billybob223 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Ok there are many examples of this how can you tell when a women really mean no and you should back off like asking for there number, or asking them back to your place or touching them in a flirty way because sometimes women may pretend they dont want to but actually do but when a women tells me no i automatically leave and do not bother them anymore so how can i actually tell that she wants me to keep trying and is only telling me no as a defense mechanism?
Object_a Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 "No" is quite final, don't you think? It should be pretty clear when someone is teasing because they'll look like they're having fun and their body language will signal that they would be receptive to your advances. "No" is pretty much the complete opposite of that. If you don't respect that you'll come across as a creep with entitlement issues. 2
chex Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 "no" isn't just the word -- it's also how they respond .. like if you tickle someone, and they're generally receptive but they go "nooooo stoooooop" then you can probably keep going a bit more, but if they try to kick or push you away with a more serious look on their face, they probably mean it. When almost all signals point towards "no" .. it means no. Plus even girls who pretend to not want it might respect you more for respecting their space/privacy/body.
Crila16 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 No means no. It's not any different coming out of a women's mouth than it is from a man's. I'm confused as to why you would think any differently? No really does mean no to both sexes...remember that. We learn what No means and what Yes means from a very early age. It would be wise if you listened to a woman when she says no and didn't try to push and manipulate in order to get what you wanted.
EasyHeart Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 I'm not familiar with the word. I figure it's okay unless the tazer or pepper spray comes out.
ltjg45 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Really, the 1st time a female tells me "No", that's it. I don't need to hear the word 2-3 more times to get the message. 2
dasein Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 (edited) "No" "stop" "go away" mean exactly that. However that's not what OP is talking about, because women rarely say those things directly, and anyone with any common sense at all knows what they mean when they hear them in a direct way. In the broader mating game, "no" is often expressed by moving your hand off of her tit... yet still kissing you. Saying things like "I'm not going to sleep with you," then jumping you and dragging you into bed 5 minutes later. Etc. Basically, "I want what I want, and what you want doesn't matter." "No" in those contexts doesn't always mean "no," sometimes means "maybe" or "not yet." OP when you hear it, stop doing whatever it is she likes, like kissing, immediately, and disengage, then wait for the usual "what's wrong?" or "why are you leaving?" Don't show any poutiness or attitude at all, just smile and start to disengage, remove the attention. That's how they learn that mating games are a two-way street, not strictly an exercise in what she wants that discounts entirely what you want. Take away, or begin to take away what she likes, and she will often realize she needs to calculate what you want and like into things. If she doesn't, move on to other more giving options. Edited April 2, 2013 by dasein 1
sillyanswer Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 No, simply put, means no. It doesn't mean-continue until she gives in, or calls the cops or knees you in the balls. If a girl tells you no, respect that and move on, else you come off like a total creep. Agreed. When she says "no" and knees you in the balls, then the previous "no" really did mean "no". But... if the action that's eliciting a "no" response is physical rather than verbal (perhaps considering the examples from the OP about flirty touching or asking for a number) I'd err much more on the side of caution with the physical thing. Asking for something and getting a "no" isn't necessarily the same as doing something and getting a "no".
ltjg45 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 This is why I don't follow my heart and I just use logic in that scenario. If she tells me "No", simply put, I'm not going to do it again unless she tells me to do so. I'm not going to think if she is saying it to be a different meaning or anything of that nature. You tell me "No", I literally will believe that you do not want me to either do that action or to stop going forward with said action. 1
Estate Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Ok there are many examples of this how can you tell when a women really mean no and you should back off like asking for there number, or asking them back to your place or touching them in a flirty way because sometimes women may pretend they dont want to but actually do but when a women tells me no i automatically leave and do not bother them anymore so how can i actually tell that she wants me to keep trying and is only telling me no as a defense mechanism? Even the title of this thread sounds so rapey. No means No man. What your referring to is if a girl is being playful with you. You kiss her neck and she's laughing, smiling and saying "Stop,you'll give me a hickey". She's obviously liking you kissing her. But if you ask a girl for her number and she says with a deadpan face "No" then you walk away... doing anything else would be pretty wrong.
StanMusial Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 In an intimate situation better play it to the safe side and accept "No" at face value. I have seen guys in a club setting be totally clueless to a girl's body language. I don't know if it is the alcohol or just general lack of social skills. If you try to talk to a group of girls and they ignore you, give you short answers, and form a tight ring with you on the outside, that means "HELL NO CREEPER LEAVE US ALONE". It is painful to watch a guy feebly attempt to break down the wall but I have seen it a number of times. 1
SJC2008 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Do you mean if they use the word no? Seldom will a woman flat out say no to giving a number. She'll give it to you hoping you call or give it to you and flake. In an intimate situation if the word no used you need to respect it and stop right away. Now there's what I call saving face resistance. When I was messing around witht the last woman I went out with I went for her breasts and she gave the most half assed "hey" lol. That was a no that meant "Keep going I just don't want you to think xyz about me". We had sex.
todreaminblue Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Ok there are many examples of this how can you tell when a women really mean no and you should back off like asking for there number, or asking them back to your place or touching them in a flirty way because sometimes women may pretend they dont want to but actually do but when a women tells me no i automatically leave and do not bother them anymore so how can i actually tell that she wants me to keep trying and is only telling me no as a defense mechanism? when i say no....i mean it....i dont believe i should have to scream it for it to be understood.....no should be enough to show what i want.......and no means back off....deb 1
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