daisy1 Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 I have been hanging out with this guy for about 2 1/2 months. We sorta started dating a little, but then he pulled back, saying he wasn't ready becasue he just got out of a relationship (I know this is true). He really wants to stay friends, in the past week I have called him and he has called me and sent a sweet little e-mail greeting card. So it's definately not a "goodbye, see you never" situation. But I am also wondering if it is really just possible he actually likes me and just actually isn't ready for a relationship- or if I am being stupid and this is genuinely a kiss-off and I am playing into something not so nice. He came on to me really hard in the beginning, and it was very genuine and sweet. Thoughts?
Zakar Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 Getting you was too easy for him. You are no longer a challenge. There is definately another girl in the picture who poses more of a challenge. He hasn't quite gotten her yet, that's why he's keeping you on the line. He'll hold on to you until he aquires better. You need to do something about it. Make him feel like you've fallen through his fingertips and he will go crazy struggling to get you back in his hands. Good luck.
Amy22 Posted September 13, 2004 Posted September 13, 2004 I am in the same situation. I decided to back away and let him make all the moves. I let him call me. I let him ask me if we want to do something. I don't want him to think I am sitting around waiting for him. Sorry i am not much help on what you should do. But I am interested to hear what other people have to say. Amy
littlome Posted September 14, 2004 Posted September 14, 2004 Thats so funny, I just got dumped from the b/f who said to friends that it was going to fast, I said no contact for awhile until I resolve the feeling that I have gained through the short time together. I broke and called him, wel well well, NO MORE CALLS NO MORE NOTHING FROM ME!! Only because he is getting what he wants, he wants to be free, he wants to say he loves me, he wants to have the best of both worlds!!! Not with me he will not. Make him want you, if you are always there for him then he will not think he has to "work" for you anymore. If you chat online, chat a bit but not alot, if he calls you then say ya uhm, you know do not sound eager to talk.. I am doing it right now and trust me this works, My exb/f use to tell me that he has not a problem at all getting over relationships, his mom tells me that he is onmnline everynight looking for me... No I am not a teen I am 34 years old, no matter the age it works!!! Good Luck
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