lastresort Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Long story short on BU. I got drunk. Started really stupid argument. Her son woke up while we were yelling. There was no other abuse. She left because her son shouldn't experience seeing two people fight like that and he was scared. I understand and respect her for her decision. I took total blame, quit drinking, going to gym and getting back into religion. Happened 3 weeks ago. I have been fighting for her back. She keeps giving me the never get back together with you speech. Come Sunday, Easter, she spends the afternoon with me while I was working. She ends up back at my house for "massage" which turns physical, in a good way, we hang out a little Monday, today she comes over after the gym showers and a repeat of Sunday happens. Tonight she tells me we are on a break, doesn't want anyone else but wants to have sex with me because she doesn't trust any other man. I have quit pushing to get back together, except when I'm teasing her about things and we will laugh about it. What else should I be doing to get get back? I think she just needs a little time to figure some stuff out.
Amahon06 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 This happened to me. My bf left me and was pretty much still coming around for the sex! STOP IT AND STOP IT NOW! She still getting the benefits of the relationship without being with u, so she's not going to want to come back to u anytime soon. It made me feel used and unappreciated bc I was so in love with my ex...so tell her if she wants the benefits, she needs to make a decision bc ur not her doormat...or tell her to get a dildo until she figures it out bc ur shop is closed to her.. 1
Author lastresort Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 This happened to me. My bf left me and was pretty much still coming around for the sex! STOP IT AND STOP IT NOW! She still getting the benefits of the relationship without being with u, so she's not going to want to come back to u anytime soon. It made me feel used and unappreciated bc I was so in love with my ex...so tell her if she wants the benefits, she needs to make a decision bc ur not her doormat...or tell her to get a dildo until she figures it out bc ur shop is closed to her.. Thats the difference between a man and women... We don't mind the doormat sex.lol I think that ended any ways, until next week when shes horny again. We had a conversation about it and we both agree we dont trust other people and she said most the men around here are douche bags and she would rather continue having sex with me then take a chance with one of them. When she left she left her dildo here. Thats my first sign that she will be back, I know she cant live with out it. lol
Author lastresort Posted April 7, 2013 Author Posted April 7, 2013 I finally have not been calling her. Wait for get to contact me. Yesterday when I got home she was in my house. I never lock my doors. We knocked one out of course. Then she told me they were going out to a bar in laguna for dinner and a live band to dance. Said if I wanted to go that would be cool. I showed up at the end of dinner. Turned the heads of all her girlfriends, I was dressed to impress. We hung out had a good time. Followed her home, she'd been drinking. I ended up stating most the night. She text me first thing this morning then called me on her way to church. I've got to work this morning so couldn't go. I just get these mixed signals. She knows what I want in the end. Still her girlfriends tell me to keep doing what I'm doing. Ugh. Why can't this be easy.
Cinderella01 Posted April 8, 2013 Posted April 8, 2013 I finally have not been calling her. Wait for get to contact me. Yesterday when I got home she was in my house. I never lock my doors. We knocked one out of course. Then she told me they were going out to a bar in laguna for dinner and a live band to dance. Said if I wanted to go that would be cool. I showed up at the end of dinner. Turned the heads of all her girlfriends, I was dressed to impress. We hung out had a good time. Followed her home, she'd been drinking. I ended up stating most the night. She text me first thing this morning then called me on her way to church. I've got to work this morning so couldn't go. I just get these mixed signals. She knows what I want in the end. Still her girlfriends tell me to keep doing what I'm doing. Ugh. Why can't this be easy. My advise, no woman can make love to a man and not let her heart get involved - there is just no such thing. I think she doesn't want to admit it, but she loves you.
Author lastresort Posted April 8, 2013 Author Posted April 8, 2013 My advise, no woman can make love to a man and not let her heart get involved - there is just no such thing. I think she doesn't want to admit it, but she loves you. She says she loves me and she just needs some time apart to do some things for herself. She needs to find a job that is her main goal, especially since i dont support her financially any more. Also needs to enroll in a couple more classes to advance her degree. I took care of her son while she was getting her last one done, picking him up from school and coaching his baseball team, which i still do. Of course i still depend on her as well to help me with my kids when i have to work, I usually try not to schedule work when I have my kids though, but sometimes you dont have a choice. PEACE
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