Ladies who dig tall guys: Did you ever eagerly go for a shorter guy?

[HoneyBadgerDontCare]

It's strictly related to height, so it's okay.

 

How tall are you?

 

5'6

 

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[MissJoness]

How tall are you?

 

It doesn't matter how tall I am if I am just not attracted to tall men. My height is irrelevant but since you asked I'm 5'8

[Star Gazer]

Honestly the OP kind of offends me. This objectifying/dehumanizing of people is something men do, not women

 

You offend me with most of your posts.

 

I didn't objectify or dehumanize anyone. Are you saying you're attracted to EVERYONE??????????? If not, then you too are objectifying and dehumanizing people with your PREFERENCES.

[somedude81]

Your hypocrisy astounds me.

And what is that supposed to mean?

[ffw]

Hope it's ok for a guy to give some thoughts. Being a modest height & dated both short & tall girls. I will say once the attraction parts comes into the picture then features like height doesn't impact a lot.

[Els]

I admit I've never had to go for a shorter guy. It's one of the few benefits of being 5'1"... all guys are 'tall'.

[neveragain34]

Have you tried? Are they just categorically not "it" for you?

 

What about...Usher. He's 5'8'', and pretty hawt.

 

Would you not eagerly date him?

 

Robert Downey, Jr. Another 5'8''-5'9''. Hawt.

 

I soooo would not kick them out of bed.

 

I have tried and just wasn't attracted to him. I think the problem was more of a personality issue, not really his height.

 

Would definitely date Robert Downey Jr! Mmmmm. Usher? Meh. Not so much.

[Star Gazer]

I admit I've never had to go for a shorter guy. It's one of the few benefits of being 5'1"... all guys are 'tall'.

 

I wish I was that short for this reason!

 

I'm only 5'4'' and there are times when somehow I feel like a guy who is 5'8'' or 5'9'' is actually my height (I'm often in heels). I feel like if I can look directly into his eyes, straight, that he must be my height, and it turns me off, because...well, I'm little. But then I'll see our reflection, and note that he is, in fact, taller than me, by a considerable margin.

 

I want to feel like he can toss me around in bed, so of the guys who've been shorter than my preference, they've all been built and beefy strong. The short and thinner guys just don't do it for me. If we can wear the same jeans, there's a problem.

[Eternal Sunshine]

While I prefer tall, I have been highly attracted to 5 9 guys. My boss and my FWB last year are both that height. High levels of sexual attraction for both. But the key for me is solid build and good proportions. Wide shoulders, thick arms

 

If he is short and skinny or feminine/flabby forget it. With tall I am more forgiving when it comes to build, although still have gut level repulsion to skinny guys.

[ThaWholigan]

I went on some dates with a tall girl and she said it was refreshing to date someone taller than her for a change (I'm 6'3) - I thought it was an odd statement to make but she said that she was often attracted to shorter guys because she felt they generally had more character and confidence. I understood this quite well. I asked if she was initially attracted by them, and she admitted she wasn't and that tall men usually caught her eye quicker, but she said on average shorter men were hotter overall.

[mesmerized]

I wish I was that short for this reason!

 

I'm only 5'4'' and there are times when somehow I feel like a guy who is 5'8'' or 5'9'' is actually my height (I'm often in heels). I feel like if I can look directly into his eyes, straight, that he must be my height, and it turns me off, because...well, I'm little. But then I'll see our reflection, and note that he is, in fact, taller than me, by a considerable margin.

 

I want to feel like he can toss me around in bed, so of the guys who've been shorter than my preference, they've all been built and beefy strong. The short and thinner guys just don't do it for me. If we can wear the same jeans, there's a problem.

 

haha I feel the same. I wouldn't be attracted to a short guy that is not built. Short and skinny just doesn't do it for me. That's another reason I always tell the short guys here to hit the gym. If height is not on your side, work on other things that would make you physically desirable.

