Mr_hopeless Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 (edited) I got a date with a lovely girl who I saw out in town yesterday. I am usually nervous around girls and don't like to approach them in public, but I thought to myself "F**k it, lets do it!" and I started off asking her directions and once she told me, I just asked if she lived in the area and then I just proceeded to make small talk. In the end, I asked for her number and maybe we could meet some time and she gave me her number. We were exchanging a few texts during the day, then in the evening I summoned up the courage AGAIN to call and ask her out for a coffee today. So, we are meeting in around 3 hours and I'm nervous still. I am starting to doubt myself and wonder why the hell she is even going on a date with me. I am actually broke, seriously, I haven't got any money and haven't got a car. I am 24 and I'm broke, yet I've got this date with this lovely girl. Don't get me wrong, I have enough money to buy us coffee though. Help me, please lend advice on how to stop doubting myself? I was diagnosed with depression just over a year ago, so for me, this is an amazing step I've made to even bag this date. Edited April 2, 2013 by Mr_hopeless
Noproblem Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 What can I say...... If she is a nice, lovely girls like you claim, she'll be the step to push to be a better person Taking the first step is always hard and scary, but you can do it, I know you can!
OzGuy776 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 (edited) Ok mate, here is my advice 1. Stop doubting yourself, be real with yourself and get confident about your coffee date with this lovely girl 2. Wear something nice, go in happy and have a good conversation, enjoy coffee and see where things go from there. Maybe it will end there, if she offers you her number take it. Maybe she'll suggest you go for a walk? a lot of girls like going for walks, I know I do 3. After your date, hand out some resumes to fix your financial dilemma. Financial security is vital to living today, not only to maintain relationships but to exist, really. That is my advice mate, but just be confident, relax, take a breath, talk to this girl and get to know each other, you will be fine and let us know how it goes for you! Edit: Just want to edit in an addition to my first point, this girl sees SOMETHING in you to have said yes to you mate. Even if nothing comes of your date, don't ever forget that. If she said yes, you have something there my friend, and that is something you should be proud of Edited April 2, 2013 by OzGuy776 2
todreaminblue Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 (edited) I got a date with a lovely girl who I saw out in town yesterday. I am usually nervous around girls and don't like to approach them in public, but I thought to myself "F**k it, lets do it!" and I started off asking her directions and once she told me, I just asked if she lived in the area and then I just proceeded to make small talk. In the end, I asked for her number and maybe we could meet some time and she gave me her number. We were exchanging a few texts during the day, then in the evening I summoned up the courage AGAIN to call and ask her out for a coffee today. So, we are meeting in around 3 hours and I'm nervous still. I am starting to doubt myself and wonder why the hell she is even going on a date with me. I am actually broke, seriously, I haven't got any money and haven't got a car. I am 24 and I'm broke, yet I've got this date with this lovely girl. Don't get me wrong, I have enough money to buy us coffee though. Help me, please lend advice on how to stop doubting myself? I was diagnosed with depression just over a year ago, so for me, this is an amazing step I've made to even bag this date. if you wait until the stars align you will never date anyone....no one would date another..... everyone experiences problems......and it is rare that any person is problem free......go into this confident.....money isnt everything....being broke is just a situation...doesnt define who you are...thats why a lot fo people dont get married .....money, problems family whatever....they wait till the stars align and it never happens....same with dating...struggles are a part of life..how you are when you are struggling gives more clue to how you would be when things crop up ...goo times are easy to roll in.....hard times....if you can have fun you can adapt to anything life throws at you......if you can be happy while broke its refreshing...do you know how much that shows about you.....a damn lot.....go happy.....be confident and i wish you all the best....you have nothing to doubt you will have a good time....you will have fun .....and you dont need a a wad of cash in your pocket just a smile and the knowledge you are going to have fun...be inventive...be yourself...you have already got the date......that was the hardest part......deb Edited April 2, 2013 by todreaminblue 1
OzGuy776 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 if you wait until the stars align you will never date anyone....no one would date another..... everyone experiences problems......and it is rare that any person is problem free......go into this confident.....money isnt everything....being broke is just a situation...doesnt define who you are...thats why a lot fo people dont get married .....money, problems family whatever....they wait till the stars align and it never happens....same with dating...struggles are a part of life..how you are when you are struggling gives more clue to how you would be when things crop up ...goo times are easy to roll in.....hard times....if you can have fun you can adapt to anything life throws at you......if you can be happy while broke its refreshing...do you know how much that shows about you.....a damn lot.....go happy.....be confident and i wish you all the best....you have nothing to doubt you will have a good time....you will have fun .....and you dont need a a wad of cash in your pocket just a smile and the knowledge you are going to have fun...be inventive...be yourself...you have already got the date......that was the hardest part......deb Quoted for truth And I wanted to highlight this part, because it really is a true thing. 1
Melrapuo Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Just go like you're making a new friend. Less expectations mean you can just enjoy yourself and BE yourself. You aren't marrying this girl. And congrats on asking her out...if you can do that much and get a yes, then you should be glad. Good luck! 1
Crila16 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 But you're only 24 yrs old. The pressure everyone puts on themselves to be set at such a young age. Most people don't even know what they want to do at your age. Do you have goals and dreams? If you do, that's what matters. If she likes you, your current state isn't going to matter to her. Go on your date, have fun and see where it goes. Stop deciding for her, and let her make the decision on whether she's going to like you or not. 1
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