Obsession to cold shoulder in 60 seconds

[Annony Mouse]

A girl was way into me for a month. Our relationship progressively built every time we saw eachother and it was awesome. She flirted with me, I flirted back, the sexual tension was completely mutual. I left for a week. When I got home, I called her and left a message. No response. Nothing for a few days, called her again, nothing. She used to be online all the time, now she isn't (I'm obviously blocked).

 

I know this is a classic female move, but what the "mmmkay" is going on?

 

I have a few theories:

1. She found another guy. However, wouldn't she pull a sort of "juggling act" between us in instead of this sudden halt? Girls love having options. Plus, we were never really dating. She could have kept me as a friend and gotten the best of both worlds in this case. Seems unlikely.

2. She could be testing me in some sort of way.

3. She could be afraid. Straight forward fear of the unknown.

4. She flat out lost interest. However, if she lost interest, she wouldn't bother bringing me up to her friends, which they tell me she does. Can girls really lose interest in a guy while he's away for a week?

 

I did this sort of thing to a girl once that I really, really liked. I forgot what motivated me. I think it was because I thought it would make her like me all that much more when I started talking to her again. Guys do weird things like this to girls, often for no reason. We get a certain pleasure from the power it gives us. Do you girls do it to guys? Could she have up and decided to ignore me for no reason what-so-ever?

 

This been said, what should I do?

1. Keep persisting. She could be ignoring me to force some sort of "I miss you so much!" effect. If that's the case, giving her what she wants is the ticket.

2. Ignore her. I don't know if a month is enough time to develop a strong enough bond for this to work.

3. Go out of my way to make her feel like she made a mistake. Her friend likes me a lot

4. Hang tough for x number of days and try again.

 

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[jnglebuty]

My suggestion is to move on. This guy pulled the same crap on me this weekend and it really pissed me OFF!!

 

For the past few weeks, we've been online and he was SO into me, then we exchanged numbers and he was SO into me, then he hangs up while HE was in the middle of a sentence (old trick). I waited for a few minutes to see if he would call back to finish his sentence and say good-bye properly. Then I called him and left a message asking what happened to his phone. It's two days later and he still has not called back. What a freaking JERK!!

 

I don't think it's cute when men or women do this to people. It's just wrong to play with people's emotions...JUST to see how they'll react. That's some sick, twisted mess and I don't have time for games like that. So no matter how wonderful that guy sounded before, he lost ALL points with me this weekend. I hope you can find the inner strength to move on, too.

[snilljente]

I had the same experience, except we dated for 2 months...practically lived together...he called/messaged me all the time when he wasn't with me...and the BAM...he's with someone else....there's no figuring these types of people out..I think they are confused themselves?!

[fundamental]

Well, it is not really clear that she is dissing you. I lost contact with someone close to me for a couple weeks to find out that they were in the hospital with a serious injury. Maybe something is wrong and there is no possible way she can respond.

 

However, she could also be playing games with you...maybe not. The only way you are going to find out is if she calls you. It's going to be difficult to try and figure out what is going on. The only thing you can do is move on. If she calls you, then you can decide how you want to handle the situation. I am pretty sure she has received your message, so don't call again. The more you call, the more control you will lose....and you are going to feel down.

 

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