Mel123 Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 The man that I though I was going to spend the rest of my life with broke up with me about two months ago. Our relationship was a good one, from commucation to down time. What went wrong is the big questions. How do I get him back is the next big question. With the snap of your fingers it was over, I say it coming when he said need some space, and got upset and tried to talk to him which made the situation worse, he became anger I did back off for two weeks and then call him we were going to talk then he became sick and said he would call I waited for four days and received no phone call so I went to his house. He invited me in, I know that it was over when all the pictures were gone. I ask him what he did with them he said they where only paper and thought them away. He went on too tell that he could not trust me and I did not respect his feeling. These are the reasons. I mailed him a card too knowledge our six months of being together, at the time his house was a mess paper where all over the place. He was in the process of going though them. I had indicated on the card don't open until 7/9/04 he received the card on 7/7/04. When he went to read the card he could not find it, he asked me if I had taken the card back, which I did not. And I did not respect his space. I told him that I was upset and scared that I was losing touch with me that why I acted that way about him needing space and I did not take the card. I have call him a few times and left V.M. and send email's, he has not respond. He had given me a key too his house and even made space for me to leave some of my personal belongs their. Told me to come over any time I wanted too. Which I did only a few times. The longest relationship he had was 3yrs. that was when he was married. His ex wife had an affair. I never give him any reason too think of me as liar, I just freak out about the space thing. I did at first after the break up call and left V.M. which was not very nice, then called and left a V.M. tell me I was sorry, that I was not perfect. I feel that he has commitment issues, that he does not ever realize. I am at the point of going to his house too tried and talk to him and will do this in the next couple of weeks. I know that he loves me, I felt it. It is real. I not ready to give up. I will not write a letter. If he will not answer the phone return V.M. or emails. Any way in person is the best. I can read the person better. Life to short why does it have to be this way. You just can fell out of love. Even if the person did something to hurt you.You are just hurt and sad. Love is too powerful it not something you can turn on and off that easy. We had a good relationship and I am going to get it back...in a good way no matter now long it takes. We are meant for each other and I am going with my gut not my heart. How would you handle this...please respond I need advise.
Papillon Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 Refusing to move on is just deluding yourself. You're going to lose out on happiness because your eyes are going to glaze over when it hits you in the face and you ignore it.
mighty bop Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 Don't ever try to "get someone back". There is a reason they are not with you. This guy seems like an idiot. Forget about him already. Don't turn it into a fatal attraction. If he really loves you let him come back to you. It's that simple. In the meantime, stop wasting your time and do other things. Find someone else. Chris
YellowLioness Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 Girl, he's going to think you're a stalker. I know that you think he's the one for you, and may very well be. However, some people come to realize things after others. If you push him, he may tuck tail and run away. Just a thought. Also, you may be right for eachother, but not right now. Perhaps you should get more experience in dating, that way you can be sure that this guy is the one.
dyermaker Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 How would you handle this...please respond I need advise. There are rules and standards for this situation. It's protocol to cease contact with him, and attempt to move on. But then there's humanity, and since you're a human, you'll have to deal with the situation the way humans do. You do what you have to, that's all there is to it. Just realize there are consequences to your actions, and try not to break the law.
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