venuss Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 The downside of my relationship with him was: 1. Lack of emotional depth and him asking for physical relationship. 2. Over the time, I felt I was not his priority which I was initially. What I miss: Whenever we did meet/spoke it was amazing. I like him too much. Problem: We interpreted each other's text messages incorrectly quite a few times and it used to put us off and because of that we did avoided texting. That day: He was at work and we were exchanging text and we BU on text! Him: Hi, whats up Me: was thinking abt u Him: i luv u Me: luv u 2 Me: whn can we meet? Him: whn v can meet at ur or my place Me: not for lunch? Him: no point we wont go anywhr by meetng outside. i dont want to meet outside again. only where v can be alone. (10 mins pause, I read and read) Me: dont text or call me, i think this is all u want (20 mins later, I get) Him: u r misunderstandng.I will not talk to u ever cause u r stupid Me: whatever In Past: I have counted we had 3 fights in 5-6 months, all the 3 times because he ignored me or canceled on me because of reasons that sounded non-sense. What I want now: I think my text 'Me: dont text or call me, i think this is all u want ' was insulting, like I am accusing him. But it has happened so many times that all talks were ending like that. I was frustrated! But may be I did misunderstood so I want to apologize. Why: Because I want to be his friend. Have absolutely no complaints when we were just friends! I do like him a lot but I cannot have sex with him for many reasons like my orthodox views and his lack of commitment and I have told him all that many times. And he knew that before we entered into relationship but still he keeps asking for it and I keep reminding him. Any suggestions what can I text so he don't think I am trying to reconcile? Because in past all the 3 times I went back to him (this also bothers me that he did not made effort). I just want to be able to stay friendly.
destroyed4sho Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 He sounds immature. He wants sex but doesnt know how to get a woman to give it to him. You sound immature because you dont know how to.communicate your true feelings. You can text him the reasons why.you did not feel.comfortable having sex with him. Dont expect a mature.response back. He just wanted sex...not YOU or a real relationship. When are you going to start believing this? The writing is on.the wall..loud and clear. Try.to move on from this. 1
geegirl Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 "U r stupid." Who talks this way? How old are you both?
Author venuss Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 Well I am not sure which part is immature but reading all the posts here I do feel its language gap . I am from Germany and hardly speak or get to listen to English , some specific search strings in google made me land here! I have so many things to ask here and contribute to but it takes me a really long time to compose a message . I will appreciate if people who commented 'immature' could point out which part is immaturity ? If its not language then may be its me, may be that's why it did not work out!! I m 29 and he is 34.
Author venuss Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 "U r stupid." Who talks this way? How old are you both? He wrote this in German but he did implied that .. U misunderstood and its better to not talk to someone stupid like you. Probably he was not expecting my response and could not think of anything better ! May be wanted to threaten me with BU cause he knows I was head over heels in love with him! I also find that odd but it didn't surprise me.
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