TheFriend Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 keep everything negative bottled up about you until they end a relationship? it just amazes me the smallest things that come up after the relationship is over. almost like they are looking for reasons to justify why they have ended the relationship after the fact. there is nothing better then a post breakup dagger thrown your way. I cannot even begin to relay half the disgustingly mean, immature, and heartless things my ex has said to me. my advise to any people fresh out of a breakup is to leave it be. you dont really want to keeptalking to your ex. They will only say mean things or things that will confuse you. Please learn from me please please please. 7
Cogee Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 That is a great indicator as to why the relationship ended. If they didn't take the time to talk to you about issues then they didn't have what it takes to build a lasting relationship with you. It's extremely unhealthy to keep those issues bottled up and the greatest sign of respect you can have towards someone is being able to talk about your issues. 5
Sugarkane Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 keep everything negative bottled up about you until they end a relationship? it just amazes me the smallest things that come up after the relationship is over. almost like they are looking for reasons to justify why they have ended the relationship after the fact. there is nothing better then a post breakup dagger thrown your way. I cannot even begin to relay half the disgustingly mean, immature, and heartless things my ex has said to me. my advise to any people fresh out of a breakup is to leave it be. you dont really want to keeptalking to your ex. They will only say mean things or things that will confuse you. Please learn from me please please please.. This x1000. I've posted more than once about this. And then they have the audacity to say that we can't communicate and/ everything is our fault. What a joke. 2
Author TheFriend Posted April 2, 2013 Author Posted April 2, 2013 It's a bunch of crap sugarkane. The worst part is when they say" but I did talk about this " I swear to god the last girl i dated was delusional. I am so kind and still defend her even though she is a massive b**** now. I can honestly say that nothing was expressed until after the fact. My favorite line is "you had your chance and didnt fix it then" oh really??? Maybe if I was a psychic... Ugh it's amazing how angry this makes me. I feel like a kid throwing a tantrum. Anger one moment then tears lol. I cannot believe i got caught up with some one so sick. A legit narcissist. Really makes me wonder what I ever did to deserve this crap. Nice guys really do finish last.
Sugarkane Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 It's a bunch of crap sugarkane. The worst part is when they say" but I did talk about this " I swear to god the last girl i dated was delusional. I am so kind and still defend her even though she is a massive b**** now. I can honestly say that nothing was expressed until after the fact. My favorite line is "you had your chance and didnt fix it then" oh really??? Maybe if I was a psychic... Ugh it's amazing how angry this makes me. I feel like a kid throwing a tantrum. Anger one moment then tears lol. I cannot believe i got caught up with some one so sick. A legit narcissist. Really makes me wonder what I ever did to deserve this crap. Nice guys really do finish last. Exactly, I don't know how we're supposed to mind read other people lol. When I asked my ex this and pressed for answers of coarse I got nothing. Not even years later. You probably did nothing to deserve it either.
Sugarkane Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 In my experience dumpers can get pretty abusive, even though I've done nothing wrong. 2
witmadskilllz Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 "You never really know what you have until it’s gone" 1
blindhope Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 In my experience it sounds like they started cheating because they are to insecure, and if they fell out of love with you they need to find someone else. An they don't want to deal with the responsibility of the break-up. They can't take someone not liking them due to their insecurities. So they make it that much worse. Nit picking all the little things and making them hate you, until finally they just can't take it anymore. If your lucky they break up with you like an adult. If not they will lie to your face and give you the lines like it's not you, I need space, we'll find our way but I have to find myself first. All to make walking away easy on them. But someone like that is not someone to be in a relationship with. They're not strong enough to be in an adult relationship so let them take their mess elsewhere. 2
Sososad Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Would also love some answers here my ex Has thrown everything at me including the kitchen sink . But I genuinely think her anger rose when I decided to totally respect her wishes And leave her be .. No contact is defo crucial the mud the slings weather u believe It or its not true It hurts do yourself a favour and walk away ..
RiceaRoni Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 In my experience it sounds like they started cheating because they are to insecure, and if they fell out of love with you they need to find someone else. An they don't want to deal with the responsibility of the break-up. They can't take someone not liking them due to their insecurities. So they make it that much worse. Nit picking all the little things and making them hate you, until finally they just can't take it anymore. If your lucky they break up with you like an adult. If not they will lie to your face and give you the lines like it's not you, I need space, we'll find our way but I have to find myself first. All to make walking away easy on them. But someone like that is not someone to be in a relationship with. They're not strong enough to be in an adult relationship so let them take their mess elsewhere. This explains my ex big time 1
js1967 Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 I think that once a person decided they don't want to be with you anymore....they start stock piling up a list of all the "bad stuff" that drives them nuts about you. In a healthy relationship, but partners do stuff that irritates the other, but they talk about it, fight about it, get over and stay together, that's what a relationship is about. Dumpers use it as justification because they don't want to be with you and they feel guilty about leaving you. After a while, Im positive all the negative thoughts go away, and they only remember the good things and the good times. I agree with getting away and not listening to all the negative stones that may be cast your way. Its not fair to the person who is getting dumped. Its hurtful. Dumpers need to show a little more class. 2
Sugarkane Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 In my experence they don't show one iota of class. This seems to be too much to ask for. Now I wish I could gloat in their face. I think that once a person decided they don't want to be with you anymore....they start stock piling up a list of all the "bad stuff" that drives them nuts about you. In a healthy relationship, but partners do stuff that irritates the other, but they talk about it, fight about it, get over and stay together, that's what a relationship is about. Dumpers use it as justification because they don't want to be with you and they feel guilty about leaving you. After a while, Im positive all the negative thoughts go away, and they only remember the good things and the good times. I agree with getting away and not listening to all the negative stones that may be cast your way. Its not fair to the person who is getting dumped. Its hurtful. Dumpers need to show a little more class.
crustyjojo Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 I think that once a person decided they don't want to be with you anymore....they start stock piling up a list of all the "bad stuff" that drives them nuts about you. In a healthy relationship, but partners do stuff that irritates the other, but they talk about it, fight about it, get over and stay together, that's what a relationship is about. Dumpers use it as justification because they don't want to be with you and they feel guilty about leaving you. After a while, Im positive all the negative thoughts go away, and they only remember the good things and the good times. Dumpers need to show a little more class. This is oh so true - but at least you can pick up on the fact that the relationship wasn't right - whether their pickiness was justified or not. What is worse for me is my ex says I was the nicest, most genuine and sincere person they had met in a long time - but left me for his ex. go figure????? Even when you get it right you get it wrong! Also - This is why I am leery of women that keep male friends as anything other than acquaintances. "We" don't want to hang around her to be "just friends". We're hoping by hanging around her, she'll develop feelings for us. I don't blame us. It is to be expected that we do this. Women don't seem to understand this or they do and revel in it. This tag line is so not true from my perspective. I mostly have male friends due to a shared interest in sport. I do not have interest in them romantically but generally enjoy their company more than womens, because I'm not going to be spending all time time listening about the children, the latest hair products etc etc. Thats not to say I dont have female friends, I just generally enjoy the company of men more I agree with getting away and not listening to all the negative stones that may be cast your way. Its not fair to the person who is getting dumped. Its hurtful.
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