BarbecueMan666 Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Hey there! Been a while since I posted a thread, and I have been better, quite a lot better - I still think about the ex regularly, given it was a deep relationship, but I'm definitely coping way better. Anyways, just wanted some opinions by mainly women, or people who have been through the same experience. So a couple of weeks ago, I went and saw a girl, whom tagged me on facebook, not yet photos of me, just that she was hanging out with me. The next day I got a message from the ex saying she's really looking forward to being friends with me, and that she saw a tweet of mine (That I wrote a week prior btw) - and it made her laugh, she hopes I'm doing well. I didn't reply. Anyhow, about a week later I got home to my house with housemates, and I told a roommate what happened, and he was like "Ah yeah, she texted me saying how am I doing, and why did I remove her from FB." - etc. So, a few weeks pass by, I've been alright, some days are a little tougher than others but in general doing way better, and she favourites a VERY old tweet of mine, maybe almost a year old which was a picture of her with a dog - (I think you'd really have to go through my picture tweets to find it) - And simultaneously messages one of my friends "Hey I really miss you! I saw this mini-documentary on you and want to catch up on skype!" - He's currently living with me. So, a female perspective on a woman would be great. I'm not sure what she wants, or what she's doing - and I'm not going to put myself through asking her obviously, but it's confusing me a tad I must say.
whichwayisup Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 I don't know your back story or how long you and your ex have been apart, but I can tell you, whatever is going on with her hasn't worked out and she's slowly trying to worm her way back into your life ... Could be casual friendship, could be because she thinks you've moved on and aren't pining after her anymore (yes some people actually like it when their ex's feel that way and get an ego feed out of it) and she's 'aware' that you have a female friend, she's JEALOUS on some level and wants to claim you and your friends as 'hers'.. it's really f,ked up, I've seen this happen to my friend a long time ago. I say, delete her off your twitter and make your twitter private so only those on your list can see what you tweet about. Delete her off of facebook and block her as well, this way she will not see anything about you on someone else's page. She's an ex for a reason and her saying ' I got a message from the ex saying she's really looking forward to being friends' is such crap! Glad you ignored her. Keep on ignoring her or do send her one email if she keeps on pestering you- I do not want friendship from you, please leave me alone. And my friends too. they are MY friends, not yours, we broke up and I've moved on. Take care. Or something along those lines. 1
TaraMaiden Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 You're a teacher, right? And there's this irritating little schytt who's been making your days a misery. So, you relegate him to the back of the class, and give him different work to do. That's fine, you can now focus on 'teaching' the rest of the class, and get on with your job.... Only.... .. irritating little schytt refuses to get on with the task you've set him, and keeps interrupting, putting his hand up, trying to be noticed.... "Ooooh please sir, me, me!! I know! I know sir, pleeeeeze, oh sir, please! I know.....!!!" And no matter how hard you try to ignore him, he keeps popping into your peripheral vision, and is now affecting the other pupils.... Send him out of the room. Make him sit in the corridor until YOU are ready for him to come back in. I don't need to explain the analogy, here, do I?
The edge Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 Dunno your story, but I can say that she's messing the hell around! Argh! I hate that kind of people, man or woman! Drama kings/queens!!!
Author BarbecueMan666 Posted April 1, 2013 Author Posted April 1, 2013 Hehe, thank you for the input Little back story - Was together with this girl for 1.5 years - Paid for everything for her, she went to study at USC - within a few months of Long distance she paid little attention to me, very infrequent with messages - said she was constantly busy - But I'd see fb pictures of her at parties etc. Got to the breakup phase - she said she didn't see things working, I agreed - this was 3 months ago. Honestly I think I got away pretty lightly - She wanted more money spent on her - and said I was too frugal, I thought she was too self-centered. Hmm, so nice analogy there Tara, brief update, she also messaged me today - (I play video games professionally for context) "Hope xxx Is going well!" And that was it. Now, all of what you guys have said makes sense - This girl was driven by attention and acceptance by people - While I've analyzed the **** out of the scenario, it just seems odd to me.
cdt76 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Sorry brother. Some people only see a good thing once they no longer have it available to them. My guess is she needs money or wants to go shopping so she is checking in with the bank to see if it's open! 1
Bando89 Posted April 1, 2013 Posted April 1, 2013 Hehe, thank you for the input Little back story - Was together with this girl for 1.5 years - Paid for everything for her, she went to study at USC - within a few months of Long distance she paid little attention to me, very infrequent with messages - said she was constantly busy - But I'd see fb pictures of her at parties etc. Got to the breakup phase - she said she didn't see things working, I agreed - this was 3 months ago. Honestly I think I got away pretty lightly - She wanted more money spent on her - and said I was too frugal, I thought she was too self-centered. Hmm, so nice analogy there Tara, brief update, she also messaged me today - (I play video games professionally for context) "Hope xxx Is going well!" And that was it. Now, all of what you guys have said makes sense - This girl was driven by attention and acceptance by people - While I've analyzed the **** out of the scenario, it just seems odd to me. Oh my God...your picture gave me suspects, but now that you say that you play video games professionally...are you Demuslim??
Sugarkane Posted April 2, 2013 Posted April 2, 2013 Tell your ex they should get their own friends? Why haven't they delete her? The first thing is people take sides no matter what. No one cared about me when everyone took my cheating exes side.
SJ777 Posted April 3, 2013 Posted April 3, 2013 She's trying to worm her way back into your life, I would delete or block her from all social media and ignore her texts, emails. You said you have been feeling better, you don't want to let her disrupt your healing.
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