grkBoy Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'm talking a life where the most you'll get are friendships, but never the romantic love, boyfriend/girlfriend, nothing. How would you spend the rest of your life? And forget the "I don't believe in fate" answers. Just be a little hypothetical or refrain from responding.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Probably do a lot more of what I want rather than worry about getting a good career or having a lot of money. Everything else would probably be the same I guess. 2
ThaWholigan Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'd probably do what I already do, I'm pretty content with life, and I was before I lost the V. I'd dedicate time to studying, making music, and acquiring the financial power to make a difference in a variety of fields, including philanthropy (not just giving money to fake ass charities, like actually going places and pumping money in and empowering people). I'd probably become a polymath of some sort, I would love to do something like that. 4
MissJoness Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I wouldn't want to live for long if I knew. I'd probably put myself to sleep
Bito Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Continue to see life for wonderous opportunuty that it is. Love is more then romance. 6
outsidethebox Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Why would the person have friendships if they are incapable of loving someone? Friendships with just same sex or both sexes? It is extremely difficult to have friendships (not acquantances) with opposite sex where you spend time together (as friends do) and not develop a mutual romance. If you say what if destined (or prefer) to be alone, then I can tell you that life is much freer than being oriented around another person, there is no arguing, there is not much emotion, there is no family created, and other than that it's no different.
HoneyBadgerDontCare Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'm talking a life where the most you'll get are friendships, but never the romantic love, boyfriend/girlfriend, nothing. How would you spend the rest of your life? And forget the "I don't believe in fate" answers. Just be a little hypothetical or refrain from responding. My horoscope predicts sex for me this weekend. I, for one, definitely believe in fate!
sweetjasmine Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'm talking a life where the most you'll get are friendships, but never the romantic love, boyfriend/girlfriend, nothing. How would you spend the rest of your life? And forget the "I don't believe in fate" answers. Just be a little hypothetical or refrain from responding. Hypotheticals can be fun. I'd go full steam ahead in my career. I'd buy myself a small house and keep a few pets. I'd indulge in hobbies and travel. I'd visit and spend time with friends and family. If I were feeling baby crazy, I'd consider adoption. Mostly the same thing as with a partner, really. 2
somedude81 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'm talking a life where the most you'll get are friendships, but never the romantic love, boyfriend/girlfriend, nothing. How would you spend the rest of your life? And forget the "I don't believe in fate" answers. Just be a little hypothetical or refrain from responding. I'd jump off a building or bridge. Maybe go to the Grand Canyon and see how long it takes.
Jane2011 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 (edited) If it were that I was destined to not have anything that lasts forever and is "true love," I'd just keep dating, have short-lived relationships, and enjoy the sex and temporary feelings. If it were that I would never again have any kind of romantic involvement (even short-lived ones), I'd probably let myself gain a lot of weight for a while, eat anything I wanted, and just be kinda roly-poly. Long-term I'd probably not stay overweight. I'd probably throw myself into academic/career achievement. Edited April 1, 2013 by Jane2011 1
boaaaar Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Seek the location that offers the best deal of money, sea, sun, prostitution and ganja.
Els Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Hypothetically... I'd probably get involved in the BDSM community, participate in the sort of stuff that would be borderline cheating otherwise. Other than that, I'd probably do the same as what I'd do in a R. I think I'd be quite lonely without the emotional connection, though. 1
Necris Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'm talking a life where the most you'll get are friendships, but never the romantic love, boyfriend/girlfriend, nothing. How would you spend the rest of your life? And forget the "I don't believe in fate" answers. Just be a little hypothetical or refrain from responding. Oh well if I found this out as definitive fact I wouldn't be too surprised I'd be more like "oh well thought so, so what else is new" honestly. At best all I ever had was friendship, no sex, romantic love, girlfriend, etc. So there would be no actual change in my life and I continue to do what I do. I would have to tell my parents to not ask if I'll ever get a girlfriend ever again as the answer is "no" at that point my dad might think I'm becoming gay so I'll have to explain that I'm not gay as well. Also I stop posting on LS and stop caring about my interactions with women besides trying to be buddies so no more of this silly "does she like me, how can I ask her out" stuff. And I continue to live the rest of my life as a forever single virgin which really isn't all that bad for one I'm already one, two while I don't get the benefits of sex, relationships, etc. I also don't get the drawbacks. This could help me in my career as time goes on as well as I don't have to come home to a wife and kids every night as time goes on employers may note that I seem to be harder working than my coworkers and I get the promotions, or I could use free time to invent something. Though this could work against me as I'm branded as the wierdo and instead of getting promotions for hard-work I just get more work to do as everybody realizes I'm a loner and don't really have an excuse to not do so, while another guy who is already happily married gets further blessed with promotions and such. 1
FitChick Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'd spend all my free time working at several jobs, saving money for my old age and traveling. 1
AlexDP Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'm talking a life where the most you'll get are friendships, but never the romantic love, boyfriend/girlfriend, nothing. How would you spend the rest of your life? And forget the "I don't believe in fate" answers. Just be a little hypothetical or refrain from responding. The only thing human beings are destined for is death. We will die. How would you spend the rest of your life knowing that?
