FWB Fail. He slept with another girl in my house!

[Treasa]

It'll be hard to avoid him.

 

He lives across the street from me and is usually always at my house. He also works closely with my brother. He went to visit his sister upstate, but he is not originally from there.

 

At worst, I won't talk to him. At best, confront him, get an apology, and he won't do it again if he knows I have a problem with it. A lock on my door will insure that he not repeat his behavior.

 

Wait, what? If he lives across the street from you, why did he go into YOUR place to have sex? And what the hell is with your brother? You need new people in your life.

[TaraMaiden]

I thought we had potential too babe.

 

Nobody puts (THIS!) babe in the corner....

[Treasa]

Woo hoo! I got me 2 lined up, hehe.

 

I played with the thought of one day - when my FWB and brother are in the house - telling them to leave cause I got somebody coming over for a couple of hours. We'll see how FWB likes them apples.

 

He probably won't care, but at least I'll get laid.

 

Let's back up and eliminate the whole "when my FWB and brother are in the house" part from the equation. There you go. The losers are now gone. See how easy that is?

[Frogwife]

 

It is nearly impossible for a woman to continually sleep with a man on a regular basis and not develop feelings. .

 

Agreed - and for men, too! I used to think men could have continual FWB situations with no feelings until I experienced it personally (with my FWBs) and started reading men's forums (PUA, etc)... they are full of men being in that exact position - feelings for a fwb - and asking how to avoid (or block out) the feelings that they're having. It was an eye-opener.

[stillafool]

Holy schytt if I knew where you lived, you'd be lying in a state of catatonic exhaustion.

 

PM Me.

I'll see you in an hour.

don't bother dressing.

 

:lmao: Oh Tara, you're too much!

[Lisa_Lisa]

Wait, what? If he lives across the street from you, why did he go into YOUR place to have sex? And what the hell is with your brother? You need new people in your life.

 

He lives with 5 other people and shares a room with one. They have revolving schedules so someone is always in the house.

 

Next time he wants to f*ck that girl, I suggest he take her to the garbage alley.

 

I'm gonna go to Loew's and buy a lock to secure on my door.

 

I hope my brother respects my request. We'll have a problem if he doesn't.

[stillafool]

I think it's more that I have confidence. How many men could successfully pull this off:

 

Is that you in the blue suit? Dayummmmm!

Edited April 3, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[veggirl]

He fked a girl in your bed!!! How have you NOT called and confronted him yet?! Tell him to never speak to you again and to drop off a NEW set of sheets by the end of the weekend. Seriously. Don't be a quiet pushover.

 

But after that never talk to him again. And do not even let him apologize or try to explain. Just tell him fk off and replace the sheets by the weekend.

[Lisa_Lisa]

I feel like a piece of meat.

 

You're loving this, aren't you? Haha

[Lisa_Lisa]

Agreed - and for men, too! I used to think men could have continual FWB situations with no feelings until I experienced it personally (with my FWBs) and started reading men's forums (PUA, etc)... they are full of men being in that exact position - feelings for a fwb - and asking how to avoid (or block out) the feelings that they're having. It was an eye-opener.

 

My last FWB told me he was glad I ended it because he was catching feelings. I think what happens is that when a woman is with a man and she gives him all this attention, he revels in it. When the man and woman are not together and she doesn't call or text or ask what he's been up to, he wonders what she's doing.

 

Point is, you always have to keep a man guessing. Once you reveal how much you like him and want to hang with him, he'll dub you as 'clingy' or if he's mean a 'psycho.' It's all a damn game.

[mickleb]

OP - You need to speak to your brother. He needs to learn he made a huge mistake. Also tell him you don't want this guy in the house again. There's no way you should have to play host to him after his ridiculous behaviour.

 

I wouldn't bother talking to the guy. He knows exactly what he's done and will probably get a rise when he sees you're bothered by it. I suspect that's why he did it in the first place.

 

Mr Soul - If you want to try to do the right thing by your FWB, you could start by showing her this thread, and the photo of her you decided to publish... for what reason exactly?

[JuneJulySeptember]

I was away on vacation. My brother (they are work colleagues and friends) told me he let him bring another girl inside the house and left them alone for 4 hours. She's totally in love with him and was thrilled to be in his company.

 

When I got back from my vacation I noticed my bed wasn't how I left it. I immediately thought my FWB was on there, probably f*cking his brains out with that other girl.

 

What hurts is that is where we had sex. How could he disrespect me so badly like that?

 

It's over between us for sure. But I don't know what to do. Should I confront him? Should I yell? Should I tell him how much it hurts what he did? Should I pretend I don't know anything and treat him like I would any ol' friend? Should I be distant and cold?

 

Help.

 

Wait. I remember you. The guy who was like the SUPER HOT guy who helped your brother paint your house or something.

 

Lol.

[SmileFace]

Haha... I don't know what kind of hell I would raise if someone did this to me....ha!!

[RedRobin]

Mr Soul - If you want to try to do the right thing by your FWB, you could start by showing her this thread, and the photo of her you decided to publish... for what reason exactly?

 

Ditto.......

 

remove that picture of her...

[WhoreyBull]

I'm having trouble understanding but, your brother let him in your place to **** a girl?

It seems like you should have thought up some clearer boundaries when it came to setting this relationship up.

Now you can decide what to do. You are not committed, the fact that he had sex with someone else doesn't show a lack of respect. Unless you had explicitly told him not to have sex at your place I don't see how you can complain.

