i like a guy who has a girlfriend...

[afallenforest]

we are in high school.

so last semester i made a new friend, and she is in my gym this year along with her two guy friends. they both have girlfriends. over the past few weeks i have developed a crush on the one guy. i know this is horrible of me and wrong, but i cant help it. he is so handsome and funny. and i am conflicted by his actions.

in drivers ed we all sat together, me and my friend in front of them and faced towards them. the boy i like, (lets call him joe). "joe' would like touch the ring i was wearing and look up at me. than my friend told me we had to hang out and he asked if he could go to but never did in the end, because his Gf didnt want to go. and than today, my friend poked my in the side and me being as ticklish as i am jumped. "joe'' i guess found this amusing and all the rest of gym kept poking my sides. when we were running around the track, he would go in for pretend hugs twice like going towards me and at the last moment moving away.

i am trying not to like him because he has a gf who im pretty sure he really likes, but i don't have a lot of experience with guys. is this normal behavior?

[Toddbt12y1]

we are in high school.

so last semester i made a new friend, and she is in my gym this year along with her two guy friends. they both have girlfriends. over the past few weeks i have developed a crush on the one guy. i know this is horrible of me and wrong, but i cant help it. he is so handsome and funny. and i am conflicted by his actions.

in drivers ed we all sat together, me and my friend in front of them and faced towards them. the boy i like, (lets call him joe). "joe' would like touch the ring i was wearing and look up at me. than my friend told me we had to hang out and he asked if he could go to but never did in the end, because his Gf didnt want to go. and than today, my friend poked my in the side and me being as ticklish as i am jumped. "joe'' i guess found this amusing and all the rest of gym kept poking my sides. when we were running around the track, he would go in for pretend hugs twice like going towards me and at the last moment moving away.

i am trying not to like him because he has a gf who im pretty sure he really likes, but i don't have a lot of experience with guys. is this normal behavior?

 

 

Playful flirt. Take it from someone who has been cheated on: There is nothing wrong with you having a crush on him, this is actually unavoidable in life. It is only wrong if you act upon it, both in your mind and in real life. How cute, young puppy-crush.

 

He may even have a crush on you too, but I would take it as no-more than a playful flirt. Just do not ever get alone with him -- bad things can happen, and then you are indeed a cheat. If you are around him, at least let it be public or around other friends; as emotions can be stronger than what we think...even if we think we can control them.

 

Welcome to LS lil lady.

[Leigh 87]

Get over the ego boost and leave guys alone when they have girlfriends!

 

I know it feels good when a guy you fancy likes you back!

 

If you have any integrity or self respect though you would stay well away from guys who are not single.

 

Even if a guy is not much into his girlfriend and likes you better, you do NOT want to be that girl who is the catalyst for breaking up the relationship; the relationship may not be ideal and the guy will cheat anyway if he is a jerk, but be the better person and do not move in on a guy who is taken!

 

It is still wrong to intentionally go after a guy who has a girlfriend REGARDLESS of the circumstances!

 

Do not go near them until they break up with their girlfriends; do not be close with them and flirt with them until they have well and truly broken up with the girl.

 

There are some things you just do not do (if you want to be a decent person)

 

ONE thing: DO NOT go after guys that have girlfriends. Your a pretty sh*tty person if you do.

 

How do you think his girlfriend would feel if he cheated on her with you?

 

How would you feel if a guy you really liked and were dating cheated on YOU with a girl?

 

If you were dating a guy who liked another girl better, would you rather he cheated on you with her, or would you prefer him to break things of with you first and then wait a few weeks at least BEFORE going off with another girl?

 

Personally: if I like a guy and we are dating, then I would rather him break it of with me before pursuing another girl and then to wait a few weeks until I had started to move on from him BEFORE he even hooks up with another girl.

 

It is just common decency but most people lack it these days! It is all about them them them!!!!!!! Why wait until your ex feels a bit better before you move on to another girl?

 

RANT over.

[Toddbt12y1]

Get over the ego boost and leave guys alone when they have girlfriends!

 

I know it feels good when a guy you fancy likes you back!

 

If you have any integrity or self respect though you would stay well away from guys who are not single.

