aaron1318 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Me and my girlfriend been together for 2 months, and I love her so much she's so sweet and nice. However it turns me out when she said she had a friend with benefit who was in a long-distance relationship. She said they only have had a couple of times last October, and haven't talked each other since this January. Because she said he moved to other city about an hour from her house. She also explained me that the reason she had a friend with benefit with him was she was single and she had high curiosity of sex, his big body, and she thought he would move onto her from his gf. So I asked her if you would meet him again, and she said it was possible because she was single and she wouldn't do it since she has a boyfriend(me). She also admitted that she had been with someone who was in the relationship, but she never cheated on her ex when she was in the relationship. I didn't know what to tell her so I just said okay and changed the topic. I don't know how should I take this, personally I don't believe in any friend with benefit, but I was trying to understand her, but the fact she had been in a sexual relationship with someone already has a girlfriend. Now I'm also afraid what if she ends up cheating on me later. Please help me how to deal with this situation..
germain Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 From what I understand it sounded as though she liked the guy, but he didn't end up leaving his girlfriend for her? So was it really a FWB relationship if she was pursuing more with him? That said, get over it. People have pasts, and it's generally a good idea to avoid bringing up complicated situations such as this one. There are a lot of factors as to why things happened the way they did. You will never fully understand them and these sort of conversations just lead to one person feeling upset. I tell my gf about random stories involving exs, but it never goes much deeper than that. She was "the other girl" and hopefully felt bad about it. She's even mentioning it to you. Perhaps she has learned from the mistake? If you want things to work out, you have to give her a shot regardless of her past.
Noproblem Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I don't know...... Give it time, don't be crazy about her from the beginning. Let everything move slowly and steadily, if she really cares about you, you'll know that in about 2 to 3 month
SuperGeek Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 If you want a virgin, then go date a catholic nun. Otherwise, you need to realize that girls will most likely have had more partners than you. Women have virtually unlimited supply of men to choose from for many years of their life ( some will disagree with me on this ). SuperGeek
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 No matter how she presents the story or parses her words, the key fact here is that she doesn't respect the boundaries of a committed relationship when it suits her purposes. Is that the type of character or value system you wish for in a girlfriend? Only you can answer that question as it pertains to you.
SensitiveTJ Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 If it were me, I would hit the eject button. I don't believe in cheating(duh) or FWB, so I move on from those situations. However, this is your play, so do what you feel is right. My advice would be don't try to make it work with someone who has different sexual values, as it's hard to see how that gets resolved to anyone's satisfaction.
hppr Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 You've only known her for a couple months, you need to give it at least 3-4 more before making any real judgements about a long term relationship.
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