mortensorchid Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Well here's another question for others: Since when does that mean that if you are destined to be alone that you are not allowed to live at all? The fact of the matter is that most people I have encountered suffer from a problem : they dream they do not do. If someone doesn't want to come along and not do things that's fine, but I learned a long time ago to accept as many invites as possible rather than say no to things. If you have a bad time, you'll know it's a bad time and not lament about the fact that you missed out on it. THings do not just happen nor come to us, we have to work for them. We work to have a good time, we work to relax (odd as that may sound), we work to make our dreams come true (whatever they may be). Those who do not share this sentiment will sit there and wonder what if? Remember: You will miss 100% of the shots you never take. If you run away in fear or charge forth with purpose, that's your choice.
runningfar Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'm talking a life where the most you'll get are friendships, but never the romantic love, boyfriend/girlfriend, nothing. How would you spend the rest of your life? And forget the "I don't believe in fate" answers. Just be a little hypothetical or refrain from responding. About the same? I am pretty happy alone. My boyfriend adds to it in who he is, but I am not especially concerned if I am in a relationship or not. 1
carhill Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 What if you found out you were destined to be alone? How would you spend the rest of your life? I'd probably move to a third world country and use my vast skillset to help people. I still may do that. It's one option on the table. I live very simply and am pretty comfortable and don't need first world 'stuff' to be happy, nor necessarily first world people. Big world, short life. Good luck in your pursuits.
ltjg45 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'm talking a life where the most you'll get are friendships, but never the romantic love, boyfriend/girlfriend, nothing. How would you spend the rest of your life? As sad as it may be, that would be the time where porn actually has a purpose. *sigh* Never thought I would actually say that but there you go.....if I need to be slapped for saying it, go ahead and do so.
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 You know, my gut tells me that that's what's going to happen with me. And I can actually be OK with that. I want to change the world for the better, even if it's in a very small way. I want to do something meaningful. I would either throw myself into academic work 100%, where I would do medical research that would hopefully help humanity in even a miniscule way. I would also travel to a third world country and help out for a few years. I would completely take the focus off myself. I already volunteer in animal shelter and have recently started visiting kids cancer wards once a month where I read them stories and just goof around with them. They touch me deeply, in a way that I can't even describe. I want to ease the suffering of others, suffering that's beyond their control that is. I have little patience for "my bf dumped me, my life is over." though. I see the big picture. Hopefully, at the end of my life, I would be content that I have made people's lives better, that I have made a difference. As much as one person can anyway. 2
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Well here's another question for others: Since when does that mean that if you are destined to be alone that you are not allowed to live at all? Has anyone on this thread said, or even implied, that people who aren't paired off are "not allowed to live at all"? A few seem to think that's the only value of life, but nobody's disallowing them to live. It's self imposed.
iKING Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Well here's another question for others: Since when does that mean that if you are destined to be alone that you are not allowed to live at all? Has anyone on this thread said, or even implied, that people who aren't paired off are "not allowed to live at all"? A few seem to think that's the only value of life, but nobody's disallowing them to live. It's self imposed. I'd live my life. Just saying.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 When I was about 18, I had my astrological chart done at a Renaissance faire. It was one of those things like you see in bad movies - the astrologer got a very uncomfortable look on her face. She told me that I was destined to never be happy in love, and ultimately alone. That really did trouble me. Since it has turned out to not be the case, I'm sure my hypothetical answer will probably be different than if it had. But anyway, I believe I would have formed some kind of familial living situation with other friends including children, and made a life with them. That is something I wanted to do during my years as a single mother, but I didn't. I would hope that I'd still have learned to be deeply grateful for all the privileges, beauty and opportunities, and even the miseries, of my life, even if it hadn't have included any sexual / romantic love. 2
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