 

Even if a guy is not much into his girlfriend and likes you better, you do NOT want to be that girl who is the catalyst for breaking up the relationship; the relationship may not be ideal and the guy will cheat anyway if he is a jerk, but be the better person and do not move in on a guy who is taken!

 

It is still wrong to intentionally go after a guy who has a girlfriend REGARDLESS of the circumstances!

 

Do not go near them until they break up with their girlfriends; do not be close with them and flirt with them until they have well and truly broken up with the girl.

 

There are some things you just do not do (if you want to be a decent person)

 

ONE thing: DO NOT go after guys that have girlfriends. Your a pretty sh*tty person if you do.

 

How do you think his girlfriend would feel if he cheated on her with you?

 

How would you feel if a guy you really liked and were dating cheated on YOU with a girl?

 

If you were dating a guy who liked another girl better, would you rather he cheated on you with her, or would you prefer him to break things of with you first and then wait a few weeks at least BEFORE going off with another girl?

 

Personally: if I like a guy and we are dating, then I would rather him break it of with me before pursuing another girl and then to wait a few weeks until I had started to move on from him BEFORE he even hooks up with another girl.

 

It is just common decency but most people lack it these days! It is all about them them them!!!!!!! Why wait until your ex feels a bit better before you move on to another girl?

 

RANT over.

 

 

Lol! Damn! Just well said...Lol...this girl is probably like 15 years old and is gonna freakout when she reads that! Haha....oh boy...Even though you are right.

 

But she did have the humanity to come on here and post and ask about it, instead of pursuing it

[Leigh 87]

Honestly, I would not have cared when I was 15; I would assume that the guy is a jerk who would cheat anyway!

 

It is only in my mid 20's that I have further established my moral compass and decided the type of person I would like to be.

 

Before this stage though, I would never cheat but I would not be averse to getting with a guy who has a girlfriend, as I would figure he is not into them anyway.

 

Funny story: when I was 15 or 16, a guy who had a girlfriend and was a SERIEAL cheater, asked if we could hook up. I did, but his girlfriend was very sweet and so I immediately emailed the girl, telling her that I know she will hate me, but I need to tell her anyway because she deserves to know, and not because I want to feel better about myself.

 

Yeah she hated me for it but told me that she at least had respect for me, as I was the only girl who told her, out of about 10 girls he had cheated on her with.

 

We ended up being friends for a while. She took him back but he cheated again.

 

I do not think men that age are bad people for cheating really, or acting like jerks; they are young and simply do not know what genuine feelings ARE.

 

It is with age that people learn to let people go if they are feeling strong urges for other women that they would enjoy acting on.

 

The concept of a girl deserving better than a guy who wants to be intimate with other women, that is a mature concept that most teens and young adults do not really understand.

[Toddbt12y1]

Honestly, I would not have cared when I was 15; I would assume that the guy is a jerk who would cheat anyway!

 

It is only in my mid 20's that I have further established my moral compass and decided the type of person I would like to be.

 

Before this stage though, I would never cheat but I would not be averse to getting with a guy who has a girlfriend, as I would figure he is not into them anyway.

 

Funny story: when I was 15 or 16, a guy who had a girlfriend and was a SERIEAL cheater, asked if we could hook up. I did, but his girlfriend was very sweet and so I immediately emailed the girl, telling her that I know she will hate me, but I need to tell her anyway because she deserves to know, and not because I want to feel better about myself.

 

Yeah she hated me for it but told me that she at least had respect for me, as I was the only girl who told her, out of about 10 girls he had cheated on her with.

 

We ended up being friends for a while. She took him back but he cheated again.

 

I do not think men that age are bad people for cheating really, or acting like jerks; they are young and simply do not know what genuine feelings ARE.

 

It is with age that people learn to let people go if they are feeling strong urges for other women that they would enjoy acting on.

 

The concept of a girl deserving better than a guy who wants to be intimate with other women, that is a mature concept that most teens and young adults do not really understand.

 

Oh, I agree with you. It is just that when I read that a funny image of a scared 15 year old girl reading it came into my mind, lol! Sorry, cannot help it, but well said indeed.