kgarner2 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Ok just not too long ago my boyfriend of almost two years called me and was like his parents called and wanted to three way with them me and him. Right away I said no, because if you know me I am socially awkward and get super nervous when I have to talk to someone important, ( I've never met them and he has never met my parents either). I was supposed to meet them, which I was last December at his graduation but they were super busy and I couldn't. He texted me "this is a ****ing joke, If you can't get know my parents let me know now so I can stop wasting my money and time and some bs that ain't going no where." He really said this, he is acting like I don't wanna meet or talk to them when that is completely false cause I tell him I do. The phone call was out of no where ad I was not prepared and I was scared. He was incredibly disrespectful right? I told him I'm not gonna be disrespected and he said he doesn't care and he don't feel bad, like WTF?!!!
Mantha03 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 How bad could a 3way phone call be? I've had to talk to my boyfriends parents on the phone too who live out of state and the first day of meeting them I was stuck inside by myself with them for an hour, so awkward but it made him happy that I took the time to get to know those dear to his heart. Yes, you are over reacting. The phone call will be over before you know it, maybe he went a little far to say what he did. That just shows that your hurt him, men tend to get mean when they are hurt. I am very close to my family and someone who doesn't like them or isn't willing to get to know them by any means is out. Rather it be that they are scared or nervous I still expect my significant other to take the time and want to speak to my family. Yes, it may be soo awkward but it's only a phone call. It's not worth losing a 2 year relationship, assuming that it's one worth keeping.
Noproblem Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I think he has the right to be upset and angry, you simply disappointed him However, he shouldn't be disrespectful and you shouldn't let him be disrespectful to you. 1
ali_g Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Yes you are. Obviously neither you nor your bf are grown up enough to know how to handle situations with communication. The ideal scenario: Him: Honey wanna talk to my parents tomorrow? You: Baby you know I'm a bit socially awkward... I would feel really uncomfortable if I did. Him: I understand baby, but can you at least try for a minute or two... otherwise it will leave me feeling like you don't want anything serious out of this. How about you step out of your comfort zone for me this one time and I'll cook you dinner tonight. You: Ok baby... you're the best. Then he ****s you really well and you moan for hours. THE END. Edit: honestly for him not meeting his parents might be a deal breaker. Noone can tell you who's right or wrong, but are you willing to throw your relationship away for a stupid phone convo?
Lani Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Him: Honey wanna talk to my parents tomorrow? You: Baby you know I'm a bit socially awkward... I would feel really uncomfortable if I did. Him: I understand baby, but can you at least try for a minute or two... otherwise it will leave me feeling like you don't want anything serious out of this. How about you step out of your comfort zone for me this one time and I'll cook you dinner tonight. You: Ok baby... you're the best. ^Nobody calls their partner this many gross names in one conversation. If they do, then that's just gross. OP, I do think you overreacted a little. But so did he. I get that it makes you uncomfortable, but you need to step out of your zone sometimes, it's where all the fun and adventure is. In my opinion, these things are much easier to handle when just thrown at your. No time to prepare or worry, you just jump right in and do what you can. But I also understand that you didn't appreciate that. I suggest you talk to him properly about it, and tell him that you'll do it, but he can't just spring it on you. Good luck!
KungFuJoe Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Ok just not too long ago my boyfriend of almost two years called me and was like his parents called and wanted to three way with them me and him. I dunno...are the parents cute? This might be one for the bucket list.... 2
Lani Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I dunno...are the parents cute? This might be one for the bucket list.... That would be a 4 way?
ExpatInItaly Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I understand why he's upset. I would be too, if I felt my partner wouldn't speak to my parents. You need to explain very clearly and calmly to him why you turned down the phone call. Honestly and bluntly, for this one, I see your boyfriend's point of view and would be wondering if I were wasting my time too.
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I dunno...are the parents cute? This might be one for the bucket list.... Sadly, this was the first thing that crossed my mind too! 2
sabre80 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Sadly, this was the first thing that crossed my mind too! HAHA I had to read the first couple sentences a couple times myself before going "ooOOOOOOOooohhh. . . CONFERENCE call 3 way"
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I know! I was wondering, the MILF or the DILF since it's a three-way? Either way, fun times at the dinner table come Thanksgiving...
miss_jaclynrae Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 ^Nobody calls their partner this many gross names in one conversation. If they do, then that's just gross. My boyfriend and I would disgust you. That is almost exactly how we talk to one another. 1
ChatroomHero Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I think that is kind of a weird request to 3-way call meet his parents. I mean what would you even talk about? How would he introduce you, "Mom, Dad, this is my gf's voice". Seriously, what are they going to do, a phone interview? It's one thing to meet his parents in person but to meet them via phone is pretty odd. If my gf called me and asking me to conference in to "meet" her parents I'd probably tell her only if my parents could join the call. I think that's kind of weird unless his parents call and you are there and he has his phone on speaker phone.
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