Norse Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 This hopefully wont be that long of a read but here goes, I'll start off with some background information first. I was introduced to my gf through a good friend of mine she was a friend of his gf, we talked as friends last year and I had eventually decided not to pursue her as she seemed still attached to the father of her child until as of this year. I eventually dropped all communication with her last year and dated someone else who I ended up leaving due to her drug addiction. Anyway we started talking again around November of last year 24/7 and even hanging out on the ocassion which seemed to progress to friends with benefits which I'm about to explain. Eventually I asked her if she would go out with me she told me she wasn't over the father of her child yet, wasn't ready for a relationship. She told me if he met someone else she would get over him and be with me, well about a month ago she asked me out and of course I said yes. I have to travel a good distance to see her because I moved to another town last year. When we do see one another any form of attention on a physical level(kissing, hugging etc) has to be initated by me, she doesnt ever kiss me unless I bring her a gift or something. I've asked her why she doesn't feel affectionate towards me and she said she doesn't know, I asked if it was something about me maybe I was physically unattractive to her or something was up with my personality and she told me no not at all. She told me at about the time we started dating that she hoped we could stay together and be a family, and would constantly tell me she missed me and begged me to come see her, but not even that anymore. She tells me the only reason she hasn't been seeing me is because she's so busy. But I feel like I'm in a one sided relationship and that she doesn't care about me the way I do about her. And I asked her once if I should just leave because at about the time she started dating me she mentioned another guy that she wanted to give a chance and she told me if I left she would miss me, I guess they got into it one night and she hasn't mentioned anything about him since. I'm just not sure what to do in this situation, I mean I could attempt to leave her based off of it being so one sided but I'm very very sure I'd end up regretting it I care a lot about her I've paid her bills when she couldnt pay them and I've taken money I really didn't have to spend and bought her and her daughter things because I cant stand to see them do without. My only other option is to continue what this is in hopes of her eventually developing some feeling of affection towards me. What do you guys think?
Noproblem Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 She is still not ready....Be patient, or other wise find someone else whom you deserve!
TaraMaiden Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Wow, talk about being a soft-touch patsy!! How much more are you going to invest in her before you get that this is going nowhere? You're a handy, convenient emotional/financial crutch. Bail, now. You're investing too much and getting absolutely no return. Even a Stock-Broker doesn't take pointless risks like this one!! You need to totally give up on this one and fall off her radar. She will only contact you again when she wants something.. Mark my words.... No sex? GTF outta here.....
Mint Sauce Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 she projects onto you the possibility of having a functional family within a short time frame, the possibility to regain what she just lost. Unfortunately, you, as a person, are irrelevant in her construction, well at least beyond the fact that she thinks you're a good guy to whom she could in principle be deeply attracted, but unfortunately isn't. Sorry, but this will not lead to a good place.
ChessPieceFace Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 you're a handy, convenient emotional/financial crutch. Bail, now. ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^
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