miklos Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I went on his facebook last night and saw that he has a new phone. Today I texted him saying that I hope he had a great spring break and good luck on the rest of his semester. Ex "who is this? i have a new phone" I said it was me. EX "you have the wrong number" I said "oh ok... sorry for bothering you" . Ex " its ok. Have a good day" I am crying now. It hurts so much. I still love him even 3 months after break up. I miss him so much.
Author miklos Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 I had 1 month of NC. I shouldnt have texted him. Why is he so evil??? Tell me how to forget him!!!
Sososad Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Sorry to hear that .. Sounds like a not so nice Guy ... His loss .. Don't be too down!!
Njeanne Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Stop it now, you are three months after break up you should have partially moved on by now. He doesn't give a damn about you anymore, do you really want to waste time with someone like that? Yes, I know it's hard but you are the one holding you back towards happiness not him. I'm into 3.5 months since break up and while I still love him, miss him and blame myself for the last two months, I also came to a point he is too blame for not speaking his mind and telling me what I did wrong. I followed a long road and I am strong and I didn't hear from him since 10th day after break him where I told him off. Stop contacting, stop checking facebook and go back into NC!! Listen to my advice right here and now that it is the time to completely move on! You do not want a person like that back! 1
geegirl Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Miklos, he has shunned you time and time again, in a very cruel manner. Why do you keep wanting to go back for more? If someone does not like you anymore, please stop going back to make them like you. He's now pretending to be someone else to keep you away from him. Stop this. Please.
Author miklos Posted April 2, 2013 Author Posted April 2, 2013 I just texted him telling him i still miss him and love him.. but im embarrassed now. Its just hard to get over it. I miss the good times so much. I never experienced something like that.
geegirl Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Don't know what to say to you anymore. Aren't you embarrassed? Aren't you insulted? He's shunning you like you're a leper and you keep chasing him. Trust, man or woman, they don't find this kind of behavior attractive because it speaks of how little you value yourself. And when you don't value your dignity or self-respect, this guy will not see anything positive in you to even want to connect with you. You reach out, then say you are embarrassed. Same thing back and forth. When does it stop? Get embarrassed and learn from it. 6
iouaname Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Let's play a game called PRETENDING TO NOT BE ABSOLUTELY INSANE. You're no longer making mistakes - you're making choices to be actively pathetic. I hate to sound harsh but you are being absolutely pitiful, in your own eyes and in his. You have no chance with this guy. If you leave him alone, maybe one day he will reach out and apologize for turning his back on you so coldly but right now he's running as far as he can because you haven't stopped chasing. He does not want to be your boyfriend. He does not want to be your friend. He certainly does not want to be the object of your stalking behavior. You keep asking why you haven't gotten over it? Because you haven't changed any of your patterns of behavior. Do yourself a favor and leave him alone.
destroyed4sho Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 This has been going on for a while. Have you been continuing therapy? READ the book 'How to stop your addiction to a person". Take it one day at a time and pls stop messaging him now...when ever you feel the need call a friend to talk you out of it or.post here. Its hard but You have to start making at least some progress. You will get better!
Author miklos Posted April 2, 2013 Author Posted April 2, 2013 I am so pathetic!!! i dont know why i still act like this??!!!! im so stupid my friend was like "why do you still like him, he treats you like ****" I dont know. i have issues. thats probably why he left me. Because I have no confidence and my low self esteem. I give too much. I have gone to 3 sessions with counselor. Ill make another appointment for this week. Thank you everyone for advice and the words that are really needed cuz im so stupid "
Author miklos Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 I had my last session with my counselor today. She told me just to cry everything out. Tol let the process take its course so I do not have any baggage in my next relationship. That I was more mature emotionally than he is. That my ex is hurting still about break up and that is why he is acting like a douche because a normal person would not act like that. It hurts and in my ideal world I would still be with him. I loved him. I would have had came out to my parents for him. I am that type of person that if I fall in love with you its because you are very special to me and might even commit to. Maybe its good my ex is gone as he had too many issues. I need to find a new man. Or him to find me. I wont be in a relationship until after August though because I will be busy. Let my man come soon. Please universe im tired of being alone.
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