Does sending flowers work?

[alexuk]

Ex broke up with me saying she needs space to see her true feelings..then went through a week saying lets try again/lets not, and so forth, now we're on NC for thinking time.

 

I'm not talking to her at the moment, but was thinking to send her some flowers during this time (her thinking time), to be spontaneous/suprise her and be romantic (I don't think any guys have done this for her before).

 

Is this a bad idea? would it come across desperate or romantic?

 

thanks

[ThatJustHappened]

Desperate.

[cavalier99]

Nothing works except them chaging their mind on thier own which rarley happens. You need to stay NC. Sorry.

[Sososad]

Not a great idea .. She's asked for space give the girl space .. Sorry to be harsh but you could push her further away!

[geegirl]

You're trying to tug at her heartstrings and show her how sweet and wonderful you are. Don't do it.

 

No flowers. Stay NC. You should be using this time to figure out if you want a relationship with someone that isn't sure about wanting you in their life. Sitting around waiting to get chosen? You have a say as well.

[lastresort]

I've had the same thought of sending flowers. I bought her flowers just about every two weeks when we lived together. My hardest thing is not asking for a second chance. I quit asking last week and now she has been in my bed 2 of the last three days. She calls me every night for hours of conversation. She wants her time to figure out her life with out the pressure of a relationship. So I guess I'm getting best of both worlds this week.

[geegirl]

She wants her time to figure out her life with out the pressure of a relationship. So I guess I'm getting best of both worlds this week.

 

How is that the best of both worlds, unless you want the same things she does. She's getting the best of both worlds. Not you.

 

She's just putting you on the backburner until she decides what she wants to do. What happens when she figures out her life (and that means you), and sadly it does not include you?

[ThatJustHappened]

How is that the best of both worlds, unless you want the same things she does. She's getting the best of both worlds. Not you.

 

She's just putting you on the backburner until she decides what she wants to do. What happens when she figures out her life (and that means you), and sadly it does not include you?

 

I was literally about to post the same thing..almost word for word..

 

Get out of my head GeeGirl!!! You won't like what you find in there...

[siankat]

i think that is a lovely thought and gesture but dont do it

[geegirl]

Get out of my head GeeGirl!!! You won't like what you find in there...

 

kk...I make U turn but who knows...we just might have the same mess in there!

[fabulousgal]

You're trying to tug at her heartstrings and show her how sweet and wonderful you are. Don't do it.

 

No flowers. Stay NC. You should be using this time to figure out if you want a relationship with someone that isn't sure about wanting you in their life. Sitting around waiting to get chosen? You have a say as well.

 

That is great perspective. I mean, I understand it happens, I know people who have broken up and then gotten married for pete's sake. But I think the breaks are usually longer than a couple weeks or whatever - talking like months/years.

 

But, the idea of not sitting around to get chosen is spot on. You do have a say. Geegirl, that really helped me look at my situation in a different light, for at least five minutes, until I go start sulking again

[geegirl]

Geegirl, that really helped me look at my situation in a different light, for at least five minutes, until I go start sulking again

 

At least a seed was planted in your head! You can go back to sulking in 5 but I am sure you'll go back and ponder here and there and maybe find it in you at some point to decide your own fate.