Ryan_B Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 On the 17th February my girlfriend split up from me. We were both 20 (I'm now 21) at the time and she was my first ever girlfriend. I was heartbroken at the time and really struggled mentally. The thing is though, I still think about her constantly, I still love her to bits and am still convinced she's the one for me! I keep seeing her in my mind. Hearing her laugh, seeing her smile, feel her holding onto me, I see her laying beside me at night (we always stayed round one anothers). I just feel empty. I've started texting another girl, she seems nice, BUT SHE'S NOT MY EX!! We were so comfortable with each other, could say anything to each other, no matter how personal, private or dirty. We were always laughing together, touching each other (literally anywhere on our bodies!) at any time or place, we were just so close, comfortable and ''connected''. We were together 7, nearly 8 months and it seemed so perfect. I just can't imagine meeting anybody who is as open, and feel as comfortable being as close as we were. I thought by now it'd be getting easier, but it really isn't.
Author Ryan_B Posted April 2, 2013 Author Posted April 2, 2013 Has anybody got any tips, advice or thoughts haha?
misswillow Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Well, I think this is normal. I am much older than you, but still feel the same way about my ex. So unfortunately I don't have any advice to help you feel differently (because I wish I knew!), but I can definitely relate. The best thing to do, as everyone advises, is not not be in contact with her and hopefully time will do its job. And just remember, you weren't always that close to your ex, you first had to meet her and get to know her over time. So there's no reason you can't do that with another girl someday and achieve the same level of closeness and happiness, or even more. 1
MushyPeas Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 I feel for a start you should stop looking so far ahead and ground yourself a bit, there is literally no good in thinking that you're never going to meet anyone as perfect, there's a whole lotta people in the world so chances are, you're going to meet someone better and you'll have the added bonus of being able to apply what you've learned form this relationship to the new one. But for that to happen you need to be thinking "mememememememememe"...so start working on yourself, things will fall into place but you have to start with a strong foundation, so make yourself stronger and better. Everyone's healing process is gonna be different, for me, I'm surprised how quickly things have changed and started getting better, I really expected it to be years (drama queen right here) so don't beat yourself up about that, it takes as long as it takes but you have to set the ball rolling. 1
BrokenHeartedSavior Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 Well, I think this is normal. I am much older than you, but still feel the same way about my ex. So unfortunately I don't have any advice to help you feel differently (because I wish I knew!), but I can definitely relate. The best thing to do, as everyone advises, is not not be in contact with her and hopefully time will do its job. And just remember, you weren't always that close to your ex, you first had to meet her and get to know her over time. So there's no reason you can't do that with another girl someday and achieve the same level of closeness and happiness, or even more. As misswillow said "time will do its job" I too am much older than you, but it stings just as much. We fortunately have the benefit of knowing that time heals everything.
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