I'm Back.

[KatZee]

And no person has the right to condemn you on how you repair your heart, because no one knows how much you’re hurting.

 

Do you think you're the only person on the face of the planet to have a broken heart? To have had someone break up with you and shatter your world when you thought you'd get married and live together for life with that person? Do you think you're the only person who has had to struggle day in and day out to move on and to force yourself to be happy when you want to crawl in a hole and die? You are NOT the only person going through these things. All of us here on LS have gone through it, and most of us long term members HAVE come through on the other side.

 

We have all fought tooth and nail to be better people. To rise up above the hurt we have all felt. I myself have climbed from rock bottom to get to where I am right now, so I don't think it's right to think none of us know the hurt of being where you are.

 

The only difference between us, and you is that we've done the work. We've pushed, and created boundaries for ourselves. We have listened to others who have been in our shoes. We have stuck to our proclamations of "NO CONTACT." We have blocked. We have ignored. It is HARD WORK. And anyone who tells you other wise is lying.

 

The thing I agree with here is that you focus too much of your time on this person. You have made this person such a priority that you are nothing to yourself. What have you done FOR YOU in the last 30, 60, or 90 days?

 

You can really tell each of us here that you're legitimately happy? I can't fathom how you're happy when you allow someone to treat you as if you're disposable. How can grasping at the crumbs he throws at you actually fulfill you on any real level? How can you be happy when you aren't even out in the world living life? You're not experiencing anything. You're too busy focusing and prioritizing someone who makes you an option.

 

Are you scared of moving on? Is that why you refuse to? Are you scared of the pain you're going to feel? If this is it, then you're going to be stuck in your perpetual limbo for the rest of your life. You will be damned to repeating this pattern over, and over, and over, and over, and over. How does that quote go? "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results."

 

There are no other results here. This guy does not love you. This is not love. He is not your boyfriend. He is not stability. He does not want you. He does not want to and will not marry you. You will never have a great relationship with this person.

 

Walk away. Just stop it and walk away. Fill your life with other things. Meet new friends. Find hobbies you enjoy. Find passion in your life besides a person who just wants to be around for a free f.uck. PLEASE get into therapy. You desperately need it. You are unable to go through life on your own, you are not a strong person. You are easily impressionable, you are naive even though your rational mind tells you things are wrong and that you should move on.

 

You need someone to help you get to that level of strength so you can find your two feet to stand on. From your response it honestly sounds like you want to be coddled. How old are you? 25? 26? Being coddled only works for so long. We were all so supportive of you months ago. We were there for you. We motivated you. But unless you are feeling that within YOURSELF, you are NEVER going to do a damn thing.

 

Here: You are a wonderful person. You are worth more. You can get over him. You can have a happy life. You can do it. You will find love again.

 

Is this what you're looking for?

[youngnlove89]

Do you think you're the only person on the face of the planet to have a broken heart? To have had someone break up with you and shatter your world when you thought you'd get married and live together for life with that person? Do you think you're the only person who has had to struggle day in and day out to move on and to force yourself to be happy when you want to crawl in a hole and die? You are NOT the only person going through these things. All of us here on LS have gone through it, and most of us long term members HAVE come through on the other side.

 

We have all fought tooth and nail to be better people. To rise up above the hurt we have all felt. I myself have climbed from rock bottom to get to where I am right now, so I don't think it's right to think none of us know the hurt of being where you are.

 

The only difference between us, and you is that we've done the work. We've pushed, and created boundaries for ourselves. We have listened to others who have been in our shoes. We have stuck to our proclamations of "NO CONTACT." We have blocked. We have ignored. It is HARD WORK. And anyone who tells you other wise is lying.

 

The thing I agree with here is that you focus too much of your time on this person. You have made this person such a priority that you are nothing to yourself. What have you done FOR YOU in the last 30, 60, or 90 days?

 

You can really tell each of us here that you're legitimately happy? I can't fathom how you're happy when you allow someone to treat you as if you're disposable. How can grasping at the crumbs he throws at you actually fulfill you on any real level? How can you be happy when you aren't even out in the world living life? You're not experiencing anything. You're too busy focusing and prioritizing someone who makes you an option.

 

Are you scared of moving on? Is that why you refuse to? Are you scared of the pain you're going to feel? If this is it, then you're going to be stuck in your perpetual limbo for the rest of your life. You will be damned to repeating this pattern over, and over, and over, and over, and over. How does that quote go? "Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results."

 

There are no other results here. This guy does not love you. This is not love. He is not your boyfriend. He is not stability. He does not want you. He does not want to and will not marry you. You will never have a great relationship with this person.

 

Walk away. Just stop it and walk away. Fill your life with other things. Meet new friends. Find hobbies you enjoy. Find passion in your life besides a person who just wants to be around for a free f.uck. PLEASE get into therapy. You desperately need it. You are unable to go through life on your own, you are not a strong person. You are easily impressionable, you are naive even though your rational mind tells you things are wrong and that you should move on.

 

You need someone to help you get to that level of strength so you can find your two feet to stand on. From your response it honestly sounds like you want to be coddled. How old are you? 25? 26? Being coddled only works for so long. We were all so supportive of you months ago. We were there for you. We motivated you. But unless you are feeling that within YOURSELF, you are NEVER going to do a damn thing.

 

Here: You are a wonderful person. You are worth more. You can get over him. You can have a happy life. You can do it. You will find love again.

 

Is this what you're looking for?

 

Thanks. What I'm looking for is to move on. That is all.

 

To be 100% honest, I have so much going on in my life right now that today I haven't even thought about him. I just got employee of the month at my new job for my integrity and warm heart. It made my day. Another on my mind is that I just lost my dog, so my heart hurts from that. I had her for 10 years since she was a puppy. I miss my baby. As far as my ex goes, he is the LAST thing on my mind.

 

After he told me:

1) "The sex has gotta stop" as IF I forced him to succumb to my intercourse.

2) "I would lose an erection just thinking about getting your pregnant"

3) The fact that he is OKAY with abortion

And MANY other countless reasons that I should have let go along time ago!

 

My mom always said, there will be a day when you are FINALLY just done with it all, after you have tired yourself from putting up with all of his sh.it, you will finally stop caring and move on.

 

I think that day has come.