geegirl Posted April 5, 2013 Posted April 5, 2013 It's like my head knows to move on but my heart doesn't want to. It would be sooooo much easier if I didn't have to see him everyday grrr When emotional, always listen to your head! The heart makes very bad decisions for you when you are in such a situation. You have to make a decision and stick with it. Most times, it gets to being sick and tired of being sick and tired before you decide to say enough, heart or not. 1
Author Liveeiitx0up Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 Should have listened to you girl now I'm a really bad situation and idk how I'm going to get out of this
geegirl Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Should have listened to you girl now I'm a really bad situation and idk how I'm going to get out of this What happened?
siankat Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 It's like my head knows to move on but my heart doesn't want to. It would be sooooo much easier if I didn't have to see him everyday grrr I read something once Dear tummy, sorry for all the butterflies Dear heart, sorry for all the damage Dear brain...you were right Your heart will catch up with your head eventually and i hope next time the relationship you enter into nurtures your heart instead of torturing it. It's a scary thing but a lot of things that are bad for us are the most addictive too. I think quiet storms post explained it best. 1
TaraMaiden Posted April 7, 2013 Posted April 7, 2013 Should have listened to you girl now I'm a really bad situation and idk how I'm going to get out of this What happened? She had sex with him. betcha......
geegirl Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 She had sex with him. betcha...... I'm thinking the same.
Author Liveeiitx0up Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 No lol I didn't have sex with him. Well Saturday night I got really drunk and got possed off at him for still playing games and I sent him a picture of my friend kissing me on the cheek. He flipped out and called our sergeant ....so my sergeant told both of us we are to have no contact whatsoever and all three of us have to have a meeting today at some point.... I realize I shouldn't have done that but I was very drunk. He's done stupid things drunk to I just think its childish he went and called our higher up like they don't need to know my business were both adults we should have been able to deal with it on our own. After he did that though which in some cases it helped I have barley and feelings for him . The fact he tried to get me in trouble really gave me closure
geegirl Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 No lol I didn't have sex with him. Well Saturday night I got really drunk and got possed off at him for still playing games and I sent him a picture of my friend kissing me on the cheek. He flipped out and called our sergeant ....so my sergeant told both of us we are to have no contact whatsoever and all three of us have to have a meeting today at some point.... I realize I shouldn't have done that but I was very drunk. He's done stupid things drunk to I just think its childish he went and called our higher up like they don't need to know my business were both adults we should have been able to deal with it on our own. After he did that though which in some cases it helped I have barley and feelings for him . The fact he tried to get me in trouble really gave me closure No sex! Good! So, BOTH of you engage in childish drunk behavior, not just him. You're just as accountable for the situation getting out of hand. This is actually a blessing because your sergeant had to come in the middle of both of you and separate two unruly kids. Now you can NC. Alcohol is the last thing you want in your system when you are going through emotional turmoil but what's done is done. Don't jeopardize your career by engaging with him, anymore.
TaraMaiden Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 No lol I didn't have sex with him. Well Saturday night I got really drunk and got possed off at him for still playing games and I sent him a picture of my friend kissing me on the cheek. He flipped out and called our sergeant ....so my sergeant told both of us we are to have no contact whatsoever and all three of us have to have a meeting today at some point.... I realize I shouldn't have done that but I was very drunk. He's done stupid things drunk to I just think its childish he went and called our higher up like they don't need to know my business were both adults we should have been able to deal with it on our own. After he did that though which in some cases it helped I have barley and feelings for him . The fact he tried to get me in trouble really gave me closure PHEW!! Is that all?? Good stuff came out of it though! Yay! Sorted, yeah??
Author Liveeiitx0up Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 I mean it's good it happened the way it did but I'm pretty embarrassed about the situation. I'm just going to tell my sergeant I apologize and what's done is done I will not have contact with him again. My ex keeps looking at me at work though its frustrating I can tell he is regretting calling but blessings come in all sorts of ways!
Author Liveeiitx0up Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 Idk if anyone still reads this post anymore it's been a month. Things have got better but he's still playing games with me. He thinks I have a new boyfriend and acts really jealous and gives me a hard time. He still knows i care a lot about him though . He found out he's leaving in a month he's getting kicked out for his DUI. He will be going back to Texas and I'm pretty upset.
