Geiss Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I was at a bar one night a long time ago and I got approached by a few women. When we started talking then I think I was the one to ask what they did and they told me they were all Real Estate agents. At that time I was working as a courier driver so once I told them that they kind of just walked away. They just lost all interest in me because the job is not impressive even though I'm not sure how impressive being a real estate agent is. It sounds better than courier though. Fortunately I don't do that anymore and I have a job that well usually nobody knows what it is and people actually envy my job. So I have no problem now telling women what I do but when that happened I was a bit more reluctant to tell people what I did. I guess I would have a problem with female lawyers and doctors. Too me that just says they work too much and I'm not in their social class and they make way more money than I do and I don't really want to be the woman in the relationship. So I'm just wondering has anyone actually been rejected because of their job title?
Kamille Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I guess I would have a problem with female lawyers and doctors. Too me that just says they work too much and I'm not in their social class and they make way more money than I do and I don't really want to be the woman in the relationship. So I'm just wondering has anyone actually been rejected because of their job title? Yes. You just rejected me, right now . And so, the scenario here is the same as the scenario with your Courier example: I would rather people who judge my job excuse themselves from my life than have to put up with their judgement, or, worse yet, a pressure to change. It all works out. 3
Author Geiss Posted March 31, 2013 Author Posted March 31, 2013 Yes. You just rejected me, right now . And so, the scenario here is the same as the scenario with your Courier example: I would rather people who judge my job excuse themselves from my life than have to put up with their judgement, or, worse yet, a pressure to change. It all works out. So I take it you are a lawyer or doctor. Does that mean you'll date a garbage man? I bet not.
Author Geiss Posted March 31, 2013 Author Posted March 31, 2013 Yes. You just rejected me, right now . And so, the scenario here is the same as the scenario with your Courier example: I would rather people who judge my job excuse themselves from my life than have to put up with their judgement, or, worse yet, a pressure to change. It all works out. Your right I did reject you because of your job. But you would reject me too. Are you telling me you would go out with a courier driver. You would do the exact same thing those other women did. And plus if you mentioned to me you were a lawyer I would be a bit intimidated. Instantly I know you make lots of money, work lots of hours and I'm just not in the same league. And I have a problem with the woman being the breadwinner. I would still go out with someone that makes more but not significantly more.
soccerrprp Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Your right I did reject you because of your job. But you would reject me too. Are you telling me you would go out with a courier driver. You would do the exact same thing those other women did. And plus if you mentioned to me you were a lawyer I would be a bit intimidated. Instantly I know you make lots of money, work lots of hours and I'm just not in the same league. And I have a problem with the woman being the breadwinner. I would still go out with someone that makes more but not significantly more. Geiss, You need to work on confidence and self-worth. I'm nowhere near a doctor or lawyer, but I've dated a few and they are no more scary then other women I've dated. You don't think you're worth it? And, oh, the bread winner thing....the lady making much more than you...yup, insecurities and lack of confidence. Heck, i'm hoping I can find a lawyer or doctor so I can stay home! LOL! At least you're honest. 1
NeoGen85 Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Haha. The only time I have insecurities about dating women who are doctors, lawyers, engineers(hell, I'm one), etc...in general I never really have anything in common with them. I tell you right now..if my woman made a lot of money and said I could stay home......shoot!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol 1
soccerrprp Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Haha. The only time I have insecurities about dating women who are doctors, lawyers, engineers(hell, I'm one), etc...in general I never really have anything in common with them. I tell you right now..if my woman made a lot of money and said I could stay home......shoot!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol NeoGen, Need to be careful here. When I say stay home, i mean with the kids, right? Not just lounge around... LOL! 1
Kamille Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Your right I did reject you because of your job. But you would reject me too. Are you telling me you would go out with a courier driver. You would do the exact same thing those other women did. And plus if you mentioned to me you were a lawyer I would be a bit intimidated. Instantly I know you make lots of money, work lots of hours and I'm just not in the same league. And I have a problem with the woman being the breadwinner. I would still go out with someone that makes more but not significantly more. I'd date you if I liked you. I date men who I find intriguing. One of my most significant relationship was with a construction worker. The one thing I care about is chemistry. And respect.
PhoenixRysing Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I have been rejected several times because of my job. I am a woman in a relatively high power role in technology...I used to answer honestly about what I did for a living and men ran from me quickly. I started saying. "I'm in IT" and I got a few dates...then they found out what I really do in IT and ran from me quickly. I am back to telling the whole truth again - and alone most Friday nights.
soccerrprp Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I have been rejected several times because of my job. I am a woman in a relatively high power role in technology...I used to answer honestly about what I did for a living and men ran from me quickly. I started saying. "I'm in IT" and I got a few dates...then they found out what I really do in IT and ran from me quickly. I am back to telling the whole truth again - and alone most Friday nights. CFO? CEO? COO? I just don't understand men and their fear of the successful woman! Unless, of course, these guys have been spit on by high powered women....I don't get that you're "that" kind of woman. Do you have any friends in my area?
