joel Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 is depression a life long illness or is it just temporary. i know this girl and she takes fluctoname -prozac and she says she take it everyday for 2 years-she lies to me at times. im not sure how long. really but she takes that drug and also her mood changes too. she gets mad or sad pretty easily. at time i didnt text her for a day and told me she was sad since i didnt text her. or her pics didnt get through and she says shes mad in the text msg but i know for sure she isnt working, she is 24 , hard time making decisions and changes her mind/or hard time making decisions and very negative and yes she has depression im just wonderin if she will ever get better as im looking to settle and long term partner will she ever get better and never had to take prozac-flutonaime , will mood be normal, is it curable????
CarrieT Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 A few things... First, chemically, a LOT is still happening to brain development in the early 20s so it is not unusual for someone to need to chemicals to help them in that age. I was on various drugs for depression from my mid-teens to my late 20s and I can attest that, yes, her moods will even out and she can have a normal life. Secondly, however, that "LOT" which is happening to brain development in those early 20s usually change people as they approach their 30s and it is why a lot of relationships do not survive that decade. People's desires, perspectives, and outlook change drastically around their 30th year (regardless if there is depression or prescriptions involved) so looking forward to a long-term relationship with someone who is going through these dramatic changes may not be a good idea. She will probably settle down, but it won't be a for a while. Now you must understand that for some, depression is a life-long illness that has to be assisted with prescriptions forever. There is no way to pre-determine that. You didn't say how old you were, but I would hazard to guess that waiting for this girl might not be the best avenue for you. Be there for her and see her grow and change - if she does. And if she does not, don't be disappointed or set your hopes too high. Good luck. 4
Author joel Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 A few things... First, chemically, a LOT is still happening to brain development in the early 20s so it is not unusual for someone to need to chemicals to help them in that age. I was on various drugs for depression from my mid-teens to my late 20s and I can attest that, yes, her moods will even out and she can have a normal life. Secondly, however, that "LOT" which is happening to brain development in those early 20s usually change people as they approach their 30s and it is why a lot of relationships do not survive that decade. People's desires, perspectives, and outlook change drastically around their 30th year (regardless if there is depression or prescriptions involved) so looking forward to a long-term relationship with someone who is going through these dramatic changes may not be a good idea. She will probably settle down, but it won't be a for a while. Now you must understand that for some, depression is a life-long illness that has to be assisted with prescriptions forever. There is no way to pre-determine that. You didn't say how old you were, but I would hazard to guess that waiting for this girl might not be the best avenue for you. Be there for her and see her grow and change - if she does. And if she does not, don't be disappointed or set your hopes too high. Good luck. im 32 another guy i met said he knew her 5 years ago when she was 20 and she was nuts. i guess she hasnt changed also her mind changes a lot or hard time making decisions about what she really wants. its frustarting so we just do what i want. never met a girl that really really likes me and we didnt know each other that long either. she never had a serious bf and most guys used her just for sex --that what she told me. not sure if its real or just lies yea i sometimes find it frustratinng hanging out with her. her choices are all mixed up . they want u to pick her up and later u do and she says shes not sure she wants to sit in my car . im already at ur place in my car. lol
Treasa Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I take Prozac and Wellbutrin. I have been for a couple of years now. While it definitely did get rid of my panic attacks, and while it did stabilize my mood a lot and make me stop crying constantly for no reason, my work to get over my depression was something I had to do on my own, and was somewhat recent. You can't change how someone thinks. They can adjust things, but she's going to have to want to do it on her own, and it's a LOT of very hard, continuous work that never ends. It's worth it, but it's freaking tough sometimes. That being said, you don't have to be in a relationship if you aren't happy.
pbjbear Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I would say if your gf doesnt make you happy then to leave. Its one thing if you were married and she became depressed but you both are young and honestly, she doesnt sound mentally healthy enough for a relationship.
orenji Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I've been depressed since my late teens (I'm 21 now) but I only started taking medication for it recently. That's helped me a lot in a short amount of time--I cry much less and feel less negative about my future. However, I still have moments where I feel very sad/angry and "shut down" emotionally, although those are becoming less frequent. My boyfriend met me when I was depressed, and he supported me (kind words, not letting me put myself down, hugs, listening to my rambles) for the last two years until I had the strength to get better. He's an angel. If you're a loving partner, this woman will appreciate it a lot when she's going through rough patches. Of course, it's not up to you to make someone 100% happy, but you can still help her if you choose to.
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