hopelessromantic321 Posted March 30, 2013 Posted March 30, 2013 I am reaching out for advice on how to cope with the end of a relationship. The story of me and the man I was dating we came from two different social groups but we found chemistry with each other. We live about 350 miles away and we saw each other about every other weekend. We dated for about 5 months and talked every single day doing long distance when this last month some hardships came about: my family member passing with the long distance not helping as well. The ex knew that his company was going under and finally had a layoff which included him this week. He signed the papers and broke up with me the same day. He said that it was not job related and he could find a job anywhere and that he just needs to choose one. He said that his choice to not be with me was independent of any other external decision. He also said even though we talked every single day he just believed that it just prolonged what he discovered from a night of thinking about our relationship. Although I know this is one of those stories of he is just not that into you I was completely blindsided since everything was flowing and he told me that he didn't like certain parts of my personality and no longer saw me as the "one" and as a significant other. I know my self worth and I know that i will find this love again but it just hurts to put in so much effort to someone that did not ultimately feel the same. I have friends and family to lean on and they just want me to move on. In my own life things are happening for me. The career is starting to move along and I found a job in his area. I secured the 3rd interview the same day he broke up with me. I know that I should move on since what he said was absolute. I know it is wrong of me to want him back because of all of the absolute things that he has said. I'm just sad and confused now. Help and I would appreciate any advice.
january2011 Posted March 31, 2013 Posted March 31, 2013 You're right, he said some very definite things about why he broke up with you. Things that he cannot take back. It does not necessarily mean that anything is wrong with you, it just means that you were both not a good fit for each other. I know it is tough, but you will get through this. You just need to pour the extra emotional energy you now have into other people and activities. Focus on getting the new job, if it is better than the one you have at the moment. Otherwise, withdraw if the only reason you were going to take it is to be close to him.
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