PhoenixRysing Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Really? What do you do? Military drone operator? IRS tax form auditor? I can't imagine rejecting a woman based on her success. People are strange. CFO? CEO? COO? I just don't understand men and their fear of the successful woman! Unless, of course, these guys have been spit on by high powered women....I don't get that you're "that" kind of woman. Do you have any friends in my area? I thought I mentioned...I am in IT. I am very laid back, and I don't tend to spit on anyone or anything for that matter - though occasionally I do trip over people, more due to my general gracelessness than any indication of their worth in my eyes. I am not a CTO at my company, though my role is large enough to qualify as such at a smaller organization. In addition, I am well respected in my field and am on several advisory boards for large software houses. Between that and my general upbringing (very poor roots) I am quite capable of handling just about everything life throws at me. I am privileged in the experiences I get to have due to my career and that more than anything tends to throw men off. They often are unclear what they add to my life and are unsettled by the idea of a woman just wanting them as a person rather than needing them as a man. Just my experience. I can't say that is 100% fact, but it is what I have been told in explanation from the men who run...as they look back over their shoulders.
Badsingularity Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I'm glad I didn't reject my wife when we first met do to her not having a job becuase she now makes more than me. A job title does not give a person more or less value as a person.
StanMusial Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 It's pretty shabby to reject someone over their job title. But obviously in some venues it is to be expected. Had one of the girls met you under different circumstances there may have been a different outcome.
Badsingularity Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I disagree, if someone is over 35 and working at a fast food place then they maybe not be seen as dating material. If I could provide for myself I wouldn't care. Whether I would date them or not would depend on attraction, what type of person they are, if I liked who they were as a person, intelligence level, and their REASON for working where they are. I would find out their story before dismissing them simply because of their job. I look into things and people a little deeper than the surface BS that most people look at.
soccerrprp Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Man, this and a few other threads remind me of this article: How to stop dating the wrong person Reason #5 seems most relevant for this thread.
PhoenixRysing Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Man, this and a few other threads remind me of this article: How to stop dating the wrong person Reason #5 seems most relevant for this thread. I'm pretty sure that most of us need to read the entire article for a lot of reasons - and listen to it. It could be posted in answer to half the threads in the dating section.
soccerrprp Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'm pretty sure that most of us need to read the entire article for a lot of reasons - and listen to it. It could be posted in answer to half the threads in the dating section. AMEN to that! I saw a bit of me in them. :/
MissJoness Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 You have to date someone on your level job wise. Why would a guy with a career job in his mid 30's date a woman who is also in her 30's working at subway? I thought it didn't matter what a woman did for a living as long as she was good looking
ScreamingTrees Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 So I take it you are a lawyer or doctor. Does that mean you'll date a garbage man? I bet not. I know a guy who is one, and he's always had a hot younger (relatively) younger girl in his life.. They actually make damn good money, too, he can break 100k annually.. I don't think it really matters though unless they're gold diggers or are brain damaged.
Amelie1980 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 I'm a lawyer....I don't bite. I'm a lot less sure of myself then most I can tell you.
Krieger Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 You have to date someone on your level job wise. Why would a guy with a career job in his mid 30's date a woman who is also in her 30's working at subway? I have to 2nd that and when i get my Bachelor degree I want a woman to at least have a job that requires a degree of some kind. At least do something she passionate about and not working a dead end job she be stuck at.
dasein Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Please consider not answering the question "what do you do?" in a straightforward way in bars. Have fun with it. Be an ant farmer, a juggler, an orienteer, a mezzo-soprano, whatever, just take the opportunity to have some fun and flirt. It's possible you looked like a guilty wet dog when you said "courier." It's possible their walking off had nothing to do with your job title. The good news is that women walked up to you, that's a headstart. Good luck. 1
NeoGen85 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 I live in DC where people are obsessed with their careers. People here can be judgmental about jobs so both men and women do it. I use to work out of DC. I guess we would have roamed in different social circles but I know what kind of people you're talking about in the Diamond District. My favorite artist Oddisee from DC would say: So I was chilling at a get-together. Shorty asked what I did for a living and by the responsive given she assumed that she's living better. If only I gave a @#$% about opinions I probably would be offended but my skin is about as thick as leather. mutual friends but we ain't meeting the same folks. Because if your idea of fun is the island and the cruise ship. Well, let me tell you we ain't in the same boat.
NeoGen85 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 NeoGen, Need to be careful here. When I say stay home, i mean with the kids, right? Not just lounge around... LOL! When you would get home from work that bubble bath would be waiting on you! Besides I use to be a concept artist and graphic designer before I jumped into Aerospace so I'd work at home to bring in some extra income. I'm versatile!
TheBladeRunner Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 What I do for a living is complicated and before I really get into it with a potential victim.....I mean date, I tell them I am a men's room attendant at a well known strip club here in town. They usually get a kick out of it.
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