mrbiggs57 Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 my girlfriend and i are freshmen in college. she is at a college about 3 hrs away from me. we have been together for almost a year. we are very much in love, but i broke up with her a couple of nights ago because before we left to go to college, she had promised me that she wouldn't drink alcohol and we always, no matter what it is, keep our promises. it's not that i don't trust her. i know she would never cheat on me, i just don't rest well knowing that she is out with god knows who drinking. well a few nights ago i was talking to her on the phone and she told me she wasn't going to drink, and i asked her to promise me and she wouldn't do it. i told her that i can't be with her if i know she is doing that and she is so far away from me. so i broke up with her that night, not harshly, i just told her i couldn't be with her. i know she loves me still, and i love her .. but i don't sleep well at night when i think about her drinking and i'm not with her. but i still love her more than life and i can't stop thinking about her. i want to still be with her so bad, but i know she will never call me .. i'm gonna have to call her. i just don't know if i should do it. if she doesn't love me enough to do one thing that i ask, then should i really be with her? i know that if she asked me to do anything i would do it. could someone just help me out with this a little bit. thank you.
Honesty Posted September 12, 2004 Posted September 12, 2004 Did she drink when you got with her? If so then you cannot expect to change something of her from one day to another. Give her time, if anything you should not be trying to change her. It's understandable that you worry for her but I'm sure she's a big girl and can decide what's good for her and what's not! Let it be her decision to stop drinking.
Author mrbiggs57 Posted September 16, 2004 Author Posted September 16, 2004 no she never did drink in the past .. i think that is what is so hard for me to grip about it because that is one of the main reasons i got with her.
ozziegirl Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 Please lighten up. You're going to smother this girl. When I was away in college, my boyfriend (now husband of 13 years) asked me no questions. He gave me free reign, and I loved him so much for being such a strong, confident man, that I couldn't bring myself to cheat on him. She has to love you for who you are. If she does, it will be that love, and not your rules, that keep her true.
AsGoodAsItGets01 Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 mr. biggs, it's college....your girlfriend or ex girlfriend WILL do things you won't approve of. believe me! i have been through everything. seeing her drunk and worrying about her....etc. i was with my girl for 3 1/2 years and we took a break last semester. we hooked up about five times over the summer. now shes dating another guy at her college. its rough. but i am hanging in there. girls this age just don't know what they want. the sucky thing is they have to find out things for themself. if is meant to be then it will. but you need to think about how your going to handle your whole situation.....
Honesty Posted September 16, 2004 Posted September 16, 2004 If she did not drink before you left, why did you make her promise you that she will not drink?
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