glynnroy Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Hi every one - Just a quick one .... Your thoughts please - I met a girl online last monday and after a few inbox messages , I left her my number and she texted me saying hi and the journey began . After a few more texts I rung her and we arranged to meet up for an hour at a pub ... The date was good , lots of chemistry and had a laugh , after a hour we agreed to head home as she had already said "She was quiet tired , due to going out with her child all day . I understood .. We left it where she said we ll go out again when she's not so tried , little peck on the cheek and away we went .. I got home and said thanks for the drink and asked her how her experience went ,as this was her first time on a date , from off line . She said it was good and said it was nice to meet me . I then asked if she wanted to meet up again as sometimes people just say that so it easier to leave on a high note , she said yes it would be nice to meet me again and arranged a date for tomorrow and she would let me know for definite . But since Friday she's not texed me only when I sent her a good morning on Sunday , She replied by telling me She went out Saturday and didn't really ask me any thing , I told her what I'd been up to but didn't get anything back . I've deleted her number as I kept having the urge to text her and didn't want to terror text , I came to the conclusion that if she was that interested she let me know about tomorrow - still nothing today . I know it's been bank holiday but one or two texts wouldn't have gone a miss .. Just seems odd why she said she wanted to go out again and it's all gone quite , she had a perfect opportunity to say no If she wasn't interested , but the texts and banter has gone and for me the flirting has disappeared . Am I over reacting or does this sound like a lead up the garden path Thanks -:
veggirl Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Don't send "good morning" texts to someone you have met once. So did you guys set the 2nd date, firmly? Do you have an exact date? If so you don't need to chit chat so much before then, just see what happens on the date. You don't know her yet, the random "this is what I did today" or whatever is not necessary. It looks like you are trying to jump into an insta-relationship and she wants to actually get to know you. So...just go on the 2nd date!
Author glynnroy Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 What's wrong with good morning ?? She said good morning back !! The second date wasn't set in stone , I threw two days at her SUNDAY and TUESDAY .. She couldn't make yesterday as she had made arrangements and Tuesday was " I might be able to make it I ll Ley you know though "" Just seems a little weird how the texts have dried up and there's no banter any more - I'm glad I deleted her number as I've kept the last 4 digits so I know it's her if she texts .. Might seem odd but it saves letting a text getting needy .
Object_a Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Sounds like you came on way too strong. You shouldn't be sending texts like that after a first date. It's okay to send a message thanking someone for their time and saying you enjoyed meeting them or whatever but that's all you should send. You could try asking her out but be direct and specific about it. Offer a particular time and place. If you get a yes or no you'll have some certainty, and if she doesn't respond at all it's safe to assume that she's no longer interested. But you'll know one way or the other. Sucks I know, but that's how it happens some times.
Author glynnroy Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 Too strong ha ha no way .. I thanked her for the date and we arranged for tomorrow but she s not confirmed it -bare in mind guys we've been texting for a week and spike on the phone - surely she had an opportunity to say no in the texts if there wasn't any attraction for her .. My texts are not to strong there full of humour and modesty .. Ill wait and see what happens tomorrow if She gets in touch , if She does then all is well , if not , then it's back to square one -
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