Elpida Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Hello! I need your advice please... I met this guy on the Internet, and we got on really well – after few days of emails exchange we decided to meet in person. It went great, and it appeared he was very much into me – arranging further dates by the end of the current ones, watching movies I liked, being interested in me etc. He was also attracted to my physically but not pushing for anything I was not ready for. After 3 dates I invited him to my place for a fist time and he was very enthusiastic about it. Then, same day, he suddenly stopped texting. I waited for 3 days and asked how he was. Reply arrived straight away, that he was not that great, that his mum was in the hospital, and that he had to cancel our 4 date. OK, he mentioned his mum was sick before so I believed his excuse. 3 days passed since then and nothing, not a single message. He also stopped going to the dating site on the Internet. I am so confused... Should I text him again and ask how his mum is, and if he wants to see each other again? Or wait till he is ready to contact me – if at all? He seemed to be so much into me, and we have not even got intimate – and now he is gone... Thank you for your help!
Leigh 87 Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 He is either dealing with his mothers health issue, and is too swept up in that to deal with a women he has only just met, or he is using it a sick excuse to not see you. The best thing to do would be to send him once last message saying " I hope your mum is okay. Let me know if you want to hang out or talk again. If you don't it's cool and I wish you well" If he does not answer DO NOT RESPOND; he does not want to interact with you. 3
FitChick Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 If he were still on the dating site, I'd say forget about him but since he deleted his profile, I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt. If his mother is truly ill, you don't want to create more stress and pressure for him. Send one last text, "Please let me know if there is anything I can do to help. Wishing your mum a speedy recovery." Then let it go. 1
Author Elpida Posted April 3, 2013 Author Posted April 3, 2013 Thank you!!! I followed your advice. On Monday I texted him asking how his mum was. I received reply 24hours later. Mum is the same and he is sick as well. He asked how I was. He did not ask me out though. I replied I hoped they both got better soon and that I was ok. I wanted to invite him to my party but guess better if I leave him alone. I think I showed enough interest and concern. I just wish I could change my mind about someone as quickly as he did...
Gucci Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 Thank you!!! I followed your advice. On Monday I texted him asking how his mum was. I received reply 24hours later. Mum is the same and he is sick as well. He asked how I was. He did not ask me out though. I replied I hoped they both got better soon and that I was ok. I wanted to invite him to my party but guess better if I leave him alone. I think I showed enough interest and concern. I just wish I could change my mind about someone as quickly as he did... Hi Elpida I have a similar situation like you, I met a guy online and met up in person for twice. He seems pretty into me, buys dinner, open doors and car doors. Texting constantly throughout a day and the last meet up, because he had to go to work and can only meet up for a quick lunch (we did lunch) and after work he wants to meet again. I said I can't cuz I was already in bed going to sleep. And bang the second days he just doesn't msg me and when I msg him he reply slow and very little. And for the following days, he would sometimes msg me but still reply really slow or little. Just feel like he doesn't want to continue the convo. He seem like a really genuine guy. I really like him. I really hope what The Fudge's post is true in his case, that he will come back after he figure his **** out. Do you have any update on your story? It would be great if I can find out what he is thinking
Noproblem Posted April 11, 2013 Posted April 11, 2013 When you deal with mother illness The rest of the world, doesn't matter anymore Be a good girl and call him asking about his mom, he needs support!
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