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Ladies, here are simple truths (if you want a decent man)

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If a man wants you, nothing will keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing will make him stay.

 

It’s better when he pursues YOU, not the other way around. If you are doing most of the calling and texting, you are a fool.

 

Talk is cheap. So is texting. Phone calls and text messages are not dates. If he's constantly texting he needs to get a life; too much time on his hands. Don't answer every text.

 

If he’s not calling you and taking you out in public, it’s not going to amount to anything. You are most likely a booty call.

 

Don’t ever give a man a gift unless he has given you several very nice gifts.

 

Don’t ever lend or give a man money. Never.

 

If his credit is so bad he can’t get his own car, cell phone, place to live tell him goodbye.

 

Don't let him move in - get a place together AFTER you have a committed relationship.

 

If you are going thru his phone checking up on who he is talking to/texting, something is wrong. You are insecure, suspicious, and if he is going to cheat he will find a way to do it and not get caught. Stop calling other women – it’s not their fault that he is chasing THEM.

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If a man wants you, nothing will keep him away.

If he doesn’t want you, nothing will make him stay.

 

It’s better when he pursues YOU, not the other way around. If you are doing most of the calling and texting, you are a fool.

 

Talk is cheap. So is texting. Phone calls and text messages are not dates. If he's constantly texting he needs to get a life; too much time on his hands. Don't answer every text.

 

If he’s not calling you and taking you out in public, it’s not going to amount to anything. You are most likely a booty call.

 

Don’t ever give a man a gift unless he has given you several very nice gifts.

 

Don’t ever lend or give a man money. Never.

 

If his credit is so bad he can’t get his own car, cell phone, place to live tell him goodbye.

 

Don't let him move in - get a place together AFTER you have a committed relationship.

 

If you are going thru his phone checking up on who he is talking to/texting, something is wrong. You are insecure, suspicious, and if he is going to cheat he will find a way to do it and not get caught. Stop calling other women – it’s not their fault that he is chasing THEM.

 

I think I just read this in Marie Clare. Good advice, nonetheless.

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applej4 Established Member

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No, actually I wrote it myself. (I don't need to read Marie Claire).

It's based on lots of yers of experience and observation. And common sense.

 

So many woman do the opposite, then wonder what went wrong. :rolleyes:

 

DUH

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No, actually I wrote it myself. (I don't need to read Marie Claire).

It's based on lots of yers of experience and observation. And common sense.

 

So many woman do the opposite, then wonder what went wrong. :rolleyes:

 

DUH

 

Sorry, didn't mean to be offensive and wasn't calling you out. Good on you for writing this. Just saying, I'd read something similar. And like I said, it's good advice. No need for sarcasm.

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I tuned out after "simple truths".

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While I don't necessarily agree with everything I agree with the general premise, prioritize yourself, set standards and adhere to them.

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applej4 Established Member

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I tuned out after "simple truths".

 

Apparently not. What are you doing here; why bother to reply? You read every word, and the truth hurts.:p

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I'm curious to know if this was written by a man or a woman.

 

I am female.

 

Also, I notice most of the cases on court shows are women suing men for loans, rent, etc. AFTER thy find out he's cheating. Very few plaintiffs in these cases are men.

 

Women who give men money and let men live off them are desperate and pathetic.

 

Sorry if that goes against what you believe is the way to a man's heart.

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I am female.

 

Also, I notice most of the cases on court shows are women suing men for loans, rent, etc. AFTER thy find out he's cheating. Very few plaintiffs in these cases are men.

 

Women who give men money and let men live off them are desperate and pathetic.

 

Sorry if that goes against what you believe is the way to a man's heart.

 

Where did she say any of that nonsense? She simply wondered if this was written by a man or a woman. Defensive much? :laugh:

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Where did she say any of that nonsense? She simply wondered if this was written by a man or a woman. Defensive much? :laugh:

 

Do you feel better? :laugh::p

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applej4 Established Member

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Read, study, learn.

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It’s better when he pursues YOU, not the other way around. If you are doing most of the calling and texting, you are a fool.

 

 

 

Don’t ever give a man a gift unless he has given you several very nice gifts.

 

 

 

I agree with some of the others, but not with these two.

 

My now wife always did most of the calling and texting when we where dating and still does.

 

It is simply because she talks more that I do. She is not a fool.

 

 

The second one is just game playing and ridiculous.

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I agree with some of the others, but not with these two.

 

My now wife always did most of the calling and texting when we where dating and still does.

