Shohane Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 (edited) A friend of mine sets very high standards for himself. Lately he feels a lack of motivation and that he is not living up to what he sets for himself. He said, "If you don't live up to your own standards, how can you possibly expect others to? Even if I study 24/7 as I do now, it won't get me to where I want to be..." But he's very intelligent and hardworking; his academic history so far has been great, so he'll reach his goals eventually. Now, I think he's just being too worried unnecessarily, which only brings him frustration or disappointment and/or a lack of motivation. I'm not sure what to tell him to calm him down a bit, or what to do to help. Things like, "Lower your standards a bit" or "Don't worry about standards" won't reach him because, after all, he's not going to lower his standards. So could you please help me on this? Edited March 31, 2013 by Shohane
TaraMaiden Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 You're not his Counsellor; but he needs one. He's overdoing it, I suspect, and becoming depressed. Suggest he seek help.
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