GiGi05 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Well, it's official. Strike 3 in my online dating attempts so I'm done with it. This one was less painful because I pretty much knew what he was looking for but I took a chance anyway and got burnt just like I knew I would. His communication slowed after the hook up and today he just didn't bother to text me at all after he got out of work. That's a first since we met so it is safe to say he got what he came for. So after something like that, do I just text him and see if he wants to make plans for the weekend giving him a chance to say no thanks and then make the assumption he got what he came for? Or do I not talk to him anymore? If he doesn't say anything to me I won't say anything to him? Or do I call him or text to give him a piece of my mind bcuz he swore to me it wasn't just about sex but obviously that's a lie. He probably wouldn't care what I had to say either way so why bother lol I'm not putting all the blame on him but when we decided to hook up I told him that I was looking for more and he said he was too. So in a way he lied to me eventhough I should have been smarter. I hate to say bcuz he didn't text me one night that he's done but I would think if he were thinking about me, he would have. I think I am just going to stop searching for love and affection. Really at this point I was just looking for someone to hang out with, hug and kiss not get all serious all fast and I'm not a prude about a casual thing it's not really what I want but I just don't enjoy being alone. I can do it, I don't need someone but I'd rather have someone. I think bcuz I'm such a nice person, I have no enemies, I'm not an ugly girl, I can meet a guy and he will fall for my personality and not want to hurt me and use me for sex but that doesn't seem to be the case. I guess my confidence in my personality is starting to fade with each rejection. I kno in this case I made myself look "easy" and went against everything I believed in but I tried doing it the right way too, got to kno him and waited and still got my heart broken. I'm starting to think it's something about myself I just wish I knew what it was. Thanks for reading...
dasein Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Are you sleeping with these guys very early? Why if you aren't truly ready to do that? Try not to get discouraged after only three OLD fails, it takes time to learn the ropes. Good luck.
Author GiGi05 Posted April 2, 2013 Author Posted April 2, 2013 This last one yes I slept with him too early. I wasn't ready but did it anyway, but this was a first. I usually wait until we have established a relationship before sleeping with them. I have been a huge advocate on that and told girls hey u wanna kno how to not get played? Stop giving it up so soon! BUT I did wait with a guy I met online, we hit it off so well and met the parents before we slept together and he still left after it went there. Obviously said it wasn't for that reason but I dunno. I figured this time do it differently. Trust me I contemplated it for a very long time b4 I did it so I kno it's my fault for allowing it to happen. Trust me it will never happen again! So I can't say guys are rejecting me bcuz I give it up too soon, this one probably did tho. He's the only one who can actually say that.
dasein Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Wasn't really getting at the why they do what they do as much as why you were doing something you may not be ready to do, and you answered that, thanks. I didn't really hit my stride OLD until I'd dated over ten different women. After that, and with some work and humility, it worked out well for me, maybe it would for you also given some more tries at it.
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