To me the most important part of FWB is the FRIENDS part. If you want someone who you'll never talk to get a nsa relationship where the ****er doesn't know your brother or where you live.

'Cause it seems to me like a friend would help him bang that girl he likes.

[runningfar]

I have never explicitly told anybody not to have sex in my bed but if anyone is in there without me, heads will roll.

You cannot be serious.

 

 

Guy is an ass with no common decency. Tell him that.

[Lisa_Lisa]

I have never explicitly told anybody not to have sex in my bed but if anyone is in there without me, heads will roll.

You cannot be serious.

 

 

Guy is an ass with no common decency. Tell him that.

 

I agree with this statement.

 

It's not like my ex-FWB and I read each other the rules before we even slept together. We had the urge to do so, and we did it.

 

I don't think I had to say 'hey, don't **** in my bed.' Honestly, he is an ******* who only thought of getting his dick wet.

 

My brother did not know me and his friend were f*cking, but I'm going to have a talk with my brother and tell him everything.

 

This won't happen again. I will make sure of it.

[Lisa_Lisa]

I'm having trouble understanding but, your brother let him in your place to **** a girl?

It seems like you should have thought up some clearer boundaries when it came to setting this relationship up.

Now you can decide what to do. You are not committed, the fact that he had sex with someone else doesn't show a lack of respect. Unless you had explicitly told him not to have sex at your place I don't see how you can complain.

To me the most important part of FWB is the FRIENDS part. If you want someone who you'll never talk to get a nsa relationship where the ****er doesn't know your brother or where you live.

'Cause it seems to me like a friend would help him bang that girl he likes.

 

 

My ex FWB doesn't even like this girl. He had something with her and she fell head over heels for him. So much so that she ended up in the psych ward of a mental hospital.

 

What kind of ******* - who knowingly puts her there - decides to start sh*t up again knowing she's going to go revert to her old ways and probably end up in bellevue again?

 

He had the p*ssy already, so why would he do that to her? It's not like it's new and he had to have it. He already knew what he was getting.

 

I read a text between him and my brother where my FWB says, "that p*ssy wasn't worth the $30"

 

He is emotionally retarded and cold-hearted. He has gained an enemy with me.

 

I'm so heated I want revenge, but I'm keeping my cool. Trying anyway.

[Lisa_Lisa]

Agreed. I think OP's FWB is pretty awesome!

 

Sounds like her brother is a fun guy too.

 

 

I wanted to get laid like everybody else in this world.

 

You don't go walking down the street telling people, 'please don't bump into me, I wouldn't like it.' It's just something people won't do out of common courtesy.

 

I didn't think I had to tell him NOT to **** in my bed.

[Lisa_Lisa]

Are you serious OP?

 

A guy you have meaningless random sex with did something disrespectful?

 

Wow! Is everyone else is as shocked as I am?

 

Listen sweetheart, you can't have your cack and eat it too. You want a f*** buddy with none of the pesky annoyances of having a actual relationship and you got it. Don't cry to us when the dude treats you like someone he has sex with and nothing more.

 

 

He and I can have as much meaningless sex as we want.

 

I didn't think he would **** another girl in my bed.

 

Come on, people. If this happened to you, you'd all be pretty upset about it.

[RedRobin]

He is emotionally retarded and cold-hearted. .

 

but you knew this already, didn't you?

 

Ever heard the line...

 

"There is his side, her side... and then there is the truth."

 

Dollars to donuts she's not as crazy as he makes her out... but that keeps you on his good side, eh? By believing his stories?

 

Now, do you possibly have any idea what he says about you behind YOUR back? uh huh... bet it ain't pretty.

 

...and again... this wonderful brother of yours. :rolleyes:

 

Sweetheart, I'm not really feeling sorry for you. You've surrounded yourself with total pricks... Brother included.

[mickleb]

It wont let me. Now I feel like a dick. Even tho, I highly doubt she would care of a picture of the two of us being posted. She has it on her Facebook. But I know what you're saying.

 

You need to take it off imgur so the link no longer works. Please tell me you understand the difference between someone posting a pic of themselves and the guy they're f*cking on Facebook, and putting a picture of the person you're f*cking on a public internet forum.

[pbjbear]

I say find a new guy and videotape having sex with him, and then "accidentally" send it to this guy

[kaylan]

Are you serious OP?

 

A guy you have meaningless random sex with did something disrespectful?

 

Wow! Is everyone else is as shocked as I am?

 

Listen sweetheart, you can't have your cack and eat it too. You want a f*** buddy with none of the pesky annoyances of having a actual relationship and you got it. Don't cry to us when the dude treats you like someone he has sex with and nothing more.

You dont use someones home without their permission. And you definitely dont screw people in their bed. Doesnt matter if they were having a fling.

Banging another chick in your bed is pretty low down. It's also pretty alpha. Is this guy a big time player or what?

Whats alpha about living with so many other men that you have no privacy? So little privacy that you have to have a friend of your provide you with another womans place to have sex.

 

Not alpha at all. Its not like the guy had his own access to OPs place. He snuck behind her back and got her brother to betray her trust because they are both low men.

 

Sorry, not alpha.

Edited April 4, 2013 by a LoveShack.org Moderator

[RedRobin]

Meh. I don't talk bad about FWB's behind their backs. Exes...oh please believe. But friends? Not for me.

 

No. You just post their pictures on a public internet forum.

 

(ladies, pay attention)