Cabinet Posted April 4, 2013 Posted April 4, 2013 Let me help you. No one, man or woman, younger or older has suggested that you do anything but break up with him. ABSOLUTELY NO ONE thinks it is a good idea for you to do the "long distance" option. Consider that. Darling, you already ARE that girl who is clinging to a dead relationship. Quit having these "talks" where he "sincerely" reassures you that he still wants you. He is saying that out of GUILT and nothing more...and it's giving you hope. Something to cling to. End it now. End it quit. Move back in with your parents if you have to. This hurts now..,but it will hurt even worse when you forfeit your dignity by clinging to a dead relationship. And go buy yourself the book "It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken" It is a fantastic book and really applicable to your situation. It will completely change your perspective. It is written by the same guy who wrote "He's Just Not That Into You" and it is great advice as well as being kind of funny. Even better, buy the audiobook from Itunes and listen to him read it to you. He was a stand up comedian so he is really good. Seriously, do this. It will help!
ExpatInItaly Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 ...Or should I try the long distance thing for a couple months and see if this is the space he needs? I'm going back and forth a lot with this whole deal and can't seem to make a solid decision. He seems to really want this to work but, understandably, is also wanting to get that feeling of independence. I appreciate his honesty. I really care about him. I just don't want to be 'that girl' that clings to a relationship with a death grip until theres nothing left. Holy crap, NO.
phineas Posted April 6, 2013 Posted April 6, 2013 ...Or should I try the long distance thing for a couple months and see if this is the space he needs? I'm going back and forth a lot with this whole deal and can't seem to make a solid decision. He seems to really want this to work but, understandably, is also wanting to get that feeling of independence. I appreciate his honesty. I really care about him. I just don't want to be 'that girl' that clings to a relationship with a death grip until theres nothing left. No, it doesn't seem he wants it to work out. If he did, he wouldn't be moving to a different city.
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