AwptiK Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Hey all. Not going to get into details and such, but my ex and I had things end 3 weeks ago now. It was all clean and respectable as far as the breakup is concerned, and understandable on my part. We talk casually, here and there..but I guess I hit rock bottom today. I went through a ton of pain the past few days, and now I feel like Ive hit the anger stage. I have been so mad lately. She's in nursing school and is halfway through her finals week. I sent her a recording of me playing a song that got her through her basic training when she was in the army. All she said was "studying" and then said she was too busy making sure she could get deans list for this term. It wasn't even a bad conversation but I'm so agitated tonight. Excuse me for trying to be a friend to someone I still care about. Did I want her to respond super well? No. I just wanted to show support. Christ.
CC12 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Excuse me for trying to be a friend to someone I still care about. Did I want her to respond super well? No. I just wanted to show support. To be fair, that gesture does not seem like you're simply trying to be a supportive friend. If I were on the receiving end of that song, I would think he was trying to dredge up the past, or pull on my heart strings, or something. So I can really understand why she didn't really acknowledge it. Try not to be too upset. 1
cdt76 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 You need to stop contacting her. As hard as that is to do and as much as it hurts, it is what you NEED to do. Take up boxing. It's incredibly erobic and you get to take out your anger in a positive way. 1
geegirl Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Honestly, when someone is not emotionally invested or attached to you anymore, especially after ending it, gestures like that scream desperate and comes off annoying. "Studying" was her way of setting a boundary for herself. She's not playing into it because she does not want to give you any ideas, which she believes you have when you sent that song. And you were not showing support. You were showing her what a wonderful and thoughtful guy you are in hopes of reminding her of what she is missing. 2
fabulousgal Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Yeah, support comes when you are her boyfriend. You were (I think) never friends first, so you have no reason to be a supportive friend now. I think NC would help you feel better, forget her. You won't be so concerned about her reactions that way. Let her come to you if it was amicable and a matter of timing like you said the conversation went before. But don't put yourself on hold! I am sorry your feelings were hurt. I would imagine mine would be too with my ex. 2
Author AwptiK Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 Thanks for all the support everyone. I hardly even remember making this thread or being as mad as I sound. All's fine now, as far as being mad and dumb is.
RiceaRoni Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Thanks for all the support everyone. I hardly even remember making this thread or being as mad as I sound. All's fine now, as far as being mad and dumb is. It's okay to feel anger, just let it help you move on rather than be stagnant and letting it fester over things that won't help you. Go out and have some fun Don't worry about her..you did all you could and now it's time to indulge for yourself..if you still feel angry or ever do..just run or cycle or kickboxing..anything physical sports wise helps a lot.
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