[neveragain34]

But the key for me is solid build and good proportions. Wide shoulders, thick arms .

 

You forgot to mention legs! There are some tall, sexy men out there with chicken legs. Lol

[Star Gazer]

While I prefer tall, I have been highly attracted to 5 9 guys. My boss and my FWB last year are both that height. High levels of sexual attraction for both. But the key for me is solid build and good proportions. Wide shoulders, thick arms

 

If he is short and skinny or feminine/flabby forget it. With tall I am more forgiving when it comes to build, although still have gut level repulsion to skinny guys.

 

Wide shoulders. Thick arms. Indeed.

 

Oh, for sure. A tall dude can have a full on beer belly and I'd still find him sexy as all get out (Vince Vaughn), compared to a shorter, slender guy (Zac Efron).

 

I want to feel like he can pick me up and toss me around, easily.

 

But I've also noticed that the super tall guys leave a little something to be desired too... I realized I can't slow dance in the kitchen with them.

[Els]

I wish I was that short for this reason!

 

I'm only 5'4'' and there are times when somehow I feel like a guy who is 5'8'' or 5'9'' is actually my height (I'm often in heels). I feel like if I can look directly into his eyes, straight, that he must be my height, and it turns me off, because...well, I'm little. But then I'll see our reflection, and note that he is, in fact, taller than me, by a considerable margin.

 

I want to feel like he can toss me around in bed, so of the guys who've been shorter than my preference, they've all been built and beefy strong. The short and thinner guys just don't do it for me. If we can wear the same jeans, there's a problem.

 

Man, Star, those are some killer heels if you're 5'9" in them! I only wish I could walk in heels that high.

 

I don't mind leaner guys at all - in fact, that's my preference. Beefy isn't my type.

 

Returning to the height issue, I once had a crush on a guy who was something like 5'4". He was just amazing in all other ways. I was also with a guy who was 5'11" - that posed some physical challenges, but I was in love! So while 5'7" or so (bf's height ) is ideal for me, I don't think it would affect me if a guy was outside my preferred range, no.

[mesmerized]

While I prefer tall, I have been highly attracted to 5 9 guys. My boss and my FWB last year are both that height. High levels of sexual attraction for both. But the key for me is solid build and good proportions. Wide shoulders, thick arms

 

If he is short and skinny or feminine/flabby forget it. With tall I am more forgiving when it comes to build, although still have gut level repulsion to skinny guys.

 

Can never go wrong with these two.

[Star Gazer]

Man, Star, those are some killer heels if you're 5'9" in them! I only wish I could walk in heels that high.

 

Well, like I said... it just FEELS like it. Like, my vantage point or something. I remember being out with this one guy and thinking, "Man, he's short..." and then walking up to the restaurant with him, and seeing our reflection in the door, and seeing that he was a lot taller than me. It's such a bizarre sensation, but I judge guys to be shorter than they actually are.

[Els]

It doesn't matter what you can do. It matters what a woman perceives you can do. Until you do it, she won't know it. When she eyes you across the bar, she's not gonna think, "Oh, that guy will be able to toss me around like a rag doll." To the contrary, she'll look at you and worry about breaking you.

 

You weigh 12 pounds more than I do, for crying out loud. 12.

 

I can definitely understand where you're coming from, even though I don't identify with it. I think my non-personality requirements for men tend to fall much more into the intellect/career/wit realm, so as long as the guy isn't actually weak or out of shape, I'm all good.

 

I do require that those men want the same thing in a woman, though - which is much more rare than being beefy or tall.

[gaius]

Short guys are viewed as very non-threatening. I think this is why I rarely get blown out when I approach and why guys never really try to pick fights with me (my best friend is 6'2ish....we approach A LOT...guys pick fights with him fairly often when we're out).