 

It is simply because she talks more that I do. She is not a fool.

 

 

The second one is just game playing and ridiculous.

 

So she chased you and caught you. Good for her!:p

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Nope. I have been perfectly capable of finding my way to the heart of anyone that I felt the need to.

 

I was just curious as I've seen lots of women (particularly ones that write articles about what men want) that say they know, and then when you ask guys if they agree, they read it, laugh and say "that's not even partially true" so I was curious.

I wasn't discounting your information, as it lines up a lot with some of my own thought processes.

I don't think you can count "court cases" on trash tv as a reputable reference guide though.

 

I'd be interested in seeing if men feel it's valid information.

 

Yeah, if the guys say it's not true, well, they MUST be telling the truth. :laugh: Perfectly capable, eh? :rolleyes:

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Yeah, if the guys say it's not true, well, they MUST be telling the truth. :laugh: Perfectly capable, eh? :rolleyes:

 

So your truth is the be all end all of male/female relationships. Yea, got it.

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I'm willing to bet that if I said that I have "no response" concerning whether or not the info the OP posted is correct, she would say that I'm lying.

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So you, as a female, with a female mind, know better what men are thinking than they do?

 

I'm sorry, I wasn't actually being disagreeable before, but um..

your logic is... incredibly faulty.

 

I didn't say that i KNOW what men are thinking. I dared to imply they might not always tell the truth

 

Logic??!!.......you're not one to talk about logic. Hey, believe what/who you want. Whatever curdles your cream.:rolleyes:

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I am female.

 

Also, I notice most of the cases on court shows are women suing men for loans, rent, etc. AFTER thy find out he's cheating. Very few plaintiffs in these cases are men.

 

Women who give men money and let men live off them are DESPERATE AND PATHETIC

 

Sorry if that goes against what you believe is the way to a man's heart.

 

 

years of experience seems to have made you very cynical and judgmental .....note your desperate and pathetic cooment.......you cal women fools in your post.........yet you are a woman......

 

if a guy i knew asked me for a loan i would give it whether it was viewed as pathetic or not i would make my own judgment based on the circumstance i was in and whether i had the money to give.....most of your advice was sound albeit hard line........dont knock others coming to look for advice or for having difficulties we all have them.... seeing you are a member of this site too....not everybody is as .....enlightened as you....cheers.....deb

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What the heck with all the money stuff. I'm a dirt poor 22 year old and I date men my age who are also just make ends meet. A car!? As if.

 

Why the eff would I refrain from giving a man a gift in order to make him like me more? I work in a used book store and often buy cheap used books for dates, I'm talking like 3 dollars. No one has ever seemed turned off

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I wonder how I managed to have those relationships and to be married to a man who is even more than decent without abiding by these "simple truths."

 

Ah. The mysteries of life.

 

So how's it all working out for you, OP?

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You called what you wrote simple truths.

There's no reason for anyone to be lying on an anonymous message board, so if men say your theories are ridiculous then I'd be inclined to believe it.

 

You can't possibly know what a man wants because you don't live in a man's mind, so how can you, at the ripe old age of 22, claim that YOU know what a man wants?

 

I fail to see how my logic is the one that doesn't hold up here.

 

Where on earth did you get the idea I am 22??!!:confused: I am more than twice that. Do you have a conprehension problem? Seems like you do. A serious one.

 

And what do you care what I know or don't know? Am I so powerful as to impact your little life?You clicked on the thread, no one held a gun to your head. Go. Live your wonderful self-assured life. And don't forget to check to count your "likes". Bet that makes you all warm and gooey. Nothing 8th grade about that. :laugh::laugh:

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I wonder how I managed to have those relationships and to be married to a man who is even more than decent without abiding by these "simple truths."

 

Ah. The mysteries of life.

 

So how's it all working out for you, OP?

 

Yes, mystery indeed. How much did you spend buying love last month? Never mind. Go. That wonderful husband is waiting.:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

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What the heck with all the money stuff. I'm a dirt poor 22 year old and I date men my age who are also just make ends meet. A car!? As if.

 

Why the eff would I refrain from giving a man a gift in order to make him like me more? I work in a used book store and often buy cheap used books for dates, I'm talking like 3 dollars. No one has ever seemed turned off

Uh. Okey dokey. You sound like you've got it all!!! :lmao:

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Yes, mystery indeed. How much did you spend buying love last month? Never mind. Go. That wonderful husband is waiting.:laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh::laugh:

 

The creation of this fine thread really wasn't worth crawling out from under the bridge for … just saying.

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