polo girl Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Caught up with a guy that I knew from years ago. We would catch up for coffee and spend hours chatting. He would flirt with me but I always pushed back his advances as I believed our friendship was too important. He kept telling me how wonderful I was, how special, yada yada yada. You get the picture. I was always nonchalant around him and never let him know what I felt as I didn't know. All I knew is that we were friends and we didn't lie to each other. Well, how wrong was I! Logged onto fb tonight and he plastered his one year anniversary all over his wall with his girlfriend - a girl that he claimed he broke up with as he felt nothing for her. Clearly he is full of manure. As he clearly publicized this to me and his other 1000 'friends', he evidently made a statement. I want to 'like' his photo and then delete him as a 'friend'. I want him to know that I have seen it and by liking it I don't want anymore contact. Lucky I was astute enough not to even allow him to kiss me as I thought our friendship was real and to be honest, I felt no spark. Why is it so difficult to have a male friend? Ugh Polo Girl
MidwestUSA Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Ah, jealousy rears its ugly head. You obviously felt a lot more for him than you want us to believe. For if he is just a friend, why is it a problem that he has a girlfriend? And why would you believe that of the 1001 friends who were so priveledged to see his post, it was targeted at you, to make you miserable?
Author polo girl Posted April 2, 2013 Author Posted April 2, 2013 I never felt anything romantic towards him. I do, however, feel that I've been lied to. To have a gf for a year and not let me know is dishonest. And to try to lead me on while he has a gf is immoral. He even sent me Valentine gifts that I did not reciprocate as I didn't want to lead him on. I was always honest with him and really opened up about my life. Things that I hadn't told a soul as I trusted him. So not jealousy as much as betrayal.
Crila16 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Wow...you're confusing me. You say you didn't like him, that you just wanted to be friends...and then you flip out when he posts a pic of his anniversary all over his profile. You're calling him FOS because of all the things he said to you, but you rejected him...so he went on with his life. What was he supposed to do? It's one of 2 things. Either you liked him more than you said you did...or you liked him liking you and the attention he gave to you, and now some other woman has it.
Author polo girl Posted April 2, 2013 Author Posted April 2, 2013 Neither. He lied to me. He was making moves on me constantly and I would always push him away. If I knew that he had a gf, I would have put a stop to the banter long ago. We spent a great deal of time together. I even cried to him over another guy! I opened up to him and he never once said that he was back with his ex gf. Seriously felt nothing romantically. If anything, I kept speaking about this guy who is studying in NY all the time. And I never once said that his proclamation on fb was directed at me. Just don't know why he never told me about her. I was honest with him.
Treasa Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 I can see why you'd be annoyed. That would piss me off, too. I don't like it when friends are blatantly dishonest about certain things. Don't like his post. Just unfriend him and go about your business. 1
Author polo girl Posted April 2, 2013 Author Posted April 2, 2013 Thanks Treasa, took your advice and unfriended. 1
Crila16 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Yeah...then if that's the case, I feel bad for his girlfriend. Little did she know what a player of a boyfriend she has. Smart...I would have defriended him too. What a creep.
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