kitkatz29 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I've been dating this guy for almost 5 months now, and I've come to realization that I've fallen in love with him. I find myself fighting the urge to tell him sometimes, because I'm afraid it will freak him out and scare him off. About a month ago, he had a bit of a "freak out" moment and decided to end things. It left me completely in shock because everything had been going so well. We spent a good amount of time together (which he equally initiated), never faught and and had a good time together. He had given no indication that he was doubting things, so when I heard those unsettling words "we need to talk," I was blindsighted. All he kept saying as he hysterically cried was that "he had to follow his heart" and that "he didn't see me as the person he was going to marry." A friend of his confided in me and told me that he had told her right after he ended things that he thought he made a mistake. Four days later he contacted me and told me that he missed me and that he wanted to get back together and that he had made a mistake. He said that as soon as I had left his home that awful day he was so upset he started vomiting and spent the next day crying. He then admitted that he's never been in a relationship that lasted longer than 3 months and he freaked out when we broke that record. He also said that he realized how quiet his world was without me in it and didn't like it and that he was sorry that he reacted the way he did out of fear because he broke both our hearts in the process. Things have been really good since we worked things out...probably stronger than before. I realized during our time apart that I loved him. And the more time we spend together, the more those feelings grow. But I'm scared to tell him. Since he's never been in a relationship lasting longer than 3 months, I feel like he's probably never been "in love" before. I don't want him to freak out again, but part of me feels like he has to feel the same way. I mean I really don't think a guy would be that upset over a breakup (especially when he was ending it) if he didn't love the girl. But I also feel like if I wait to for him to say it first, I'll end up waiting forever. Should I bite the bullet and just tell him? Or should I give it more time?
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