Author Liveeiitx0up Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 Yes, I want the old him back the one who was my Prince Charming the one I wanted to spend forever with. Lol. The things we have been through its just hard to let go, nothing seems the same anymore without him I tried to move on I was doing well and he roped me back in then ignored me again. He gets drunk and spills his feelings saying he misses me a lot but only talks to me when he wants sex...I'm trying no contact right now to see what happens it's been two days since we have spoken
Zahara Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Yes, I want the old him back the one who was my Prince Charming the one I wanted to spend forever with. Lol. The things we have been through its just hard to let go, nothing seems the same anymore without him I tried to move on I was doing well and he roped me back in then ignored me again. He gets drunk and spills his feelings saying he misses me a lot but only talks to me when he wants sex...I'm trying no contact right now to see what happens it's been two days since we have spoken That's why you only read about Prince Charming in fairy tales. Who you see now, is your Prince Charming. There is no "old him" because if there was, he'd be that same person now. What you have is a prince that now wants a f*** buddy. No contact to see what happens? I guess all the times you have broken no contact hasn't taught you anything. 1
Author Liveeiitx0up Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 Nope guess not but hey I believe in fighting for what you love. Never gave into him asking to hook up so
Zahara Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Nope guess not but hey I believe in fighting for what you love. Never gave into him asking to hook up so Fight for what you love when the other person wants to fight for you too. Don't fight for someone that doesn't want the same things you do. That's not fighting, but forcing a situation because you're afraid to let go. Asking you to hook up should have been your green light to quit the fight and move on.
Author Liveeiitx0up Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 Well obviously there's something still there when he keeps asking me if I have a boufriend and asking to stay over and says he misses me. Not every guy is the same and some hide their feelings and don't communicate we'll
Zahara Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 Well obviously there's something still there when he keeps asking me if I have a boufriend and asking to stay over and says he misses me. Not every guy is the same and some hide their feelings and don't communicate we'll Of course, because it's much easier to communicate to you that he wants you as a f*** buddy than it is to actually come out right and tell you that he wants to be with you, and even after having a relationship with you!
Zahara Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I took him home to meet my family this past Christmas and they loved him. I was very surprised with how everything went we never faught we were each others soul mates . He told my parents I was the best thing to happen to him, how I had helped him so much with his drinking problem and his life in general. He said I gave him support . We talked about after the army about going to Maine and building a life a future for us he talked about how he wanted to get married and have kids some day. He said he never had such strong feelings for anyone before. So the trip home to meet my family was amazing. Looks like he could communicate his feelings perfectly well then.
TaraMaiden Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 I am no longer contacting him. The issue I have understanding is why he still calls and cares who I'm with I'm starting to understand now how messed up of a situation it really is. If he contacts me which he's probably wondering why I'm not because I've been texting him a lot in the past..if he tries to contact me i am going to ignore him Wow when you put it in that perspective it really helps me see how I should just let him go. It makes perfect sense as to why he still calls late at night drunk ....Everyone tells me I deserve better its time I start looking up and holding my head high because he just lost an amazing woman. ....I rly hope he doesn't contact me this weekend with more bull**** enough is enough. And if he tries I'm not going to respond and he will be the one freaking out. I understand. Ya I'm sick of looking desperate he's not going to keep me on his leash and think he can bring me back into his life at any time. Enough is enough I'm going to stop contacting him Any chance - any chance at all - you could actually put your money where your mouth is, and actually start doing what you SAID you were going to DO....?
Author Liveeiitx0up Posted May 7, 2013 Author Posted May 7, 2013 Taramaiden Any chance - any chance at all - you could actually put your money where your mouth is, and actually start doing what you SAID you were going to DO....? Alright girl you must have never been a relationship before one that's no so easy to let go, I guess you've never been in love and had to deal with all it's confusing elements. A lot of things have changed since my last posts first of all and second of all you don't have to be damn rude about it! I came here for support not to listen to some damn person be snippy and judge mental
TaraMaiden Posted May 7, 2013 Posted May 7, 2013 If there is one thing that I - and many others here - cannot abide, is someone who comes in, wastes our time begging for advice, we all contribute and pretty much give the same advice, then it's ignored, and then the person comes back and complains nothing has changed. Well surprise, surprise. Before you begin complaining about my being 'snippy and judgemental' how about you admit you screwed up, and now you're back licking your wounds because you wouldn't listen in the first place?? Guaranteed, if you had done - this thread wouldn't be revived now. Don't get angry with me, simply because I'm telling it like it is. I do that. I may dish the harsh stuff, but that doesn't make me wrong.
freetolove Posted May 8, 2013 Posted May 8, 2013 date + sleep with someone else. this will clean his dumbass up really quickly. if not, at least you're moving on.
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