Buttercup84 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 So on Sauturday night I went out to meet my best friend and her partner they are getting married. I am her MOH and yet to meet the best man. They joked that they will hook us up. So I arrive there and when I see the best man I felt attracted to him. We talked and we have a lot in common, and later we all moved to a pub.Best man and I talked all the time and he bought me drinks. I hardly drink but was not drunk. Everyoneeft except us. We talked about movies, our friends, politics and relationships. I could see him glancing at me a lot and copying my movements, like turning towards me when I did and picking his drink up when I did. He wants kids and marriage, and we chose old school music from the juke box and sang together. H asked me to dance and that is when we kissed. The pub was closing so he asked If I wanted to go to his. I said as long as it stays with kissing. We got a taxi and he held my hand and stroked it, kissing it too . We talked about weddings and pets. Suddenly I felt sock and we stopped twice, with me puking in a posh suburb. Classy huh. But he came up behind me and kissed my cheek and said it is Ok. He cuddled me and my hand while we walked to his house. In bed we kissed and inbetween kissing he said I was amazing and kissed my hand and cuddled me. We did end up having sex, but he still cuddled me and held me close. We talked a bit and he said he had a great time even before this. He asked me when I wanted to go home and I said by 11 am. Even when we were dressed he sat by me ans just looked at me and smiled. He kissed me too. Man I am so into him. He went to put oil into his car and when he came back he was a bit distant for some reason. He drove me home which is about 40 min from him, and on the otherside of Sydney. He kissed me goodbye on the lips, open mouth. I lingered a bit and he said see you soon No number... so it is Monday evening here and nothing. I feel so crap and embaressed. I really liked him. Ugh. He is 29 like me if that helps.
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 Sorry for the typos, am on my phone.
SJC2008 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 He wants kids and marriage The pub was closing so he asked If I wanted to go to his. I said as long as it stays with kissing. In bed we kissed and inbetween kissing he said I was amazing and kissed my hand and cuddled me. We did end up having sex, but he still cuddled me and held me close. We talked a bit and he said he had a great time even before this. No number... so it is Monday evening here and nothing. Of course you had sex, he knows how to work a woman! The cuddling between kissing was him building anticipation. Aniticaption is the best aphrodisiac for a woman. I LITERALLY stumbled into sex with the last woman I dated and it was because of anticipation and I realized it looking back as I had no intention of trying to have sex with her given where we were. 1
suladas Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 My guess is because you will have to be at the wedding together any man with common sense wouldn't try to pull a ONS prior to the wedding. Now at the wedding? Sure but before and possibly cause a huge problem at the wedding? I doubt it.
Cutiepie1976 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Too much, way too soon if you were looking for anything other than a hookup. Not trying to give you a hard time. It just is what it is. You'll be interacting for a short while at least because you both have a wedding to get through. That might work to your advantage because he can't just disappear into oblivion to avoid post-coital awkwardness. Stay friendly and light when you interact with him. Go with the flow...but avoid landing up in bed together again. Occasionally these things work out. Most times not. Be realistic in your expectations.
mesmerized Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Real life is faaaar from what you see in the movies. The sooner we women realize this and the true nature of men the better for us. His kisses and affection didn't mean anything, just his hookup style. Sorry hon. 4
SJC2008 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Real life is faaaar from what you see in the movies. The sooner we women realize this and the true nature of men the better for us. His kisses and affection didn't mean anything, just his hookup style. Sorry hon. And the true natue of women who fall for these men and not know when a good man is standing right in front of them, then turn into man haters.
mesmerized Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 And the true natue of women who fall for these men and not know when a good man is standing right in front of them, then turn into man haters. Blah blah blah. No such thing as good men (ok they exist but way too rare). There are men with options and men without options. 1
Pompeii Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Blah blah blah. No such thing as good men (ok they exist but way too rare). There are men with options and men without options. What a very myopic view of life. 1
SJC2008 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Blah blah blah. No such thing as good men (ok they exist but way too rare). There are men with options and men without options. Trust me when I say I've had opportunities to string a few women along who liked me just to have a steady supply but I didn't. The difference between me and the man haters on this forum is that I don't beleive it's a gender specific problem. I think most people suck and are selfish creatures who are out for themseleves. Sure most people may not be criminals and are law abiding citizens but that doesn't make them "good" if you know what I mean.
