind of perversely hope the guy friended everyone in class and has a big party on his 100 ft yacht with his Victoria Secret model GF in attendance. Eh, we can only dream such things.
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Do you know any women that has asked out or strongly expressed an interest and gotten rejected by at least five guys? I do. One of my female friends (who I don't see or talk to much anymore) is a Sex & the City Girl. She's a slut. She's this little Asian girl and she'll approach any guy, anywhere. She's not that good looking. Balls of steel. Some guys date her, some just want her for sex, others just want her as a tongue rag for that night. But that's OK. Because she wants the same thing! Seriously, she does. She's gotten rejected before but get this. I've hung out with guys who have called her ugly inside and out and by the end of the night they're making out with her. I'd say her success ratio is probably 6 to 1.
ThaWholigan Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I'll be honest. What you say hasn't been my experience at all. Anytime I've ever seriously pursued a girl (either a friend or non-friend), I've gotten her. Some take longer than others, but it's always worked for me. Of course, I don't eye bang girls from across the room and then propose marriage. Usually, the only reason why I would pursue a girl is that her personality matches her looks. Different strokes for different folks, as they say . For some people, hot pursuit doesn't compute. I hear you though.....
JuneJulySeptember Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Just for emphasis HAHAHA! 1:35 "The eye contact makes her uncomfortable!" 1
ScreamingTrees Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Yeah, I don't get the advice for me to chat with him so that he can ask me out and I can reject him. Won't that make things more awkward? And what if he doesn't ask me out immediately because he's planned out a drawn out approach and I have to endure weeks of humoring him and essentially leading him on? Wouldn't it be better for me to communicate my lack of interest non-verbally? I tried to yesterday in class. I gave him a one word response when he tried to chat with me. Then he tried to chat with me again later in the class. He just doesn't seem to be getting the message. I think you sort of look like a bitch either way, but that's just my opinion. It's really your problem, not any of ours.. So you're too afraid to turn him down, you'll just have to deal with him making advances. If the guy is truly clueless (he may figure the chances are slim but he's trying anyway, or maybe he's overly optimistic), you're not going to get rid of him until it's clear that you're not interested. Why is it such a big deal if you interact? It's probably awkward as it is now, so it can't be helped if he makes a move and you decline.. He's most likely not going to stalk you, even if you get a creepy vibe from him. That's just because you're not attracted to him, I'd be willing to bet you're making him out to be worse than he actually is. Also, how tall are you? Just curious, you sound like a big doofy woman, if a 5'8 guy is short.. I mean, I'm assuming you meant "short in comparison to myself", because 5'8 isn't short, as most guys are around or slightly taller than that.. Maybe you two would be a better match than you realize, in that case, you're both oddballs.
TheGuard13 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Yeah, the whole "I don't want to get accused of leading a guy on so I will treat him like less of a human being in general" thing? Not a fan of that approach. So you're saying I should ignore all fat, ugly women automatically and make sure not to say anything nice or start a conversation with them because I am too good looking for those creepy/stalker/losers that would then obviously sit around and fantasize about me? All these years when someone I was not attracted to talked to me, I guess I made the mistake of being flattered and treating them like I wanted to be treated. When I treated them with respect and simply told them I was not interested I guess I should have asked them where they get off thinking someone as attractive as me would ever consider talking to a loser-slob like them. Seems a little cynical and self absorbed to assume every person you find unattractive and looks in your general direction is a creepy stalker lusting after you. All I would say to Tuxedo is I guarantee there are guys you would find attractive that would consider you ugly no matter what you look like. You don't have to be his friend or talk to him but treating him like he is a loser for possibly being attracted to you is childish. This. 1