I get the urge to pick on, not necessarily fight a short guy when I see him. I was walking behind one on his cell phone in the super market today and I just got this strange urge to give him a little push. Maybe you don't get picked on much cause your tall friend is sucking up all the male attention? I only know one really short guy and he works his ass off so he can run faster and outperform the rest of us, and he has to. Or else he would get mercilessly messed with all day long.

 

I never knew star's name is actually star. Or that there are so many women named star out there. I don't think I've run into one yet.

[Weezy1973]

OP I think there is a continuum of preferences out there so if you have a strong preference or tall guys (or a strong repulsion to short guys) you shouldn't fight it or feel guilty about it. I'm sure there are some things that you could care less about. Maybe body type? Hair loss? Personal style?

 

If tall guys turn your crank (or crank your faucet?) date tall guys. Don't try to force yourself to be attracted to something you're not and DEFINITELY don't feel guilty or ashamed of it. Attraction is attraction.

[Star Gazer]

OP I think there is a continuum of preferences out there so if you have a strong preference or tall guys (or a strong repulsion to short guys) you shouldn't fight it or feel guilty about it. I'm sure there are some things that you could care less about. Maybe body type? Hair loss? Personal style?

 

If tall guys turn your crank (or crank your faucet?) date tall guys. Don't try to force yourself to be attracted to something you're not and DEFINITELY don't feel guilty or ashamed of it. Attraction is attraction.

 

I guess I'm just trying to open up to more people so I have more options, because my pickings are kinda slim.

 

And my girlfriend who's now engaged to a guy she would have never given the time of day to before, but just adores now, really has left me wondering if I've been too closed off to shorter guys... like, maybe I could let the attraction grow.

 

Hence why I was seeking others' experiences. I'm secretly hoping there are more like my friend.

[Weezy1973]

I guess I'm just trying to open up to more people so I have more options, because my pickings are kinda slim.

 

And my girlfriend who's now engaged to a guy she would have never given the time of day to before, but just adores now, really has left me wondering if I've been too closed off to shorter guys... like, maybe I could let the attraction grow.

 

Hence why I was seeking others' experiences. I'm secretly hoping there are more like my friend.

 

I guess if you only liked really tall guys (say above 6'2") then your pickings would really be slimmer, but if it's approximately 5'10" and taller, that's still a lot of men - you've got the whole top of the bell curve plus the outliers...

[HopelessRomantic76]

Tried it once and i felt like i was with my son or brother,there was no sexual lust at all and i for whatever reason cant look at a short guy as a leader/authority figure i want in a man

 

 

Like most women its tall men who light my panties on fire,i feel too many women settle for short guys because they feel its all they can get or feel a short guy would be less likely to cheat on them since tall men are in high demand by most women.

[jcrew11]

Tom Cruise is 5-7 but he wears lifts most of the time.

 

What is your height? I don't know where you are meeting these men, is it online? Most women date the men around them, or judge men based on personality or their face. Guys with good personality are able to overcome their shortness.

 

Is there any particular reason you feel the need for a tall man? Do you think you are capable of catching and keeping a tall man?

[Star Gazer]

I guess if you only liked really tall guys (say above 6'2") then your pickings would really be slimmer, but if it's approximately 5'10" and taller, that's still a lot of men - you've got the whole top of the bell curve plus the outliers...

 

The RAWR! factor tends to come in at 6'1''-6'4'', but I've definitely been ravenously attracted to 5'10''. But there are a ton of guys who are 5'7''-5'9'' who are amazing dudes, who I want to feel the RAWR! for, but... just... can't.

 

I'm kinda jealous of my friend in that regard.

[Phoe]

Being 5'8 I definitely have a "preference" towards tall men, but have never turned down a short man. My first boyfriend was shorter than me, and the guy I'm dating now is shorter than me (he's 5'6). My legs are considerably longer than his. He's a small guy, no denying it, but he'd be no different a person if he were tall! I like him for him... he's a nerd, he's silly and sweet, he's smart, funny, kind, and at moments intensely shy. It's so cute, and it all draws me in.