ThatDudeXO Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 No number? I guess you have to wait until you meet him again or ask your mutual friends for his number. He may like you and want to see you again. He may have just wanted a one night stand. One night stands can turn into relationships but you never know. 1
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 Thanks everyone. I just have to move on I guess. He can contact me, just needs to ask his friend for my number. I never had a ONS before, but it was fun and the first time I been with a guy since a very hard breakup. And I am all good Just a shame as we really hit it off. But life goes on.
soccerrprp Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I was going to say "I'm sorry this happened", but since you think it was "fun" and you're good with it, nothing more to say.
kaylan Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 (edited) Not surprised by the sex at all. Whenever a guy asks you to come home, he will want and try to get sex no matter what you say. Women reading this thread, take this as another good lesson. Theres no way to know if he was sweet talking you or if he was telling the truth about wanting marriage and kids unless you keep open communication and begin dating. Good luck. PS - He doesnt seem too bad if hes willing to open mouth kiss a drunk girl who puked. Im wondering how drunk was he. And him not getting or giving a number is kind of a red flag.Blah blah blah. No such thing as good men (ok they exist but way too rare). There are men with options and men without options. When did you become so pessimistic? There do exist good and bad men. My best friend has some good options but is very relationship oriented and very into his girlfriend. Edited April 1, 2013 by kaylan 1
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 I was going to say "I'm sorry this happened", but since you think it was "fun" and you're good with it, nothing more to say. I meant talking to him was. And even if I enjoyed hooking up with a man I like, so what ? I hardly go out or drink and I was not drunk. I get car sick. Big deal.
stillafool Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I meant talking to him was. And even if I enjoyed hooking up with a man I like, so what ? I hardly go out or drink and I was not drunk. I get car sick. Big deal. Why stress? You obviously wanted the sex as much as him that's why it happened. Don't over think it. You really don't know if he would be a good boyfriend or not because right now you don't know enough about him. I would act as if it never happened when you see him again.
soccerrprp Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I meant talking to him was. And even if I enjoyed hooking up with a man I like, so what ? I hardly go out or drink and I was not drunk. I get car sick. Big deal. My apologies. It is your business how you feel about this. It sounded like you were disappointed that it was only a hook-up, but I was wrong. I'll shut up now.
TigerCub Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 No number... so it is Monday evening here and nothing. I feel so crap and embaressed. I really liked him. Ugh. My apologies. It is your business how you feel about this. It sounded like you were disappointed that it was only a hook-up, but I was wrong. I'll shut up now. I can see why you would think that soccerrprp 1
xxoo Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Sounds like there will be some awkwardness at the wedding Have you talked to your friend, the bride? At the very least, I'd hope for a chance to see him again and acknowledge the awkwardness/laugh about it before the wedding day. 1
KatZee Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 This man just buttered yo' bread. Kid's slick! He said everything and anything you wanted to hear... "I want marriage and kids..." "Of course just kissing is fineee... I don't want to pressure you..." I'm sure he made you feel so secure and so wanted and desired and so special. And he got what he wanted. Next time when you have boundaries, STICK with them. He played you like a piece of putty! 7
musemaj11 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Women want a smooth man. The thing about smooth men is that they are so smooth because they have had plenty of practices and experiences and they are definitely very unlikely to stop with you.
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 Haha yes, I did brush my teeth first. I guess you guys are right, he was smooth and said all the right things. I do have to stick to my morals next time. I should have known better. Won't be awkward as I will not create drama, this is my best friends wedding. Thanks I just needed to hear what I already suspected.
Noproblem Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 How can women be soooooooooo ......... What can I say! Hey, consider it a good lesson, will you!
Author Buttercup84 Posted April 4, 2013 Author Posted April 4, 2013 Think today is the first time that I have been thinking clearly. There is nothing flatering about a man who just wants to sleep with you once. But hey, first one night stand at almost 30. No more for me !
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