Jim Jimmy James Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I met this guy and completed a project for him. We are the same age and have the same level of attractiveness. He paid me and we went about our separate lives. Some time later, he calls me to work on the project again. I said he could do it. He did not have the time. I printed it out in a format so that he could see how simple it was to change on his own. He did not want to do the work. I said fine. Later, he changes his mind and decides to complete the work himself, but wants to take me to lunch (next week) because I was helpful. The week passes without a word, so I messaged him saying he was not nice, and that his actions were unnecessary. We did not talk for a couple months. He see me around and asks me what my message said. I said it was "unnecessary". He said he was not going to romance me. Frankly, I did not imagine that lunch would be filled with romance. I thought it was a thank you. Can anyone explain from a male perspective what he might have been thinking because this has only gotten worse?
Taramere Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I'm not a male, but the "not going to romance you" comment sounds like the defensive response of somebody who had had some romantic interest in you and felt rejected when by the "(lunch) unnecessary" message. Are you interested in him?
Author Jim Jimmy James Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 I'm not a male, but the "not going to romance you" comment sounds like the defensive response of somebody who had had some romantic interest in you and felt rejected when by the "(lunch) unnecessary" message. Are you interested in him? Thanks. If you are asking if I am attracted to him, the answer is no. Of course, I would be interested in a business reference. I would agree with your response, but he only offered the lunch. The unnecessary remark came after the week had passed and he failed to actually scheduled the lunch. I disassociated from him and now he is angry.
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