Author tuxedo cat Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 I think you sort of look like a bitch either way, but that's just my opinion. It's really your problem, not any of ours.. So you're too afraid to turn him down, you'll just have to deal with him making advances. If the guy is truly clueless (he may figure the chances are slim but he's trying anyway, or maybe he's overly optimistic), you're not going to get rid of him until it's clear that you're not interested. Why is it such a big deal if you interact? It's probably awkward as it is now, so it can't be helped if he makes a move and you decline.. He's most likely not going to stalk you, even if you get a creepy vibe from him. That's just because you're not attracted to him, I'd be willing to bet you're making him out to be worse than he actually is. Also, how tall are you? Just curious, you sound like a big doofy woman, if a 5'8 guy is short.. I mean, I'm assuming you meant "short in comparison to myself", because 5'8 isn't short, as most guys are around or slightly taller than that.. Maybe you two would be a better match than you realize, in that case, you're both oddballs. I'm 5'6" -- hardly big and doofy -- but let your imagination fashion me as it will. 1
Author tuxedo cat Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 (edited) Oh my god! What a monster! There's no doubt he sits at home staring at you facebook photos and cutting himself. He probably has a dry well in his basement where he plans on keeping you as a sex slave after he abducts you! Jesus christ get a grip. The guy thinks you're cute and is interested in getting to know you. Not exactly grounds for a restraining order. The funny thing is that if you thought he was attractive you'd find nothing wrong with anything he's done. But he doesn't know you don't find him attractive because instead of being straightforward with him you'd rather make fun of him to a bunch of strangers online. Nowhere in this thread have I made fun of him. Edited April 4, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author tuxedo cat Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 "Oh like geez, he like totally makes eye contact with me in class and I like totally wanna gag and he like totally tries to talk to me and inside I'm all like yuck." -Tuxedo Cat Obviously I'm paraphrasing but that's how you come across. Obviously you're paraphrasing.
dasein Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 This thread makes me wonder if I missed 100s of opportunities earlier in life when women were in fact polite and friendly to me. Had I passed some creep test with all those women? were they giving me the green light for sexual advance? Did all the women who were kind and courteous to me want me to sex them? Or was it just normal people giving and accepting kindness without worrying about their egos or any misunderstandings that might result until such actually happened? My ego wants it to be the former of course, but a persistent tingling in the big brain says it was the latter. Which to listen to? 3
ChessPieceFace Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Staring, FB friending without speaking to you? This guy seems like a real creeper. I would seriously not find yourself alone with him. You made a mistake friending him and I dunno what the best solution to that would be, given his nature. I don't like lying but the "I have a BF" suggestion seems to be really good, however you screwed that up by friending him. No way should you pollute your FB wall with lies just to misdirect some creeper in your class. Good luck, LOL.
ScreamingTrees Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I'm 5'6" -- hardly big and doofy -- but let your imagination fashion me as it will. I didn't make that statement to blindly insult you, I could care less, I just found it funny how someone who is smaller than another person can try to talk about them as if they're small... Call me short when I'M the one level-head with YOUR tits, belly button or crotch, why don't you..
SJC2008 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 "Yeah class was and good thanks for the request btw. It's good to network and make new friends with classmates. Thanks for the poke but let's keep it professional now lol" 2
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Some guys creep you out because you intuitively pick up on something about them. It's hard to explain. I found some guys that would be considered conventionally attractive creepy. My brother has a friend like that. 1
Author tuxedo cat Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 Call me short when I'M the one level-head with YOUR tits, belly button or crotch, why don't you.. Then you would be a midget.
ScreamingTrees Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Then you would be a midget. True, if I was. Reality is I'm several inches taller than you. You're the real midget here, brah. I think that "creepiness" is just a misused word to describe the uneasiness that one feels when they're forced to be in the presence of someone they feel is emotionally immature/physically unattractive who may very well fancy them.. I do believe that sometimes it can be warranted, but most of the time the person is not really a creep, nor a potential stalker.. I think some people can become quite melodramatic about it, when they can't predict a person's actions.. And if they believe that every guy that shows interest is "creepy" or will certainly show his creepy stripes if she lowers her guard for a moment, that girl has to wonder.. "Why do I continually attract this?" 1
starla33 Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I don't get this whole "you added him on fb so you are misleading him thing". I know tons of people that add everyone they have met once in person on FB. This means NOTHING
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