greaze_munky Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 hi guyz its me once again i've been trying to talk to my ex girlfriend, i want to get back together with her, but i don't want to hurt her either. we broke up 2 months ago. my feelings haven't changed for her at all, if nothing else they are stronger. she has been through a really tough time, mostly her coz of her own fault, but i still am being understanding. any way i've been trying to talk to her, if nothing else to find out why she broke up with me. and i want to see if she will give me one last chance. the real problem has been that one of our mutual friends has started interfering "supposedly" on my behalf. so my ex is getting the impression that i'm putting our friend up to asking her all this stuff about me. However my Ex doesn't know that i knew nothing about it till last night. Any ways this friend was telling me last night that she thinks my ex still has feelings for me, but is scared of commitment and being in a relationship. and starts telling me that she thinks my ex still loves me alot. which is so unfair because i have only recently started to get over the break up so am now back to square 1. so this friend sends me all the emails she had recieved from my ex, and i read them, and now i have no idea what to think. my ex has told all these lies about how i have been constantly hassling her, and bugging her. when i have spoken to her 3 times since the break up. and those calls were only to find out why and hopefully talk to her about it. I want to ask my ex to talk to me about it, i feel she owes me that much because i have done so so much for her, but apparently she is really scared of talking to me about it. but i don't understand why. i have never even raised my voice to her, and all i want is some closure. so what should i do? should i call her and ask her to meet me to talk, or should i just sit back and see what happens? i've told our friend to butt out of it, but apparently she sent more emails to my ex this morning! which is enflaming the situation even more so. i love this girl so much, but i don't want to hurt her. i sent her an email last week to tell her how i felt, and told her that all of this stuff was her decision and i would respect that, but i haven't heard a reply.
Papillon Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 There's no such thing as being "scared" of being in a relationship...that's nonsense. Even if people are commitment-phobic, they'll still just continue the relationship as normal without thinking about getting really serious. Sounds to me like your ex is a little immature, and is allowing her emotions to run riot with her life. If I were you, I'd be the best friend ever for her. Don't put pressure on her. If she comes to her senses, and it works out, then it's wonderful. If she comes to her senses, and you guys don't get back together, then it wasn't meant to be.
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