machine37 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 im from va and I had been talking to this woman from ga since july2012. my cousin from ga told me bout her and at first i didnt want to talk to her due to the fact she had 2 kids and had been divorced for 3 years. My cousin had been her best friend for over 12 years. She invited me to her bday party in sep but i didnt think it was a good idea cause i didnt know her that long to be traveling like that. so i sent her a lil bday gift and she said she liked it. but this relationship took almost a tragic turn when i decided to go visit her in october. i rented a car from the airport and drove to ga on a friday and got into a accident with it due to a brief seizure i had while i was driving. She called hospitals around va looking for me and she finally got me at a hospital in richmond. she wanted to come but i suggested her to not come cause i didnt want to put her through all that driving. But things started to change after that between us. She was talking bout coming to va for my bday in november and didnt come according to her having to work that weekend. that hurt me but what hurt me even worst was she promised to send me a bday gift and i never got it. Later she promised to send me both my bday gift she never send me along with my christmas gift which to this day i never received. I started complaining bout why i didnt get those gifts and all she told me was shes not the post office. She works as a shift manager at burger king now which i motivated her to go after and she admitted that. I think that had an effect on our relationship throughout. She would go missing for three to four days without a text or a phone call and that had me worried. i would text her good morning every day and we would chat daily before her job became a distraction to the point when i barely get a response from her. we would have arduments and disagreements bout this constantly and i would think bout just breaking with her but i had some feelings for her. She said she loved me two to three mths after we started talking and we hadnt met yet. we still have not met yet till this day. I got her lotions from bath and body works for christmas and a card for valentines day. Some friends and family have tried to tell me shes bad news and shes using me but i have no listen. at least a week ago, afriend i went to college with told me shes been liking me for a while and i guess was so flattered that i told my ga boo that our relationship was having complications and was saying that if i wanted to break up with her, go ahead cause she was tired of hearing me complaining bout our relationship. This other woman is from my state of va and we chatted a lot on facebook and i never knew she liked me until now. I feel guilty cause i let my ga woman go over a woman's crush on me even though i have not been happy in this relationship for a while now. i accidently blocked my ga woman on facebook cause of this but i unblocked now and we are friends again on facebook but i dont think things are going to be the same between us. There are trust issues between us which i feel is mostly on her end cause i cant trust her for some reason cause of the broken promises from her. I miss her and i wish i could fix whats going on between us but im wondering should i put myself through this again.
justwhoiam Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I don't know... How old are you? First of all, calling someone your girlfriend and you have never met her sounds awkward to me. I mean at least meeting her up for an hour would be something to begin with. Also... I don't think it's like cattle market. You see who's interest and go in that direction. I mean, it's wise of you to pick someone who's at least interested in you, but love's something else. It's not like "hmm, let's see, this one listens to me when I need it, the other one didn't buy me anything for Christmas, though she promised to..." What about attraction? Falling in love? Butterflies in your stomach? Or is all that out of the picture? Maybe once she's interested in you, you're automatically attracted to her? Also, I understand you were bothered about broken promises, but why didn't you go see her after that accident? I agree there's a lot of tension now between the two of you, but it's your fault too.
Author machine37 Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 (edited) im 37 and she is 43. She is beautiful and used to text me pics of herself occasionally. i always put them on my facebook page so my friends could see how beautiful she is and how she has made me feel special. She would complain that i would put our business on facebook sometimes. we would say i love u to each other almost every day. i admit i have my faults but i had good reason sometimes to worry. i didnt hear from her for days at a time and i would text her sometimes to find out whats going on and she will say thats she at work or her cell phone is cut off. There were a couple of times she would ask me for money but i didnt feel comfortable about giving money to a person i have not met yet even though i had feelings for. i would always tell her i had bills to pay and i did. i did not go see her after my accident cause i couldnt drive for at least 6 mths according to va state law for people who have seizures behind the wheel and i rather be able to drive while im visiting her. i miss her and i wish i could have her back in my life. She just texted me recently and we had a talk bout our breakup and she called me a liar and a cheater and i did not cheat on her. Edited April 3, 2013 by machine37
justwhoiam Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 I can only talk for myself, as I don't know this woman. Personally, I need a lot of reassurance before I get to trust someone. Not the kind of reassurance coming from words, rather actions. I'm not sure what it took her to ask for money, maybe it was very hard for her, or maybe it was no big deal and she thought she could get advantage of you. You did the right thing not giving her any money, but at the same time, that didn't help her trust you. You could have made up for that some other way. Also, you bought stuff for her. If that happened after she let you know that she was needing money, it probably increased your communication problems.
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