Having someone Bad vs. Having No one

[cdt76]

So last night I had probably the worst date ever. She was all ghetto, ran an escort service (classy right?) had stories of being arrested...I could go on but then I'd want to put a bullet in my own head for not blocking all that out of my memory! So the thought hit me. Would it be better to have your ex and bad as he/she was to you, rather than be alone and dating these incredibly flawed people? This date was so bad it actually made me MISS my ex last night! I was pissed! I need to become a monk.

[fabulousgal]

View dates as nothing more than a couple hours to get to know someone. If you start to project, is this the one/my next relationship you will be disappointed 9/10.

 

I like to look at them as a way to talk to someone new and see what perspectives they have on life. I went out with one guy last year that I knew would likely go nowhere, and I had such a nice afternoon! He was a standup comic and we sat by the river and chatted and had coffee. I laughed a lot, and learned about the way his world works/how he lives. Just new insights to have.

[IfiKnewThen]

ok i know you meant this as serious, but you seriously made me laugh.

 

that does sound like a bad date but it was comical the way you posted it. you might have a flare with writing talent . but that's EXACTLY what you have to do. LAUGH!!~!~!~!!!. it says in the bible even that laughter is the best medicine. also, after that date you likely will be more appreciative of a real nice girl who is not necessarily a convicted felon when she comes along. take the bibles advise on healing and laugh instead of crying. i hope that will help. tell this story to your friends and see how they chuckle. on a serious note i can fully understand how you would miss your ex more. but i bet your ex has some funny tails too about her own life. i am sure its not a walk in the park, and there have been moments she has missed u more too. hang in there. make yourself smile. someday the right one will come along and u WILL look back on this. God Bless (ps pray the right one comes in your path)

[cdt76]

Well thank you for the compliment on my writing skills. I've thought about writing a book about dating and my story but dang, I think it would turn out to be a tragedy instead of a romantic comedy! I do pray. I don't project. I go into each date with minimal hope but an open mind. Unfortunately, nothing has come along to spark my interest.

[Feelin Frisky]

I've faced it for a long time. It's better to be single and even celibate that to settle for someone who makes you unhappy--even periodically unhappy. There's power in solitude--that's why some folks choose it. I can't see regurgitating the Bible all day and night bringing the kind of power that I value form my experience.

[misswillow]

Well thank you for the compliment on my writing skills. I've thought about writing a book about dating and my story but dang, I think it would turn out to be a tragedy instead of a romantic comedy! I do pray. I don't project. I go into each date with minimal hope but an open mind. Unfortunately, nothing has come along to spark my interest.

 

I used to send one of my friends funny emails with all the details after all my bad dates, and she always said I should write a book too. Sadly, now that I am single again I may one day have some more stories for that book.

[cdt76]

Ugh. I know. And the sad part of it is that with every bad date it makes me wish she would give me a chance again to show her how good life can really be. But it won't ever happen. I know this. But my whole life has been designed to meet someone great. I fear that I will end up old and alone and bitter. I do not want that life for me. It's a catch 22 date miserable people or stop searching all together.

[Compromize]

Or keep trying and meeting people and enjoying what you can and holding out for the right one..... And not compromizing yourself either in the process.